DP been so cruel about my weight

[Bananaramafan]

I'm supposed to be going camping with DP today.
Yesterday I mentioned I was going on a diet from Monday but asked him not to comment on it (his "humour" is often cruel and pathetic but I've tried to get used to it)
He couldn't help himself and said "oh you're going on a diet again - to lose the weight you so desperately need to"
I'm a stone and a half overweight. I'm going through the menopause and I'm 54.
I've woke up today (we don't live together)
and I'm still so angry/upset that I've messaged him and said I don't want to spend the weekend with him unless he apologises.
AIBU?

I would rather be single than put up with one more of his stupid shit "jokes

I think this would be the perfect one liner to end the relationship, the very next time he does it. Say it calmly, clearly, and if he tries to discuss, cut him off with 'You've had plenty of chances.' And that's all the words you need.

Never have a relationship where you question if you're being 'too sensitive'. What you're doing, in that scenario, is giving the insulting person permission to decide for you how sensitive you should be. Why would they know how sensitive you should be? Why don't you get to decide how sensitive they should be? Why are they in charge of the dynamic?

In relationships, we actually do get to decide how sensitive our significant others are, but not by making people feel shit about their level of sensitivity. If he had any sensitivity himself, he'd have realised that if he kept poking fun at you, you'd leave. Too late now. Silly little boy for not being sensitive enough.

I totally agree with this. The best place to be in is when your self esteem is so solid and well maintained that comments from anyone, not just bad relationships, can be taken with a pinch of salt or roll off your back. Therapy is such a useful investment in yourself and I would recommend it to anyone. It doesn't really matter what anyone says to you, it's just opinion not fact and a reflection of them, not you.

One of my finest moments was my last meeting with my DM and she was reeling off the usual insults that she tormented me with my whole life, what a difficult child I had always been, what an awful daughter I was to her, how I had done this and that, etc, etc. I sat with a grin on my face, calm as a cucumber and visualised the comments bouncing over the top of my head. Meh, who cares what she's thinks. Thank god for a good therapist!

@Dacquoise
Wise words. I'm sorry you had to put with that from your mother and well done to you for rising above it all.

Thank you @Forgiveitall .Totally NC since that meeting. Best thing I ever did.