He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Wow.

I have to be honest, when I saw your thread title, I thought it was going to be that you had a pile of wool (not anything actually knitted), just organized by color, and he got pissed whilst out and knocked it down or something. Still odd, but maybe could be fixed by an honest and sheepish apology while hungover the next morning.

But what you’re talking about, destroying projects he watched you put hours and hours of work into night after night while you were home watching telly (I assume he must have occasionally witnessed you knitting or at least witnessed the project slowly happening to know how much time it was taking), is just so ugly and malicious. It’s not like a naughty toddler, as someone said, because once a toddler saw how upset you were, they would probably then burst into tears. He knows what he did, he knows how it would affect you, and he doesn’t care. If we’re comparing it to childish behavior, it’s not like any kind of toddler, but more like those scarily remorseless children (everyone’s met at least one) who have become that way as they have been taught by their parents that nothing matters but their wants and desires, so they destroy other children’s projects and show no care at all, and you worry inside that said child may grow up to become a psychopath. In fact… that’s EXACTLY what it’s like.

I’m so glad you own the house, you’ve packed his boxes, and I think it’s absolutely the right plan to have the locks changed by the time he finishes work today. Someone who would do something like this would escalate. It sounds like you just haven’t “crossed” him before.

Have just read your update comments Mappydappy. Genius and well deserved revenge by you! How wonderful to not be tied to such a fool.

I thought this was going to be about your cat.

I hope now you have deconstructed the relationship.

Prison?

Wow. He hasn't just stopped you doing it, he's wrecked it. What an utter bastard!!

There is congratulating OP for kicking this ridiculous little man child out - well done OP!

But then there is egging her on for your own entertainment.

Can we please remember that this is a real person with a real life behind the screen.

This person also has DCs and MH issues.

The relationship needs to end but the DCs don’t need to see OP breaking their dads stuff.
And this is just the beginning.

WOW, I'm a knitter as well and I would be devastated and furious if my DH did that! 😡I do have to say my knitting corner is a mess and he is a neat freak so it must be very hard for him not to rampage through it...

Definitely time to dump him and make sure he knows he's crossed a line.

Can you then knit him a teeny tiny cock warmer with the unravelled wool and send it to him?

Good for you.
You are well rid!!
Good luck for your future.x

Well done taking this step. Please either go away for the weekend or have someone with you though. It will be very stressful when he comes back.

What DC's? OP doesn't mention any DC's - for either of them.

You don’t think the “ late night hobby” is another woman, do you?

Congratulations on ridding yourself of that malicious swine. Take care over the next few days - have you got a mate who could stay?

As others have said, that’s statistically a risky time, and the sheer spite it takes to frog all your work is not within the realms of sane.

Jesus he is absolutely nuts. How do your children feel having contact with him? He's insane.

Whilst I agree with not egging the OP on to destroy his stuff because he might retaliate, the poster has not mentioned with DC or mental health issues?

What DC's? OP doesn't mention any DC's - for either of them.

She has previously.

One of the most deranged things I've read on this site, and that's saying something. Well done for getting rid!

It's not just that he unravelled it - it's that he took the time to rewind it into balls .

You're doing the right thing in kicking him out.

Get in the bin! Haha! Love it.
Seriously tho, yeh. Put him in the bin

Please be very careful, OP. Now is when it potentially gets dangerous

Your response to this is fantastic OP. Well done.

i agree you could never be with someone who did this again.

What the actual fuck is wrong with that idiot?! I'm so so glad you've kicked him out!

I bet he's one of these "My ex is crazy, she kicked me out because I undid her knitting" people too -_-

CallOnMe I assume you've searched the Op's history to be saying that. I don't disagree with you about 'egging her on for your own entertainment.'

MappyDappy hearing there are children in this I'd definately beef up security, and also please get professional advice about next steps regarding his and the children's access to each other.
It's 'only' knitting in one sense, but his behavior is malicious and thought through. I think you're going to need proper support in what happens next. CallOnMe is right that this is a beginning as much as an end.

Well that escalated quickly. I don't know what to say!
So it's your house, does he pay anything to stay or is he just a cocklodger using you and the facilities?

OK then. But so what? Is OP meant to pretend her ex isn't unhinged, & put up with his antics just in case the DC are upset she's turfed him out? It's hard to understand what you are getting at.