He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

He sounds unhinged.

I’m glad he’s gone and you’ve taken this as the cue to end things.

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That is the one of the nastier things I've seen on mumsnet. He has thought about it hit you where it's going to hurt the most. It's a calculated destruction and I would think that he hates me.

Both my husband and I have many hobbies. Neither of us would dream of hurting the other like this. Horrible.

That is such weirdly nasty, calculating behaviour - to sit there and watch a film with you, like everything was fine, and then the whole time he was planning to do that? That is really unpleasant.

This is one of the most chilling and scary things I have read on here, like something from Sleeping with the Enemy.

I am really pleased that you are ending it but please stay safe, he sounds dangerous.

Get your locks changed, use a bolt/chain/wedge/leave the key in to stop him coming in until the locksmith arrives.

Also make sure you tell someone in real life what is happening and have someone with you when he comes to collect his stuff (leave it outside, don't let him in).

I am really concerned that this guy could escalate quickly when you tell him it is over, keep yourself safe.

I would cheerily remind him that knitting needles are confiscated by airport security in case you run amok stabbing and garotting people mid flight. Then watch him sleep with one eye open while you prepare divorce papers, remove his belongings and change the locks.

Huge well done for kicking him out op what a bastard he is doing that to all your hard work. He needs a knitting needle taking to his crown jewels. Arsehole that he is your definetly better off without him

That is next level horrible of him. I would be really rethinking my relationship with someone who has such a cruel character that they would do that to you because you asked them to spend time with you. I would understand an act like that if maybe you had had an affair with your knitting tutor. Is he really the man that will look after you with compassion when you’re old and sick? Unlikely

Just seen this. Brilliant.

All his stuff is now in the car. I'm going to take it to his work, drop it off at reception with a note. And on way home I will be buying replacement locks

Just seen your last post op. Well done.

I know this has been said by others but this really did give me chills - like, a genuine, physical response to his nastiness. I'm so, so glad to see your update that you're kicking him out.

Good for you OP. I was about to post about changing the locks. Do you have a friend or relative who can come round and give you some support in case he turns up?

Emotional abuse is often worse than physical. I know a woman whose ex would take their children for radical haircuts every time she tried to defend herself. I have another. I have another who would delete her uni work and put in random change sentences etc.

What he has done is calculated, abusive and fucking horrible. Sit down, think. He will do this shit all the time and you won't realise. You deserve more than this nasty bastard. Time to leave.

Think more logical, house etc. How soon can you end this? Think the money, time and patience you'll save when you're knitting happily for one.

Good. If you can I would get a proper locksmith in to do it, I know the one I know in these circumstances would make sure the house was as secure as possible

I cant believe what I have read here, well done you Op. What a complete and utter tool.

So, so happy for you. You will never look back.

Have a closer look at his guitar.

If it's an electric, there is likely to be a large 'screw' on the headstock and if acoustic, there's a nut inside the hollow part where the neck joins the body. This is called the truss rod adjuster.

If you turn that, you can make the neck feel rather like a banana and there will be fret buzz at some points with a lot of difficulty in retuning.

And if it has an adjustable bridge - the little screws at the other end of the guitar where the strings thread through - adjust every single one of those randomly. Or if it's a Spanish, just take a nail file to the white bridge to reduce the profile and neatly widen the slots in the nut.

Any of these acts will be incredibly inconvenient but not unfixable.

You could also remove the machine heads. Again, no permanent damage, but incredibly inconvenient.

So proud of you OP, I was reading that with such a heavy heart. It's such a cruel thing to do on so many levels. It shouldn't have even entered the head space of someone who loved you.

I'm so happy to hear you're ditching him. Don't weaken or listen to excuses. I've been with DP 9 years and we've had some ups and downs but jesus christ, neither of us would EVER have dreamed of doing something so cold and spiteful.

I opened this thread expecting a humorous story about spare pieces of wool being randomly stuck together to make some sort of weird art - but OMG. What sort of evil bastard deliberately unravels knitting and then carefully rewinds the wool into balls?

You are well rid. When he begs forgiveness/cries buckets/threatens suicide, just remember how sick and twisted he really is.

YES OP!!!! 👏Just seen your latest post and I'm SO proud of the fact that you've taken this shitty situation and turned it into something brilliant. You will now have the peace of your own home to do all the knitting you like!

I would be prepared for the gaslighting and minimising that he may try and spring on you - "you're going to ditch our entire relationship over one little thing?" etc. You've made the best decision and I'm glad this malicious cockwomble is gone.

@Bootothegoose at least read the OP's posts: she's taking his stuff to his workplace and changing the locks.

Well done

Your new life awaits

Well I'm glad you've been decisive!!

I do feel for you, Mappydappy. One minute you ask to spend more time with him, the next you have to kick him out.

Oh my god this is really deliberately cruel.
Time to leave OP