SAHM, what a bore?

[Incognitopest]

Apologies for the antagonistic title…to get traffic!

Im 9 months into mat leave, i absolutely love and adore my daughter but christ i find this monotonous. I could go back to work early but also know this is a once in a lifetime opportunity.

How do SAHM do it? Do you enjoy it or do you see it as a job? Im fortunate that we have a cleaner once a week, dog walker a few times, and i go to the gym solely because it has a creche.

Im so conflicted between being desperate to go back to work yet knowing i should be embracing these days with my baby. Every day feels so repetitive. Im guessing some people are made out for it more than others?

not sure what the AIBU is…. I guess aibu for struggling being a sahm whilst considering part time child care?

@bofski14 yeah i considered a MSc based on the work load of my last one. I believe it would have been attainable. I guess your MSc workload makes you think it’s delusional?
i don’t intend to turf her out, but if she chooses to emigrate i wish her well.

I dont know why you think trotting out the same quotes makes you less boring? Repetitive perhaps?

I found it a bit monotonous with my first baby, as babies to me are terribly cute but a bit boring. I enjoyed mat leave with following dcs, as there was time to spend with the older ones, too, and baby literally just tagged along to all the big kids activities. I had only between 3 weeks and 3 months maternity leave with each and back into a very demanding job, but once the youngest was in full time school I stopped work to be a full time SAHM and now I love it. It's wonderful for me to spend loads of time with dc, and I personally think they need me more now then when they were tiny, as back then, nanny could feed them milk or play playdough with them, it's now that they have more complex interests/problems, that's it nice for them to have a parent around.

So maybe you could go back to work now, save up/invest, and take out some time for your dc at a later time. Dc need you throughout their lifetime, it doesn't have to be when they are babies.

@NellyBarney

And you don't need to give up work to be there for them