To be offended by a comment my friend made?

[creamysauce]

Hello :)

So I am getting a gorgeous French Bulldog puppy in a couple of weeks. I was discussing this with a very good friend of mine, about how I'm excited.. yadayada. So I then asked her "Would you ever get a dog or want to own a pet?". She immediately began to burst out laughing and said "No! I want to enjoy my life". A bit I asked "What do you mean by that?"- she then said "As I said it... I want to enjoy my life, owning a pet- particularly a dog, I wouldn't get the spontaneity back, I would be worried about leaving it in the house for too long, paying for this and that, having to take it for walks when I don't feel like it. Sometimes- out of the whim, I just want to book a holiday but with a pet, I will have to think about who is going to take care of it, dog sitters...I may get a cat as they are a bit more independent but still, a pet comes with a lot of responsibility".

I think subconsciously she is trying to sway my decision from getting a pet or do you think she's a tad jealous. I was a bit offended by her comment but she can be very out there/too honest for my liking. What do you all think?

I’d imagine that the friend thinks OP is quite draining 🤪

Then another situation where I told her that myself and my partner were saving up to buy a house, she said "creamy?! Are you crazy! Why would you want to buy a house with a man who doesn't bother paying for the bills and racks up so much debt. It wouldn't get better when you own a house, in fact, the stress would be entirely on you as you would be the one fretting about mortgage payments".

Er... she's not wrong. If your partner is irresponsible with money, why on earth are you further committing to this man??

Your friend sounds eminently sensible and honest. You just don't like her opinions, more fool you.

Have just read your update, and she actually sounds like she's got her head screwed on

• I am very conscious about the health needs of these dogs but I feel the money would be worth plus, myself and my partner, are in a comfortable financial position to pay the upcoming costs, concerning, health needs that the dog may eventually have.

Spectacularly missing the point there, OP!!

Grim.

You have money so it doesn't matter if your dog requires surgery just to be able to breathe properly?

Your friends sounds great! And she's absolutely right.

I love dogs, and we always had than when I was growing up, but I wouldn't have one now for exactly the same reasons.

And really, assuming that someone who distress with you must be jealous, is the sort of thing 11 year olds say on the playground. She's not remotely jealous, because SHE DOESN'T WANT A DOG! She's happy for you because you do, but when you asked her she answered you honestly.

And I'm also struggling not to go on a rant about French bulldogs and encouraging peoole to breed deformed animals with a reduced quality of life..

I love dogs, but I don't have one because the responsibility is too much for me.

And it is horribly cruel to breed dogs to give them breathing difficulties.

a pet comes with a lot of responsibility

She's bang on there. Why would you think she's jealous, it's not like she isn't allowed to get a dog if she wants one.

She was being totally honest and I can understand her perspective, I don’t want a dog because I have enough responsibility with DC and a dog is a step too far.

This. She’s right.

Disagrees with you! Not distress. I'm incapable of writing a single post without a typo today!

Are you sure you’re not offended because there’s some truth in what she’s saying? Especially about buying a house.

Your suggestion that she might be jealous is ridiculous. You asked her a question and she gave an honest answer. I have loved owning a dog but her reasons are exactly why I won’t get another one just now. Why do you think that’s personal against you?

I'd want to know why you're buying an horrifically over bred puppy that will most likely have a shortened life span due to to issues humans have given them rather than getting a rescue dog but that's just me.

I wouldn't condone buying a brachycephalic breed as I love dogs and they suffer a lot.
Having a dog is wonderful and only enriches my life

She sounds like a good, sensible honest friend.

Well she's not wrong, is she? My son would love a dog but for all the reasons shes listed, he's not getting one.

If you can care for it properly and adjust your lifestyle to include your new pet, go for it.

I also think this is a reverse, no one admits to being this daft. Your 'friend' hasn't said anything unreasonable, jealous or mean.

All of the above.

I have three mutts who I love dearly but I would never consider buying a brachycephalic breed puppy. It's not an industry that should be supported, imo.

I am a bit offended as I feel like she always has a say on things I want to do in my life

You ASKED her if she'd get a dog. She said no & why not. If you don't want to be 'offended' by people having a different opinion to you, don't ask.

You do all realise it's a reverse, don't you?

I love animals and have pets but I agree with everything she's said

Absolutely agree with this.

@EmergencyHepNeeded - it's the only bloody logical conclusion. Otherwise OP is so obtuse she's a straight line.

Not jealous at all

Honest

Dogs ARE hard work and i agree with everything she said

That's a good friend OP, not a jealous one. She's being honest.

Also, why on earth would you think of buying a house WITH someone who doesn't pay bills? Do you have millions sitting spare in the bank?

Please listen to your friend. She sounds very wise.