To be mad at DH over his stupid fucking car

[Shutuppppp]

Years ago DH bought a ridiculously expensive (and loud) car with a huge roaring engine. The sound this stupid thing makes when he starts it up is embarrassing.

I am absolutely ready to take a baseball bat to it. We have a young child (13 months) and I do 99% of the overnights as DH works a lot.

He sleeps better than he used to as a newborn obviously but he's been ill the past couple of weeks and has been up and down, often waking at about 3 and then going back to sleep, or trying at least.

But then 6:30am comes and this stupid fucking beast on our driveway starts up and wakes him up and I've just had enough of it. I'm so mad about this ridiculous fucking car.

DH doesn't know what I expect him to do and I don't really know either, all I know is it pisses me off and I'm mad at him about it. Get the fucking bus or something, I don't care just don't wake DC (and me after being up and down all night) with your stupid fucking toy.

Honestly I often wish I'd wake up in the morning to someone having stolen it in the night.

[Shutuppppp]

@tanstaafl

Is he revving the engine after he’s started it?
is he one of those people (men) that thinks it’s good for the engine to do that from cold?

No he doesn't rev it. It doesn't even last for a long time, it's just when he turns the ignition on it roars and then quietens down. But it's the initial load roar that wakes us up.

[Cheeseandlobster]

I bet its a subaru. Fucking noisy ridiculous cars. Why won't you say op?

[Offandonagain]

Does he have a small penis?

[Albgo]

Are all the bedrooms at the front of the house? If not, move the little ones room. If that means your husband has to sleep in the smaller room at the front then 🤷‍♀️

[Albgo]

@Offandonagain

Does he have a small penis?

Not necessary.

[Albgo]

@Offandonagain

Does he have a small penis?

As in it wasn't necessary for you to post that.

[Offandonagain]

@Albgo

As in it wasn't necessary for you to post that.

Why does he have a roaring sports car that no one in his family likes then?… He’s
obviously compensating for something else.

[KyaClark]

@Offandonagain

Does he have a small penis?

🤣🤣

[Shutuppppp]

@Cheeseandlobster

I bet its a subaru. Fucking noisy ridiculous cars. Why won't you say op?

It's genuinely not a Subaru. I didn't think the make really matters. It's an Audi R8.

[Shutuppppp]

@Offandonagain

Does he have a small penis?

😂😂 no but I've told him before it makes it look like it to others!

[NaughtyDaddyPig]

White noise in the kids room to mask as much as possible?

[Matilda1981]

To be fair I love those cars! In all honesty I think you’d probably be better to get a good white noise machine in in the baby’s bedroom so outside noises don’t disturb him! We use them all the time with our kids as we live on a farm and often there are tractors starting early.
The white noise just dulls any extra outside noise.

[prepared101]

If it's a R8 he'll be 'making it' loud. A neighbour down the road has an R8 (and probably a small penis) and all we ever hear is a gentle rumble though sometimes I hear him put his foot down on the main road.

[AppleKatie]

I think I would leave the house (can you stay with a friend? Your parents?) until he has agreed a solution (and enacted it!). He obviously either thinks you don’t care or it isn’t a big deal to wake you both. Show him it is.

[Dashel]

I would insist you swap cars for commuting so he takes the quieter car or he parks it further away as you need sleep.

it does mean you have to use his beloved car but it seems unfair for you to have to wake up earlier than needed. A compromise maybe how many mornings he uses your car, with any luck he might realise it’s not worth the grief and sell it

[stuntbubbles]

Hide the car keys until he agrees to sell it for a non-wanker car.

[MsMarvellous]

You should drive it! Mine has a loud two seater that is super noisy. I occasionally take it for a spin. It's quite fun.

Seriously though, he needs to find a compromise so he's not waking you up.

[balalake]

You say 'years ago' and yet you decided to have a child with this man?

No need for this car, it should be replaced by one that does not wake up you and probably the neighbourhood.

[Simonjt]

R8’s aren’t loud, nor do their engines rev upon turning on the ignition.

[Scepticalwotsits]

@Shutuppppp

It's genuinely not a Subaru. I didn't think the make really matters. It's an Audi R8.

If it’s an R8 it will be loud on startup (for about 30s) and louder in the cold. If there are aftermarket exhausts it can be worse.

Believe though depending on how old it is, it’s possible to get the start up sequence electronically adjusted to be quieter but it would require it to be idled a bit longer before pulling off

[Jowasace]

I’’m with you, OP. I’d be livid.

Have you tried asking him to be in your child’s room one morning whilst you go and start his car? Let him hear just how loud it is. I mean he knows, but does he “know know”?

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

Ask him outright if he loves his car more than his son?

Doesn't he care that he wakes him up? That it's stressing you out?

That penis extension of a car needs to go. Tell him he can buy a new 'toy' in a few years, but right now, he needs to be a supportive husband and father.

[Agrudge]

Let him enjoy his car. If hes earnt the money to an buy and run an audi r8 . It's up to him what car he owns.

[Agrudge]

Ask him outright if he loves his car more than his son?

Emotional Manipulation isnt a good sign in a relationship

[hattie43]

I started a thread yesterday about our community being blighted with these awful loud cars .

It's not just you it's your neighbours. Get him to sell the thing and buy something more socially acceptable.
No civilised person would allow people to be woken up because of their vehicle of choice