Would you be offended if a hairdresser said this?

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You have a lot of dandruff.

I was mortified. It’s not something I’ve ever noticed or had said to me by people I know or other hairdressers.

Even if it’s true did it really need commenting on?

Of course I wouldnt be. Its her job to notice and comment on things that affect your hair. thats her job. sometimes people dont realise there is an issue.

Of course not. It is their job to assess your hair. I would ask what they recommended to help treat it.

It's literally her job.

She’s a hairdresser.. talking about your hair/scalp so I think it’s okay. Did she offer any advice?

If anyone else said it, obviously it would be unnecessary and rude.

I wouldn't be offended, it's her job.

No I wouldn't be offended and personally I would want to know so I could do something about it.

No - it's just factual.

She’s a hairdresser and she’s assessing your hair. If you have dandruff; of course she’s going to mention it…

who would you expect to tell you? The postman !?! 🙄

Nope that would not bother me at all. Likewise it would not bother me if I went to a doctor with a sore arm and they commented that I had very dry skin. I would ask their advice how to resolve it likewise I would ask the hairdresser how to resolve the dandruff.

The same way if I went to a doctor with a broken leg and he said you have a broken leg I wouldn’t be offended to go to another professional and have them notice and say I had dandruff. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about it’s perfectly normal

I once had a barber point out DS had nits 😳 I wasn’t offended, he was very kind about it and I was able to get him treated quickly.

It's her job. Would you be offended if she said you had dry hair and she suggested using hair products aimed at that?

I would hope my hairdresser might say it slightly more tactfully - “oh your scalp is looking a bit dry, would you like me to use moisturising mask?” or something, rather than “you have a LOT of dandruff”!!

That’s like going for a facial and being upset when the beautician tells you you have blackheads/ dry skin.

seriously?

It's not like she said you're dirty or you smell. I'd thank her and ask for her suggestions on how to improve it.

Sounds normal to me. I have fine hair that I hate! but accept it will be mentioned when I to a hairdresser,as its her job. Bit like going to a dermatologist and being offended when they point out your acne 🤷‍♀️

Could have been nits...

Like going to the post office and being offended they told you where to get stamps…

YABVU

I guess it would depend on tone. If it was just stating a fact, I would be a little embarrassed even though I had no reason to be, but would then ask what she could recommend to help. If it was more of a ergh yuk you have lots of dandruff I would be offended.

Did you know about the dandruff issue OP, are you doing anything to help resolve it?

It’s a scalp health issue - of course a hairdresser should be commenting on that. It’s something that can be treated or improved. It’s her job.

I think I’d be more cross if she didn’t say anything. At least you can get sorted before it becomes really noticeable.

Why would it be offensive? Having dandruff doesn't mean you're unclean. She's not calling you a dirty cow. She's just telling you you're scalp is dehydrated.

Embarrassed but not offended. Did she offer advice for dealing with it?

Of course she should've told you. Whyever would she not? Clearly you did need telling because it came as a shock. How did you not know?

It’s not something I’ve ever noticed

In that case, she did you a favour by telling you so you can treat it! Either she's making it up, or you have dandruff and need to do something about it. I'd ask a friend, dh or my mum to check out if it's true.