My aunt is laughing that her dd is engaged to a married man...

[BarbaraPickle]

I am so When she told me, it was with a giggle & comedy 'oops'. I wanted to stand up to her and say behind your dd's engagement is a woman beside herself with distress (the man has two dc, 5 & 4). The reason my aunt found it funny was because she herself pinched another woman's dh. She said 'apple doesn't fall far from the tree' & giggled like it was 'naughty'. She justified her own behaviour because my aunt & uncle had a very long & happy marriage until he died. The rest of the family is falling in line behind the new couple. I just feel ick about the whole thing. The divorce is barely underway & they've already chosen a honeymoon in the Seychelles.🙁

What’s the actual situation, though? Did the DD and her fiancé have an affair while he was still with his wife or were they already separated? Are they separated now? Do you know the ex? How do you know she’s devastated?

There’s a big difference between meeting a man who is separated but hasn’t got round to divorcing, and having an affair and getting engaged before he’s even told the wife, basically. So I can’t really judge the daughter or her fiancé without knowing the details.

However, I am definitely judging your aunt for laughing about it and acting as if it’s all some kind of badge of honour; that’s just tacky.

Distance yourself from the situation and any conversations about it. Don’t fall out with any of your relatives but don’t join in either. That way, you will maintain your self respect but you won’t be making a fuss.

Boris and Carrie did exactly the same.
For me it doesn't sit right announcing an engagement whilst one of the couple is still married to someone else, but maybe this is now socially acceptable and I'm behind with the times!

If he only recently left his wife and she was the OW then it's even more morally suspect imo.

However tbf to your aunt she hasn't got double standards!
Hopefully her DDs marriage will also be long and happy .