He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Absolutely applaud your refusal to tolerate this sort of shit even once. If he wants to be that kind of spiteful man, he needs to accept that it’s such an unattractive trait that you simply will not put up with it. Absolute dickhead.

Bloody good for you!

Solidarity and a fist bump for you 👊🏻

What a vile man.

OP I like your style.

If this is not a piss take I would be very very concerned about his reaction.

He engaged in a calculate act of malice after you had a private conversation and you have now made a very public scene at his place of work.

He’s either going to become super angry (so agree with PP it’s worth having someone stay with you over the weekend) or he’s going to gaslight the fuck out of the situation and try to say it was all a big joke. Glad you’ve got rid either way

Congratulations OP. I'm sure his knitting antics were the thin end of the wedge & you are well shot of him.

For the unravelling offence though, I don't think a simple LTB is sufficient punishment. Some kind of Midsomer Murders style retribution involving stringing up in wool & skewering with knitting needles seems to be in order.
Get creative OP - you have dozens on built-in alibis from the mumsnet massive here, we'll back you up.

Well done OP for knowing your worth and not putting up with that crap. Wish I could take a leaf out of your book

I specially came to the one machine I can log in on to say something very similar to Tiani above. I don't know how many times I have heard it said that the most dangerous time with controlling men is when you leave them. Locks on windows as well as changed door locks. Upstairs as well. No access to ladders
Ask the police for someone to come and advise on safety, and explain why. Best wishes.

That's insane!!

I hope he doesn't over react later...

That is spectacularly malicious. At least you're not going to be second-guessing yourself about breaking up with him.

Fekker.

It's not just a childish act, but a particularly unpleasant and spiteful one.
As you seem to have realised in record time, this relationship needs to go in the bin.

So glad to read he's gone, what a psychopath.

That is unhinged. I would definately ditch him. If he is capable of that what other mad crazy things might he do.

Yes thats a very good point - he's not gonna go quietly. He'll probably turn it all around on you and say you're petty for breaking up a relationship over wool.

Bullshit. It's no more of a "scene" than a courier dropping off a parcel at reception FFS. OP will be in & out in less than a minute.

Would you prefer she waits at home to tell this angry & controlling little man it's over, @SolasAnla? Far better for her to take his anger quietly at her own home than "cause a public scene", what?
So what if he is spiteful & might get nasty - OP should just endure what's coming to her, anything but "cause a scene" eh?

FWIW I think you were very selfish and wrong to tell him not to do your hobby but still do your own

How are the two even comparable? He goes out & stays out late several evenings a week. OP knits in her own home. You can knit, watch TV and hold a conversation all at the same time (well I can). She was in the same room, watching a film. Then he got up and destroyed all OPs hard work? She's no way in the wrong here. And well rid of the twat.

Who cares? Op needn't listen to him, or engage with him at all.
She's sensibly changing her locks today. before he even finishes work, & equally sensibly has dropped his stuff off at work. So if he turns up at hers, all she need do is call the police. Loudly, so he can hear her call. He'll soon piss off.

This with bells on. I'm very impressed.

You are well rid of him Op. Who would even do that? Don’t let him back when he comes crawling.

You’re a badass OP! good for you

It such a very strange thing for him to do! Is he possibly having some kind of breakdown? Just so horrible and beyond the norm.

OP have a friend over. Clean the house together from top to bottom and drink wine and start the new happy part of your life.

FWIW I think you were very selfish and wrong to tell him not to do your hobby but still do your own

It's not worth anything, but thank you for your witless 'contribution', random hairy-handed person.

What an absolute loser and good on you for ditching his stuff and him!!!! You’re well rid of that! Urgh, I know nothing about him but what a dick for ruining your knitting. I really dislike him!!

Good for you. I normally do not add my voice to LTB but I do think you are best rid. Stay safe.