Would you be offended if a hairdresser said this?

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You have a lot of dandruff.

I was mortified. It’s not something I’ve ever noticed or had said to me by people I know or other hairdressers.

Even if it’s true did it really need commenting on?

No, I wouldn't. Better her telling you than someone on the street.

You sound really grouchy OP

Did he offer any solutions? Did he say it loudly in front of other clients? Context is needed here.

She's a hairdresser, commenting on the state of your hair. Would you be offended if you went to the doctor and they told you you had a disease?

Strange that if you have a lot of it you haven’t noticed?
I would have been embarrassed if she said it loudly and looked disgusted by it.
If she was offering you a solution then I don’t really see the problem.

Perhaps because women dominate the hairdressing profession? 83% in the UK (and over 90% in the Us). Statistical probability 🤷‍♀️

Yes I would.
I get that it's her job, and I know I am being unreasonable, but the truth is yes I would be (wrongly) offended. I'm just being honest (even though I know I'm wrong).

Would you be offended if the dentist said “You have a rotten tooth”? Of if a dietician said “Upir diet needs improving”.

Of course a hairdresser should tell you if you have dandruff in the same way they should tell you if your hair is thinning. It could mean you need to look at the products you are using, diet or even hormones.

No I don't think it was a private haircut.

I just didn't assume there were any other people around to hear what he said.

I'm sure the OP would've mentioned it if he'd 'announced' it.

Mine told me about PCOS and recommended I made an appointment with my GP to talk about possible hormone issues shortly before threading my entire face for the first time. Should I have been offended?

Yes, I did already know - the doctor had told me the NHS wasn't interested, but had I heard of something called threading and gave me the number of his sister - the salon owner. Should I have been offended that the doctor told me about a beauty treatment?

@NeverDropYourMooncup Sounds like you had some support and advice. Doesn't sound like this OP did, though. Also, I imagine the therapist advised you in a private space, rather than in a hairdressing salon, which is quite an open space. I do hope you are finding some helpful treatments, PCOS is awful.

I'd be embarrassed, but unless she said it really loudly/went on and on about it, I'd view it as her doing her job.

This happened to me too.
I thanked him for letting me know & asked his advice on the best way to get rid of it. Then on my next visit I asked if he could see any improvement. (There was thanks to Nizoral shampoo).
Tbh I would just be grateful for her help in sorting it out.
I'm sure that's all she was trying to do ;)

It wouldn't bother me at all, if mentioned sensitively, but I think I'd have noticed it in the first place.

YANBU actually. Rude. It's not like you would be unaware.

It's a medical issue, for your GP. Not one for a hairdresser! They do hair. Not dermatology.

I would be glad to know and ask for any product recommendations which might help.

I've been grateful to a hairdresser who said that my dandruff needed more than pharmacy advice.

It's a hairdresser's job to check out anything untoward with your hair and scalp.

My hair dresser told me the same thing. I didn't think it was that bad, but she remarked on it becoming worse. Hairdressers assess the scalp and hair, before treatments. I appreciated her comments, and bought some ginger shampoo from the body shop, which worked.

I'd be thanking her! If you hadn't noticed then you could have been in lots of situations where others noticed and you were unaware. When the weather turns and we're all back wearing dark colours - you'll realise she's done you a favour.

Dandruff isn't dry scalp. The salon would not stock a product to treat it.
He has done his job and informed his client so that she can take the necessary steps to correct it.

I hope you said, “Blimey, I didn’t realise. What would you recommend to get rid of it?”

What a stupid comment. Hairdressers do actually spend a proportion of their study learning about dermatology.

@Society no need to be rude. Or is that part of the job description for being a hairdresser?

OP, ask your pharmacist for advice. Not beauty practitioners. (Beauticans are the worst for spouting crap about dermatology!)

The threading chairs aren't exactly private places for a full face/neck and eyebrow shape. Which is actually reassuring in a way; because you can see you aren't the only woman with a beard thick, dark hairs on your neck and jawline and it affects all ages and ethnicities. There's also the watery eyed camaraderie of the upper lip threading and presentation of the tissue box like an award once you've completed your monthly ordeal😂.