Toddler left in her room 4 hours

[RedRobyn2021]

Come at me if you don't like what I'm going to say

I started following this girl on Instagram because she was pregnant like me and 18 months on I am still following her

She has just left her daughter in her cot for a nap for 3 hours. Her daughter hasn't been asleep for that entire time. She has just been in her cot alone, in a dark room with white noise on in the middle of the day.

She finally fell asleep and then she woke her an hour later because it would disrupt her bedtime.

I don't care if you all think I'm a horrible judgemental person, at the end of the day she thinks this is so acceptable that she's put it up on the internet for everyone to see.

Is this not a form of child abuse? Like wtaf am I being unreasonable????? At this age this kid is meant to be learning about the world around her not spending FOUR HOURS in a room in the dark ALONE in the middle of the day.

If I am being unreasonable, I actually don't care. I want to cry for that poor, poor kid. Like should I say something before I unfollow her? Or is this how some parents just treat their children on a daily basis? Is this what sleep training is??

This. Unfollow these people op

"Come at me..."

Hahaha

No one can take you seriously starting a post like that.

Definitely message the mum, that's not ok! She's probably not crying because she's used to being left in there, poor girl

@OnlyFoolsnMothers I am going to unfollow her now. I was pregnant and in lockdown and didn't know any mums so thought it would helpful/nice.

Still not clear on how you know.did she show a time delay video. Did she show time captured photos

How dony9y know it was the 4 hours she said it was?

I’d give SM a rest. You can’t believe anything in it either.

Fair enough, I've been rewatching "never have I ever" on Netflix and the American teen slang must have rubbed off 😂

Anyway, what I meant was, "please don't say nasty things to me, surely this is not ok"

None of mine napped longer than two hours tops. Can't imagine leaving them in a cot all that time.

YANBU. Hopefully it's been a one off.

It was on her stories and she told everyone her daughter had been in her cot 3 hours not sleeping and she showed clips of her in her cot, then said she'd fallen asleep and that she would need to wake her, then she showed waking her another hour later.

Ask her

Ask her what?

Well I think it’s unacceptable. 3 hours alone in a dark room with white noise, sounds like some sort of sensory deprivation experiment…

Mine sometimes ended up in her cot for what ended up being a few hours because it looked like she was about to fall asleep and then I realised she was still awake so waited and left her as she needed a nap. When she really didn't want to nap she cried and I'd get her if it looked like it just wasn't going to happen. But if she wasn't upset I took it as a sign she wanted to get to sleep and let her get on with it until she did. I don't see the problem although 3 hours is excessive but it sounds like it was a one off if that's the only time she mentioned it. Saying she didn't cry because she knew no one would come is jumping to massive conclusions and slightly dramatic in my opinion. They're upset, they cry.

"Come at me?" Cringe.

It's out of order. I don't know why people are saying this is ok. If it was reported on the news that a child had been left in the dark for hours on end while his mother scrolled through social media there'd be scores of abuse directed at her, and rightly so.

I worry for the children of people defending this.

It really depends on the child's reaction - if she was left screaming, or even just calling out for attention etc, then yes, I'd agree, very wrong. If she was happily chilling out, the fine.

A toddler does not just lie and happily ‘chill’ in the dark for hours on end in the middle of the day. That is really worrying behaviour and makes me think it is definitely not a one off, this is just normal for that poor little girl. That child has been completely desensitised and has emotionally switched off.

Yes, it is OK, you are overeacting.

Get a grip and unfollow her if you don't like her parenting.

The idea this is abuse makes a mockery of actual abuse.

@KatVonlabonk It absolutely is not ok to leave a toddler alone in a dark room for 3 hours in the middle of the day.

Report to social services, screen shots should be sent. They can decide.

Leaving a small child in a cot for half a day, alone in the dark is traumatic and abuse. Report without hesitation.

YANBU and this sort of shit makes me physically sick. Poor baby 😞

Come at me if you don't like what I'm going to say

Um, what?!

Imo if she wasn't crying it was because that is normal to her..

It’s more concerning that she didn’t cry. Almost like she’s used to it and knows there’s no point.

Also, the OP has already addressed what she meant in her opening line, you don’t need to keep going.

I thinK we need to get past the tone of the op and focus on the child ffs