New neighbours (a couple, late 40s so similar age to us, but no kids) came around last night to complain that the sound of our teen boys playing in the garden was upsetting their dog who is a rescue, very nervous and reactive to sound.
I'm really torn on what to do. I'm sympathetic to their situation and I really don't want to fall out with them. I know the dog has problems because it barks at us from his side of the fence whenever we go out in the garden. When they came round to complain they brought the dog with them to show us what it's like - the woman had it in her arms and it spent the whole time growling and baring its teeth.
The kids had two friends over yesterday and they were playing basketball. My dilemma is that while I'm sympathetic, I don't think the noise they were making was excessive - no screaming, no music blaring, just the sound of kids playing in the garden. The ball doesn't thud loudly on the floor as the garden is grass with no paving or decking so its muffled, but it does clatter when it hits the hoop.
I get that the clatter would be annoying after a while, but I wouldn't say it was any more annoying than the noise of their dog barking at us through the fence and I wouldn't dream of complaining about that. It's just part and parcel of life.
Last set of neighbours never complained about the kids playing, but they did have grandkids of their own who came regularly and made a fair bit of noise so they were probably as immune to the noise of kids playing as we are!
They also said they were worried that the ball would come over and hit their dog, even though it didn't.
I've told the kids they're not to play basketball anymore to keep neighbourly relations cordial, but it is a shame as they absolutely love it and it will probably mean they're just inside playing X Box.
The problem is is that because they're teens, most of the games they'd want to play in the garden do involve some kind of ball. Do I just resign myself to a summer of them sat inside? We do have a local park but it's quite some distance away and seems a shame they can't use their own garden.
AIBU?
New neighbours complaining that our kids are distressing their dog
InYerFace · 01/08/2022 09:31
InYerFace · 01/08/2022 09:43
Oh thanks all. You're all pretty much saying what my DH did after they left! We don't have a dog so I was trying to put myself in their shoes as I know people love their pets as if they're children. They also told me that it was a rescue on its third home and it had been abused before, so I did feel bad that we were upsetting it.
BlackeyedSusan · 01/08/2022 09:38
Definitely sod that. Tell them you are worried their dog will get through and hurt the kids and they should control their dog.
whowhatwerewhy · 01/08/2022 09:37
I wouldn't stop my children playing in there own garden.
If the dog is distressed they should take it into the house.
Whatdayisittodayhelp · 01/08/2022 10:55
I would go around the next time the dog is barking and complain. They can keep the dog in the house if it’s that scared of the ball
IncompleteSenten · 01/08/2022 09:36
No. Don't do anything.
The second you cave to one request, she'll be round with another. Then another. You'll have shown her that she can demand anything from you and before you know it you'll be tiptoeing round your house and sneaking your clothes to the launderette because you've been banned from using your washing machine.
I'm sorry your dog is so reactive. That must be hard for you. Hopefully you will get a trainer to help you. I won't be stopping my children using the garden.
IncompleteSenten · 01/08/2022 09:36
No. Don't do anything.
The second you cave to one request, she'll be round with another. Then another. You'll have shown her that she can demand anything from you and before you know it you'll be tiptoeing round your house and sneaking your clothes to the launderette because you've been banned from using your washing machine.
I'm sorry your dog is so reactive. That must be hard for you. Hopefully you will get a trainer to help you. I won't be stopping my children using the garden.
TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 01/08/2022 10:37
Have you got a trampoline?
If not, get one! 😂
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Mississipi71 · 01/08/2022 10:59
The lack of compassion for an anxious dog, who could have been abused in the past, is astounding.
Whatdayisittodayhelp · 01/08/2022 10:55
I would go around the next time the dog is barking and complain. They can keep the dog in the house if it’s that scared of the ball
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