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Original poster

To be mad at DH over his stupid fucking car

258 replies

Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 06:50

Years ago DH bought a ridiculously expensive (and loud) car with a huge roaring engine. The sound this stupid thing makes when he starts it up is embarrassing.

I am absolutely ready to take a baseball bat to it. We have a young child (13 months) and I do 99% of the overnights as DH works a lot.

He sleeps better than he used to as a newborn obviously but he's been ill the past couple of weeks and has been up and down, often waking at about 3 and then going back to sleep, or trying at least.

But then 6:30am comes and this stupid fucking beast on our driveway starts up and wakes him up and I've just had enough of it. I'm so mad about this ridiculous fucking car.

DH doesn't know what I expect him to do and I don't really know either, all I know is it pisses me off and I'm mad at him about it. Get the fucking bus or something, I don't care just don't wake DC (and me after being up and down all night) with your stupid fucking toy.

Honestly I often wish I'd wake up in the morning to someone having stolen it in the night.

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Agrudge · 08/08/2022 09:59

mothertrucking · 08/08/2022 09:58

I'm slightly envious about the R8 but knowing what the noise is like it would get on my nerves too.

Won't he even consider getting a runaround for work?

I dont think shes asked. Hes suppose to telepathic

overthinkingornot · 08/08/2022 10:01

I know what you mean about the noise from this car. DP has the one down and it used to take pride and place in the garage so when it's started up, it sounds a lot louder. When we moved he couldn't park it in the garage anymore so it's boxed in by mine but again, due to the drive being essentially closed in it still sounds loud.

DP does either drive mine or has a runaround car for work/popping out as he didn't want the miles clocking up on his. Rather than lose it at him about how it's effecting baby sleeping, put the idea in his head for a second running around car because of the miles and car value but if he's anything like my DP who loves his car, the current state of the roads with potholes/repairs means he's OTT on not having scratches or marks to the paintwork. DPs has done less than 400 miles this year and is a running joke with our friends BUT it's held it's value and looks/drives fantastic. Make it sound it will benefit him over you😃

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Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 10:02

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 09:59

I dont think shes asked. Hes suppose to telepathic

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I have offered suggestions in the past. But he is also a grown man capable of independent thought.

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YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 08/08/2022 10:04

The middle aged twat over the road used to start his boy racer motorbike up at 6am then go and have his breakfast 🤬
How unfortunate then that it got stolen 👏😄

mowglika · 08/08/2022 10:06

Haha this has tickled me because I was in the exact same situation when ds was 1, DH used to leave for work at 6:30 and his car sounded like a helicopter landing 😒 one morning he came back upstairs with nappy bags in his hand still as he had opened the front door to leave (and throw the nappies out en route) and someone had stolen the car. He was in shock from seeing the empty driveway

The car was recovered within the hour but that image of him shellshocked with nappies still makes me laugh.. neighbours loved the car though but they are all generally early birds anyway

sorry no help just wanted to share 😆

Lockheart · 08/08/2022 10:16

NoMichaelNo · 08/08/2022 09:52

Yes, starting the car inside a small enclosed building won't be the smartest thing to do.

The noise will reverberate for entire streets.

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Not if it's soundproofed.

sugarspiceplumfairy · 08/08/2022 10:25

Move the baby into your room and move dh into the babies room?
have you tried white noise? And are you sure it isn’t the general noise of your dh in the mornings disturbing little ones sleep then the icing on the cake so to speak is the car starting up?

can he go to work later?

12345FishAlive · 08/08/2022 10:25

Some of these replies are ridiculous. Your husband is waking both you and your baby up through choice. How unbelievably selfish. He seriously needs to sort out his priorities because clearly his family is lower down on his list than the image he portrays by driving around a stupidly noisy car.

MotherofTerriers · 08/08/2022 10:30

Long shot, but is your drive slightly sloping? If so, could he just release the handbrake and roll forward, starting the engine a little bit further away from the baby's room?

Hydrangeatea · 08/08/2022 10:33

Overthebow · 08/08/2022 06:53

That sounds really annoying if it’s waking you and baby up. Can he park it further down the street instead of on your drive?

What so he can then wake every one else in the road up? Nice...

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 10:33

Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 10:02

I have offered suggestions in the past. But he is also a grown man capable of independent thought.

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So what was his response to getting a 2nd car?

MouseShoes · 08/08/2022 10:35

Your poor neighbours. We used to live opposite a man, (of course a man), who drove a hummer. Left for work at 6am. No sympathy for you.

Grumpybutfunny · 08/08/2022 10:39

Drop it at Audi, I don't think I would want to get rid of R8 either. You can get quieter exhaust for them.

Natty13 · 08/08/2022 10:42

Your problem isn't the car waking DS (bear with me) your problem is the combination of the car waking DS AND the fact you do 99% of nights. Make your husband do more overnight, he will ONLY see things from your perspective when he has a taste of how exhausted you are and how you feel when the baby wakes and starts crying because of the car noise.

LetHimHaveIt · 08/08/2022 10:51

You have my deepest sympathies, OP.

He probably describes himself as a 'petrolhead' as well (shudder), I imagine. Does he? He does, doesn't he? I'm so sorry.

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 10:53

LetHimHaveIt · 08/08/2022 10:51

You have my deepest sympathies, OP.

He probably describes himself as a 'petrolhead' as well (shudder), I imagine. Does he? He does, doesn't he? I'm so sorry.

So what if hes does . He allowed interests.

Marmalade546 · 08/08/2022 11:01

Tell him to Sell it and get an electric car. If he doesn’t then give him the silent treatment

Agrudge · 08/08/2022 11:01

Marmalade546 · 08/08/2022 11:01

Tell him to Sell it and get an electric car. If he doesn’t then give him the silent treatment

Isnt the silent treatment considered abusive when a man does it???

londonmummy1966 · 08/08/2022 11:03

whatstheteamarie · 08/08/2022 08:36

If DH wants to keep his car then surely he has to do the night wakings, knowing that you're going to be unnecessarily woken by the baby at 6.30am when he leaves.

If he's not prepared to do the night wakings and keep the car, he can't love it that much and therefore it needs to go.

If his toy is fucking up the sleep of the rest of the house, then it's him who needs to make the sacrifices (lack of sleep) to have it, no one else.

This tell him he has to do all night wakings until 2am so you can sleep. You take over after that.

jollygreenpea · 08/08/2022 11:10

Shutuppppp · 08/08/2022 07:12

We don't actually have neighbours close to the house thankfully so that's one positive. Otherwise yes I'd be saying that as well!

Our driveway is right below DCs room though which makes it 100x worse.

He doesn't want to park it anywhere else because he thinks it's more likely to get broken into and wants to 'keep an eye on it'.

What type of car is it?

It's an sports car.

Next time he is sound a sleep, perhaps at 3 am when you are up with your child, go and start the car then he can see what it's like. He will probably think some one is stealing his car and be more concerned about that though.

NoMichaelNo · 08/08/2022 11:11

Marmalade546 · 08/08/2022 11:01

Tell him to Sell it and get an electric car. If he doesn’t then give him the silent treatment

Hahaha please tell me you are joking.

prepared101 · 08/08/2022 11:11

Marmalade546 · 08/08/2022 11:01

Tell him to Sell it and get an electric car. If he doesn’t then give him the silent treatment

There's a big difference between a V8 engine and an electric car- I'm not a petrol head but even I think that's extreme.

WhereTheLightningBugsBlaze · 08/08/2022 11:13

my neighbour has a loud car which he reverses excruciatingly slowly in to his garage. We are semi detached and the garage is part of the house, not a separate building. It makes my front room vibrate 🙁

MyOtherNameIsMyName · 08/08/2022 11:15

Time to get your ducks in a row to LTB.

One duck should be you keeping the bastard car as part of the divorce settlement.

That'll learn him 😅

Daddydog · 08/08/2022 12:43

Hahaha I have an Audi R8 too and it sounds like the end of the world when I'm backing up my drive. I limit myself to driving it in sociable hours as I live in a quiet area and don't want to annoy anyone. One thing he can do if he needs to drive it at 6:30am is it get an exhaust system he can control remotely. Its comes with a little keyfob which opens/closes certain valves. It can make the car nice and quiet when he's pulling out or driving through built-up roads and make it ridiculously loud if he's booting it about on B Roads. The problem is the cabin is very soundproofed so you don't realise how loud they are! To me their exhaust note is perfection but 99% of the population won't agree with me ;)