To be mad at DH over his stupid fucking car

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Years ago DH bought a ridiculously expensive (and loud) car with a huge roaring engine. The sound this stupid thing makes when he starts it up is embarrassing.

I am absolutely ready to take a baseball bat to it. We have a young child (13 months) and I do 99% of the overnights as DH works a lot.

He sleeps better than he used to as a newborn obviously but he's been ill the past couple of weeks and has been up and down, often waking at about 3 and then going back to sleep, or trying at least.

But then 6:30am comes and this stupid fucking beast on our driveway starts up and wakes him up and I've just had enough of it. I'm so mad about this ridiculous fucking car.

DH doesn't know what I expect him to do and I don't really know either, all I know is it pisses me off and I'm mad at him about it. Get the fucking bus or something, I don't care just don't wake DC (and me after being up and down all night) with your stupid fucking toy.

Honestly I often wish I'd wake up in the morning to someone having stolen it in the night.

Get a noise complaint form from your council and fill it in and submit it. He sounds like a child.

Only it's not just a few seconds, is it. No wonder she's resentful - he can do something to stop the noise, he's choosing not to in the shape of a big middle finger right up to the OP. What a catch.

Subaru man used to live on our street.. noisy annoying w#nker.

Jesus Christ.

I forgot how insane some posters can be.

That wont go anywhere if the car is road legal.

There will be nothing they can do unless hes revving it constantly. Which he isnt

What a selfish man, I’m embarrassed for him

Before you had the baby his toy car was fine.

But you have a baby now and his toy car is waking the baby and making everyday life much harder for you. So he needs to compromise.
he could:

1. Park it further away from the house. You say this is an option but he doesn't want to in case someone steals it. Right, so ask him whats more important, the car or his baby (and his tired wife not losing the plot and taking a sledge hammer to it).Tell him to put up cctv where it will be parked. Plus, he'd hear the bloody thing being stolen anyway.
2. Sell it and buy something normal while the dc are little and being woken from it. (Like a normal family man would do.)
3. Store it, buy a cheap run a round, until the dc are no longer going to be woken up by it.
4. He does the night wake ups on all the nights before he'll be going out early and waking the baby.

If none of these options are acceptable to him, then i've no idea. Can you somehow encourage the local wildlife to start nesting above it so it gets covered in bird crap every morning? (or just chuck bird crap looking stuff out of baby dcs window at it every evening). He'd soon park it elsewhere then I bet.

They can be, depending on the set up.
Our next door neighbour has one and was apologising about it as his old one didn't have it but new one does and explained (in great detail) why. It's very loud on start up but quietens down as it gets going. It's to protect the engine on start up.
It literally vibrates our dining room floor so you know everytime he goes out even though our houses are quite far apart. We don't mind though as he only takes it out a few times a week and is very conscious and apologetic about the noise. I think I would be pissed off if it was 6.30 everyday under the bedroom window.

I don’t quite understand some of the comments around letting him enjoy his car. OP’s issue isn’t him enjoying the car, it’s that it’s waking the baby up in the morning and that would annoy anyone. Why does his enjoyment trump OP’s needs/the baby’s need to sleep? OP isn’t asking him to get rid, she’s given him a solution of parking further away and he’s said no.

for what it’s worth, I think you’re justified in your annoyance and I’d feel the same.

Sigh. It's not only a few seconds when you're then having to deal with the now awake baby for however long afterwards. I'm not sure what's hard to understand about that.

It it was a few seconds noise that didn't wake him up I'd not care. But it does and then it turns it from a few seconds into sometimes over an hour of a tired crying baby for me.

He has had the car years and it's only now a problem. I would resent my partner if I was made to get rid of something I enjoyed

You see, as much as I can imagine how utterly annoying this is, some of the replies make me want to side with your dh. There is always a core group of women on these threads who believe that men forfeit their autonomy the moment a baby comes along. Ugh.

I'm sure you'd manage put aside your childish grudge and do the best for your baby and partner in a grown up sort of way.

Yes it's now a problem because it's affecting our family. Situations change.

I've not said he has to get rid of it. He doesn't have to "enjoy" it every day though.

Honestly if he keeps it and uses it as a "fun weekend car" or whatever I don't care. It's the using it daily, right below the window, knowing it wakes up the baby that pisses me off. He could get a cheap run around for the week if he wanted to.

My neighbour had a car like this, it woke us up every morning but he is an angry man so wejust put up with it. Thankfully he's changed to a more sensible vehicle.

This is my thought exactly.

The small penis dig, digs about toy cars, posters demanding that he sells it.

He's a father now, he's not allowed any fun and if he resists he's a selfish prick.

Fair enough…and if he can easily afford it, he probably should.

Yep. I go cold at some of these people. Would hate to be married to them.

OP I have every bit of sympathy for you! My DH had a Nissan Skyline, I fucking hated it!! Old, expensive, noisy piece of shit!! It never started first time, the smell from the exhaust sent you to another planet, it had a million and 1 issues, the list was never ending! He had it just over a year before I made him sell it, I drove it more then him as he couldn't fit his fishing kit in it so would nick my car!!! Anyway, best day of my life seeing that thing being driven away, prettt sure he cried 😅. Although I hate to admit it, it was good fun to drive! Shhh, don't tell DH I said that!

We own three Subarus, a Forester and two Imprezas. None of them are noisy. They make one model, the WRX, that is turbocharged.

Did you actually told him how it’s affecting you and DC?

Not that it will change much. I hate to generalise, but it takes a special type of of person to drive noisy sports car to work 😬👀

Is it a Subaru?

"DH doesn't know what I expect him to do and I don't really know either"

Try talking to him about getting an additional car . Instead of whinging on here then

No, the OP has already said it's an Arsehole Usually Driving It V8.