Please help me find the cheapest Premier Inn for 3 weeks - sanity depends on this

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Hi,

I have learned something shocking about my fiancé. It has totally made me question whether we should even get married in, almost exactly, a month.

I think it would be beneficial to take some time apart to evaluate things.

I'm shaking literally from the unknown (also have a bad/weird feeling I may be pregnant).

Please advise where I should decamp for a couple/3 weeks.

And whatever you do please tell a real life person. Even if it’s to say you’ve discovered something and can’t tell them yet but you need to leave and are going to X and will check in daily etc

OP has still not said what her partner is supposed to have done. "He was arrested. He did it to a partner." He could have took out a dodgy store credit card in her name for all we know.

She hasn't been back for ages and hasn't even said she's in danger, he's a dangerous person - and moreover, that she is 'undecided' about continuing to marry him.

Summer holidays have started. It's silly season.

Nothing is unbelievable, sadly, but it sounds bad. Rape? Violence? A pattern of behaviour? Something even more complicated?

If you don’t want to say here and don’t want to tell friends/family until it’s confirmed, find someone you can unload to, either your wisest friend or a helpline. You need to process the information, whatever it is, and weigh up the source.

Also, sometimes people are arrrested despite being innocent, so consider that possibility too.

She still needs a room in the meanwhile. She’s not exactly going to go home and say “Darling, I suspect you’re a monster. I’ll start flat hunting tomorrow. What’s for dinner?”

You'd surely be much better in a serviced apartment or Airbnb with your own kitchen because you couldn't have to eat out for every single meal (would save £££).

Listen to your inner voice; if you don't feel safe, if you can't trust him, cancel the wedding. Doubts like this are not going to end well. Get a pregnancy test.

Travelodge Amesbury Stonehenge and Travelodge Stanstead appear to be among the cheapest at £60 per night, check Travelodge website for dates and prices. Arrange to go with someone if you can, you don't want to be worrying on your own.

I would just book for a week OP, it's something that's likely to resolve within that or not be resolvable at all - if it's not going to be resolvable then at that point you are probably going to be able to stay with a friend or family whilst you sort things out so better not to waste money at this stage. I would do a pregnancy test asap too

You say he was arrested - was he charges? Is his ex malicious, could she have made false allegations? Just a thought

What are your spidey senses telling you OP?
Instinct is an incredibly useful tool.
Any unease or red flags? How does he react under pressure? Any controlling features? Words or actions that have given you concern? Does he lie in any other areas of his life?
You don't need to tell us any details, but have a good think about your relationship with him so far, see if there are any tell tale signs.

Above all, keep yourself safe.

Have a look on booking.com and use the filter to pick apartment/ house
I have been looking for a travel lodge in the Southampton area and the apparments are cheaper .
Also look for student apartments, lots will be empty soon you may be able to negotiate with the landlord to rent for a short time.

It sounds like you could do with some professional support, not just a place to stay. Maybe worth looking up the details of your local Womens refuge and give them a call.
they are brilliant at offering help and support to women who find themselves at a crossroad in their lives. Locally we have a Branch of Woman’s Aid, but that’s not in London, but I’m sure that there will be many similar organisations in your area.

Any friends going on holiday ? Ask to house sit / maybe even save them fees for kennels / they may be happier knowing pets are being cared for at home even if to late to cancel the whole kennel stay ? X

I mean, then marrying him wouldn't be sensible. At all.

Why take the risk? End it.

Please seek the support of a Woman’s refuge who can offer you a good level of confidential support, they also often have a place to stay with 24/7 staff on duty to help you through your darkest hours.

OP has still not said what her partner is supposed to have done. "He was arrested. He did it to a partner." He could have took out a dodgy store credit card in her name for all we know.

Oh, that's fine then, if all he does is defraud his partners.

if you've got to this point, OP, it's over. He's a scumbag. Get rid.

Incredibly unlikely, especially if there is no information to suggest this is the case.

And why should the OP take the risk?

Remarkable how many posters on a women's site will bend over backwards to defend abusive men

Apologies if this has already been mentioned (don’t have time to read whole thread)
make sure he doesn’t have access to your internet history (if you’re searching places to stay) and obviously if you have joint account it’s easy to see where you are and where you are withdrawing money !

Late, but I can vouch-ish for this cheap sh*thole...

Manchester tho

About 38-42 a night, can get room with kitchenette. I've used it as a Mon-Fri base for work on site, popular with bank nurses and tradies. Rooms are comfy enough, microwave and minifridge saves a fortune on food and the staff are lovely

issue is its for 3 weeks and its the summer holidays plus the commonwealth games - so places that aren't usually busy this time of year - are now

It’s not “incredibly unlikely” that an innocent person could be arrested. Arrest isn’t a conviction and pointing that out isn’t anti-feminist.

It does sound as though maybe OP has more specific information than just the fact of his arrest though, and nobody is denying that male violence is epidemic.

What about housesitting apps, guaranteed privacy, less traceable, you may need to move a couple of times...

I would find out about the possible pregnancy first, and make arrangements to terminate as early as possible. If your partner is as bad as you say a baby is the last thing you need is to be tied to him with.