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To be mad at DH over his stupid fucking car

258 replies

Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 06:50

Years ago DH bought a ridiculously expensive (and loud) car with a huge roaring engine. The sound this stupid thing makes when he starts it up is embarrassing.

I am absolutely ready to take a baseball bat to it. We have a young child (13 months) and I do 99% of the overnights as DH works a lot.

He sleeps better than he used to as a newborn obviously but he's been ill the past couple of weeks and has been up and down, often waking at about 3 and then going back to sleep, or trying at least.

But then 6:30am comes and this stupid fucking beast on our driveway starts up and wakes him up and I've just had enough of it. I'm so mad about this ridiculous fucking car.

DH doesn't know what I expect him to do and I don't really know either, all I know is it pisses me off and I'm mad at him about it. Get the fucking bus or something, I don't care just don't wake DC (and me after being up and down all night) with your stupid fucking toy.

Honestly I often wish I'd wake up in the morning to someone having stolen it in the night.

OP posts:
BadNomad · 08/08/2022 13:01

Rehome the baby. The car was there first.

SirChenjins · 08/08/2022 13:14

MyOtherNameIsMyName · 08/08/2022 11:15

Time to get your ducks in a row to LTB.

One duck should be you keeping the bastard car as part of the divorce settlement.

That'll learn him 😅

Love it!

Even better, get it as part of the divorce settlement and then sell it for scrap.

Travis1 · 08/08/2022 13:30

Fucksake the reaching in here to justify this Manchild is unbelievable

SirChenjins · 08/08/2022 13:33

But....but...he's a petrolhead Manchild @Travis1 - he's very spesh therefore, and can't possibly be expected to show any level of consideration for his partner and baby.

CounsellorTroi · 08/08/2022 13:48

Was woken by a couple of boy racers in our road in the early hours of this morning. Horribly loud engines and squealing brakes. It’s a long, wide, straight suburban road with a 20mph speed limit as are most of my city’s residential streets.

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 14:07

CounsellorTroi · 08/08/2022 13:48

Was woken by a couple of boy racers in our road in the early hours of this morning. Horribly loud engines and squealing brakes. It’s a long, wide, straight suburban road with a 20mph speed limit as are most of my city’s residential streets.

And....

LuaDipa · 08/08/2022 14:12

Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 07:57

I can assure you it is.

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Our old ndn used to have one of these and I hated the racket when he used to leave for work at 5am. I genuinely thought he was deliberately revving the thing. I didn’t realise it just made that noise when you switch on the engine. I never said anything as he was a decent neighbour otherwise but I used to hate being woken by it every single morning.

Fast forward a few years dh has his own noisy bastard cars, and I have a bit more understanding of mid-life crisis’ . Thankfully these days I wake up at the crack of dawn anyway, the kids are teenagers and sleep through anything and most importantly the neighbours are far away enough to not have to deal with it or I’d be making him get rid of the bloody thing. Yanbu.

LakieLady · 08/08/2022 14:16

YANBU.

And I pity your neighbours, who are probably also being woken at 6.30 by this racket.

My next-door-but-one neighbour drives a big diesel 4x4 thing which is pretty noisy, and that wakes me and the NDN up every morning between 6 & 6.30. I get really pissed off about it, but it's his only car, he needs something that can get up rutted tracks because he works on a farm and he's not got a lot of money, so I suck it up.

If he was waking me up starting a fecking boy's toy supercar at sparrowsfart, when he could clearly afford a quiet little runaround, I would be really pissed off.

I think it's anti-social in the extreme.

MzHz · 08/08/2022 14:25

RedHelenB · 08/08/2022 06:56

Surely you're used to the house by now. I think yabu, presumably he's off earning the money at 6 30 rather than enjoying leisure tine.

Earning THE money…

odfod with your vile misogyny

MzHz · 08/08/2022 14:27

It yes @Shutuppppp your husband is a twat For having a car like that. He needs to either sell it or park it a long way away from the house and neighbours

Madamecastafiore · 08/08/2022 14:38

Expanding foam in the exhausts apparently quietens it down quit considerably 👍

NoMichaelNo · 08/08/2022 15:13

I must remember to tell my husband that he's not allowed to have fun because he's a father.

Shade17 · 08/08/2022 15:37

Is it the V8 or the V10? If it’s the former I suggest he upgrades to the V10, it sounds even better!

SavoirFlair · 08/08/2022 15:53

NoMichaelNo · 08/08/2022 15:13

I must remember to tell my husband that he's not allowed to have fun because he's a father.

You can have fun as a father and respect the needs of your child

they don’t have to be mutually exclusive

balalake · 08/08/2022 16:13

@LakieLady someone with a 4x4 who actually has a good reason for one? That is very rare.

I would have 4x4s and the kind of car the OP describes have to be under a separate category of driving licence, and a second driving test be required before you can have one. Numbers of such cars would reduce greatly I think were that the case.

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 16:19

balalake · 08/08/2022 16:13

@LakieLady someone with a 4x4 who actually has a good reason for one? That is very rare.

I would have 4x4s and the kind of car the OP describes have to be under a separate category of driving licence, and a second driving test be required before you can have one. Numbers of such cars would reduce greatly I think were that the case.

Why?

You sound intolerant of things you dont wont.

You dont like it so no one else should D.C

lancsgirl85 · 08/08/2022 16:29

Fuck me that sounds annoying as hell, OP. I'd be making him park it further down the street too. I'd be fuming if my baby was constantly being woken by that. 🤬

uncomfortablydumb53 · 08/08/2022 16:53

Would he get a muffler fitted?
Which way is he parking it?
I'd record the noise to play back to him, so he takes notice of your extremely justified point
I suppose it's possible that he doesn't realise exactly how loud it is, but the very fact that he's waking DS which you have to deal with should make him change
YADNBU

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 17:01

Would he get a muffler fitted?

modifications would have to be declared on the insurance. Other wise it could invalidate it. I know how mn users are sticklers for staying legal

Unless it's been modified already then it should be at legal noise levels

Fatballs · 08/08/2022 17:07

it's a sports car with some massive V something or other engine,

My husband has one of those. He swapped the noisy exhaust for a quieter one.

etulosba · 08/08/2022 17:14

I would have 4x4s and the kind of car the OP describes have to be under a separate category of driving licence, and a second driving test be required before you can have one.

What sort of things would you test that aren’t covered in the standard drivings test?

etulosba · 08/08/2022 17:15

Driving test. Not drivings.

LakieLady · 08/08/2022 17:23

balalake · 08/08/2022 16:13

@LakieLady someone with a 4x4 who actually has a good reason for one? That is very rare.

I would have 4x4s and the kind of car the OP describes have to be under a separate category of driving licence, and a second driving test be required before you can have one. Numbers of such cars would reduce greatly I think were that the case.

Not that rare where I live @balalake , I'm on the edge of a small town surrounded by countryside, so know a fair few people who live in farm cottages up potholed, rutted tracks.

Mind you, some of the roads round here aren't much better. There's a road I drive on regularly that has a couple of potholes big enough to bath a small child in.

hamdden12 · 08/08/2022 17:31

I've got a car with a V8 engine and on mine you can knock it into different modes so it doesn't sound so growly. Having said that I like the noise it makes but I'd be more mindful early in the morning, I knock it into eco mode when I park so it's quieter in the morning usually.

Glittertwins · 08/08/2022 17:33

etulosba · 08/08/2022 17:14

I would have 4x4s and the kind of car the OP describes have to be under a separate category of driving licence, and a second driving test be required before you can have one.

What sort of things would you test that aren’t covered in the standard drivings test?

Maybe a test for petty jealousies for things they deem irresponsible?