He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Just read your update OP. Glad your ending things.

Good point. No telling how he'll react.

He works in a restricted area so takes him time to get out of it. I've miles of time and am just off to get the locks now. He won't know till end of day am sure of it.

"Why did you break up with your last girlfriend?"
"I unpicked her knitting & she chucked me out of her house"
Loser.

That's a worrying level of pettiness, disrespect, and malice combined.
Very glad you're removing him from your life, but I'd also be beefing up security. He may well not be accepting about the consequences of his actions.

not at all nice by him. Knitting while watching a film together is not the same as him leaving to do a hobby at all. Glad you’ve made a decision on your future as he sounds crazy.

Well I wouldn't have lowered myself to his standards by chucking his music away etc. but he's definitely not a keeper! Very weird behaviour.

I like your style, you're my new hero.
Not all hero's wear capes, some knit ❤️

Holy shit. I'm a knitter and I think if DH frogged my WIPs I'd probably kill him. I'd certainly cry. You've done the right thing.

Oh my god I'd be furious! That's so so nasty.

I love a happy ending... You are an absolute Queen!!

Well done OP ! It's so refreshing to hear people not defending behaviour like this !

I hope none of this is happening in front of the DCs.

Well done for taking decisive action OP! The man sounds like a psychopath - that is such calculating malice on his part.

That’s absolutely vile behaviour. What a nasty, petulant thing to do. I genuinely couldn’t be attracted to / live with someone who behaved like such a dick.

Take the strings off the guitar and roll them up (cut them in half before rolling so it doesn't show).

Well you’ve reacted like a fucking god at least

He is going to be mad OP

So you must be ready to call police to remove him and tell them why, that he destroyed your belongings when you were asleep and it is your house. Do you have DCs?

Make sure you tell them any other controlling behaviour so that they record it as DA. (Domestic abuse) if that is appropriate. What else has he done ? as I don't believe this is the first time he has controlled you

Well done!!

He is a waste of space. You asked for his company and instead of willingly spending time with you he grudged then ruined your knitting out of spite. You are much better off without him.

OP can you please get a friend to stay over with you this weekend? And I know you've said you have plenty of time to change the locks but be ready for it to take a little longer than you might think - please get safety chains too. Then you can put them on directly so you have something in place just in case.

Blimey, what a nasty fucker. Quite sinister really. How long have you been together and have there been any indications until now that he was psychopathic?! Seriously, will he go batshit when he realises you've kicked him out? Let people know and have someone with you later maybe.

Can you imagine if he turns up shouting and police are called, what he will say?
"Well I didn't like my partner asking me to stay in to watch a film so I unpicked all her months of work knitting a cardigan and socks - because why should she be allowed to have a hobby?"
He'd sound like a controlling abusive jerk

I hope he does tell the police!!

FWIW I think you were very selfish and wrong to tell him not to do your hobby but still do your own
Ah the joys of MN
Woman tells people she's been the victim of something horrible, randomer picks one tiny bit of story to blame her for and muddy the water.

Omg how can he do that? That’s so unkind

What a dick
He obviously values his hobby more than you.
The end. (Of the relationship)