Toddler left in her room 4 hours

[RedRobyn2021]

Come at me if you don't like what I'm going to say

I started following this girl on Instagram because she was pregnant like me and 18 months on I am still following her

She has just left her daughter in her cot for a nap for 3 hours. Her daughter hasn't been asleep for that entire time. She has just been in her cot alone, in a dark room with white noise on in the middle of the day.

She finally fell asleep and then she woke her an hour later because it would disrupt her bedtime.

I don't care if you all think I'm a horrible judgemental person, at the end of the day she thinks this is so acceptable that she's put it up on the internet for everyone to see.

Is this not a form of child abuse? Like wtaf am I being unreasonable????? At this age this kid is meant to be learning about the world around her not spending FOUR HOURS in a room in the dark ALONE in the middle of the day.

If I am being unreasonable, I actually don't care. I want to cry for that poor, poor kid. Like should I say something before I unfollow her? Or is this how some parents just treat their children on a daily basis? Is this what sleep training is??

No this is cruel. Doesn't matter if child crying or not. I'd say something

I’ll message you

Op why are you questioning yourself. It feels off because it IS off. Maybe other parents on here do the same and are reacting defensively.

It is not okay to leave a toddler when all they need is an hours nap for 4 hours on their own with white noise in the darkness alone in the middle of the day - the very same thing was used in Iraq as a instrument of torture. Seriously I am appalled by the replies on here quite frankly.

Report it, send the footage and unfollow her. If you are brave tell her why as to not prolong the child’s suffering.
Don’t leave it - this is neglect and I say that to you in a professional capacity.

Just a hunch, but it wouldn't surprise me if this mum is following something one of the many hundreds of 'sleep consultants' has told her to do. They're vultures, exploiting new parent anxiety by offering generic sleep advise and schedules that don't allow for any sort of individuality (or acknowledge biologically normal infant sleep, which is notoriously shit no matter how much white noise you slap on it).

Don’t leave it - this is neglect and I say that to you in a professional capacity.

listen to @Festoonlights @RedRobyn2021 !

@Festoonlights @Stickworm

I have just gone on her stories and her daughter has been in her room 3 hours awake again.

Please can you tell me how I meant to be report her? Who to? What happens?

I don't know what to do. I don't think she is a bad person, just young and selfish. I am thinking this is something to do with sleep training. I don't want to make things worse.

Is this maybe just the way some parents parent?

Sometimes my daughter won't sleep, it's a guessing game. But I couldn't do this to her. I just don't know if that's me putting my own experience with my own child on her, like her child is a different person. And they're doing things different.

I feel like "cry it out" is wrong, but people do this all the time and lots of people talk about doing it openly. And some people advocate that they think it's for the best.

I hate sleep training but I feel like even hardcore advocates wouldn’t leave their small child wide awake for 3 hours in the dark with no stimulation. Maybe @Festoonlights can advise re: reporting?

I’m so sad for this child, I imagine it will have happened yesterday as well and is likely the new normal 😞

Put a link to this thread on her website. It might make the mother worry that she will lose subscribers if she continues to neglect the little one.

If the child was not crying, that may be because she has found crying doesn't bring any comfort. If this happens on a regular basis, I'd be looking to report it as abuse. If it's a one-off, it could be the woman was unwell and needed a break.

Abused and neglected children dont cry- they know that there is no point

(not saying this is abuse but saying crying isnt an indication)

Just sent you a PM @RedRobyn2021

RedRobyn

Who is it you are following?

Any update on this @RedRobyn2021 ? Been thinking of this little baby.

I am so confused by this thread, SM is such a small clip into people’s lives, you have no way of knowing that the woman isn’t exaggerating or has not been in an out of the room in that time. You are being very dramatic about something you don’t even have half the information for??

I agree with this.
I would just send her a message and ask some more questions before contacting SS.