He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

There are some properly weird blokes around.

Keep safe OP. Beware of a retaliation

Me to, thank my lucky stars everyday.

OP that is absolutely narcissistic behaviour. What do you see in him?

So glad you've ended things OP but quite concerned at what he might do when he finds all his things at reception. Please be safe.

Is it CrossFit he does every evening? All the people I know who have done it are obsessed with it to the point they can’t miss a session.
If it wasn’t so healthy, it would be unhealthy!

How long does it take to knit a slogan jumper that says BYE FELICIA?
Glad you're shot of him OP, what an absolute prick.

Well he's a nasty little shit isn't he. Look after yourself op

I’m absolutely gobsmacked that someone could be so pathetic

sounds like you’re well rid

Absolutely not being unreasonable, you are well rid of the git.

This is one of the weirdest I've ever read.

It's not the unravelling, it's the fact that he then wound the wool back into balls. That takes a serious level of pettiness and spite.

What an unpleasant creature he sounds. So happy you can get rid of him easily.

OK then. But so what? Is OP meant to pretend her ex isn't unhinged, & put up with his antics just in case the DC are upset she's turfed him out? It's hard to understand what you are getting at.

If I have to state the obvious…

Well firstly, obviously it’s not fair on the DCs that they have to witness their mum and dad arguing and breaking each other’s stuff etc. that’s a given.

But secondly, which even you have recognised, he is obviously unhinged.

He has no idea that OP has done all of this and is kicking him out etc and like many men who are unhinged this could easily escalate when he does find out.

OP has also said on previous threads that she can’t get out of bed sometimes due to her MH - he knows this and will use this.

The more unhinged she acts - the more he’ll make it look like she is batshit.
I speak from experience.

OP needs genuine advice on the best way she can end this relationship whilst still staying safe and protecting her DCs. Not egging on telling her to do X,Y,Z for revenge or for a laugh as this man could be very dangerous.

You’re my new hero. Please can I have your autograph?

He’s absolutely batshit. This is really a bordering on mental.

well done for taking action OP.

So glad you're taking this seriously. It's so vindictive, I can't imagine feeling so strongly about something that I destroy hours and hours worth of somebody's work. The fact that it's not a 'heat of the moment' type thing and it would have taken him some time to unravel and rewind it is the biggest thig for me. It wasn't a simple reactive moment where he massively cocked up, it was a deliberate and continued action.

Good for you OP! I think you’re fabulous!

Plot twist: Op finds her knitting safely hidden behind the sofa, and partner had actually just left a couple of matching balls of wool.

Honestly I'd just sit him down and say 'right so me asking you to spend a bit of time with me obviously turns you into some nasty, spiteful prick, that's not good for anyone! So here, I've packed your stuff for you, you can leave now and never have to spend time with me again. Off you go!' In all seriousness this is very abnormal behaviour from him. Get rid.

You are brilliant. High five!

First thing I thought was ‘please tell me it’s your house’ - great to read your latest updates. Please enjoy your life minus the utter tosspot!!

Wow his ire was ice cold <chills> how long must that have taken him!? 😮
He pauses enjoying his hobby for one alternative evening of entertainment with you and in his mind this equates to destroying your work!!!!
I LOVE your response... Can we get a mumsnet Mexican wave going on over here please! I'm blowing a vuvuzela 😁
Good luck scraping him off your shoe hope it goes OK.

@CallOnMe - from what I can see the OP acted decisively and quickly with no egging on from pps. The first few posters all said how off his behaviour was.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Good for you OP.

Can you change your own locks? <impressed if so>

Get those locks changed quickly and look after yourself OP. His actions are not those of someone who is able to communicate or process emotion in a healthy or sane way.

Well that was quick