To think MILF is not a fucking compliment?

[BrokenToy]

I went out out the other weekend to a very ‘young’ bar locally. I got very sweetly chatted up by a fetching young man of 22 (I’m 42 and very happily married).

It all went a bit sour when he said I’m a ‘right MILF’ and was put out when I turned on my heel and walked off.

This is not a compliment, right? I was very much enjoying the confidence boost of a strapping young lad showing interest and then he completely fucking ruined it 🤣

@pylonpal

She wasn’t insulted. She was complimented in a crass way probably normal for the lad chatting her up. It’s no different than if he had of commented on her body in a crass but positive way - she may find that too foward or she may like it.

Shes married and by her own admission letting this young lad flirt with her because she likes it. What was she expecting to here from some kid trying to chat up and older woman he knows is married in a bar? Since she was letting it go on he probably thought she was the kind who wouldn’t be offended by sexual banter - since she was open to being hit on by a kid half her age despite being married.

Imagine this in reverse - man goes to a bar and despite being married welcomes the attention of some 22 year old girl because it makes him feel desirable - then she call him a dilf - he is mortified and so offended he posts about how out of line it was of her on the internet.

He would be laughed out of this world. So should she.

It’s objectifying and a bit gross!

He’s basically saying he’d like to “f7€k” you despite you being a mother. That’s what I take MILF to mean anyway.

I wouldn’t like it at all either.

So true. I see milf as equivalent to saying you have a nice bum. Cheeky, but not outright offensive. And if you're being chatted up in a bar, yeah, he probably thought milf was fine to say in that context

A 22 year old boy will fuck anything. Being 'chatted up' by one is hardly a compliment.

I think it is part of the wider issue of entitlement and so many men thinking that women are put on earth to please them and be judged by them, especially on their appearance...

So in their eyes we should be grateful that a man finds us good enough to sleep with, especially as we get older and they see MILF as a ''compliment''.

Disgusting term rooted in misogyny.

Again not true.

Definitely not a compliment, because it’s a disrespectful term. The age thing is kinda irrelevant, the point is that some guy instead of saying respectful compliments like “You have beautiful eyes… What an unusual and lovely name… Your job sounds so interesting, would you allow me to buy you a drink while you tell me more about yourself” instead just said “I’d like to fuck you.” Yuk.

The term ‘milf’ was made famous by the movie America Pie - in which “milf!” is chanted by the loser minor characters no one wants to sleep with. It’s always been something said by losers who can’t get a shag.

This.
You are old compared to him, are you in denial?

Older but attractive and he clearly wants to fuck you.

22 year old males are very simple creatures indeed tbh.

You like being chatted up, knowing that is pretty much always their end game, but don’t like your advancing age noted?

And it’s obviously not a compliment, but hardly deeply offensive.

Yep! I'm in my 20s and have a child. Been called it numerous times.

Not sure what the OP expected by going to a 'young bar'

He was chatting you up. Would you prefer he said 'I would like to make love to you in a candle lit room' OP?

If you're happily married why were you entertaining someone chatting you up anyway?

MILF, as a porn search, is one of the largest brackets. With my deeper research of one (my DP) says that it basically means a fully developed woman rather than a nubile younger one. It was his preference.

Btw the biggest growing area, according to an article I read last year, is cuckolding. Which is just bizarre to me. But we are humans and weird.

@IneffableGenderFairy 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
As much as I am not a prude and like sex, having a guy telling me that's all he'd like to do to me does not make me feel great.
I don't get how some women think being called a MILF is ok

You have beautiful eyes… What an unusual and lovely name… Your job sounds so interesting, would you allow me to buy you a drink while you tell me more about yourself

This is also cringey tbh.

This is so true

So you were happy to be chatted up, but not to be considered in those terms.
What on earth did you think was going through his head?!

I don’t think it’s about being old enough to be HIS mother, old enough to be A mother. So, I wouldn’t take it that he thought you are a generation older than him.
but, yes- still a term you either like or you don’t.

I'd be fine with it tbh! It was a 22 year old in a "young" bar and you're twice his age and married. Just take it in the spirit it's intended and avoid that situation in future if it bothers you.

Aged 33 I was chatted up by a handsome young man of maybe 24. Things were going well until I asked him whether he thought I was too old for him (yes I laugh now, 15 years later). He described me a ‘vintage’ model… and I flounced. He was probably trying to be funny….

Erm …but didn’t you say your like happily married? So instead of walking off when he started flirting with you to respect your DH you waited until he said something that was accurate. He’s 20 years younger and could be your child???

So I wasn’t engaged in any deep and meaningful conversation; I was at the bar buying a round of drinks, he was next to me and asked to buy me a drink because I’m very beautiful, I said that’s very lovely thank you but no, I’m married and not interested; he then said some other nice compliments and then that I’m a right MILF. At that point I said that’s not a compliment, mate, and walked off. He followed me saying of course it’s a compliment.

He actually then wouldn’t leave me alone all night and the door staff (friends of mine) had to chuck him out, but that’s a whole different story.

MILF is misogynistic objectification at best, and also indicative that the person (usually male) using it watches too much porn. Mostly, it’s a gross and reductive term.

It’s so not a compliment, and why anyone would be flattered to be called one is beyond me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tbh I'm not even 40 but feeling old and frumpy and pretty unfuckable so I'd be surprised but a bit flattered tbh.

I also described someone (famous) only 5y older than me as a DILF literally 2 days ago so I won't hold a double standard over this...

However his behaviour afterwards was not acceptable.