Please help me find the cheapest Premier Inn for 3 weeks - sanity depends on this

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Hi,

I have learned something shocking about my fiancé. It has totally made me question whether we should even get married in, almost exactly, a month.

I think it would be beneficial to take some time apart to evaluate things.

I'm shaking literally from the unknown (also have a bad/weird feeling I may be pregnant).

Please advise where I should decamp for a couple/3 weeks.

You could consider a static caravan as that’s likely much much cheaper and they have more of a homely feel as I don’t know how much I’d like being away from home in a hotel room for an extended period with what you are potentially about to go through. Get in touch with Womans aid asap and look up Clare’s law. Sending you love and positivity and kindness, you are a strong woman who will get through this! Xxx

If you're in danger, contact the police.

Have you checked universities? Some rent out their student halls over summer.

Depending on what type of accomodation, it could be a cheap solution. For example, I just looked at Reading University and if you went proper student (shared bathroom) it would be under £600 for three weeks. Obviously more expensive options available which offer more privacy but you can check here:

book.reading.ac.uk/stay/

Might be worth seeing if any of the London universities do the same? Otherwise it's quite easy to get to Reading Uni from London (Paddington to Reading is under 30 mins, 21 bus goes straight to the Uni) and if you need a hand I would be happy to help as I live just outside Reading.

Hey hey,
Firstly, I'm sorry you are going through this. You WILL come through it. Some great advice in the replies, a lot of which I am just repeating!

In case you're not quite thinking clear (I know I wouldn't be) here's a checklist for you. I hope it helps:

• Whatever you book, make sure you have a kitchenette and private bathroom so you're not spending money on takeaways and you can feel safe. Perhaps book a London travelodge for a day or 2 whilst you form a longer term plan?
• Pack ASAP in case you have to go sooner than you anticipate: medications, cosmetics, passport/license, cards, clothes, devices, chargers and cash.
• Move some money/make sure you have your own money in an account he cannot see/access.
• Change all your passwords in case things get nasty: email, banking, social media. Get private access to an Amazon account so that you can order absolutely anything you need to your location, wherever you end up.
• Turn off all GPS/tracking on your phone so that if you post to social media you cannot be tracked. YouTube will show you how to do this for your phone.
• Tell someone that you absolutely trust, roughly where you are headed.Try not to think about the wedding for the next few days. Your safety and peace of mind is priority, everything else can wait.

Re somewhere to stay: Air B&B offer discounts for 1 week/1 month stays. RoomForTea offers affordable midterm accommodation for students but may give you a place to stay. LastMinute.com offer secret hotels for cheaper than they would usually be. Travelodge is cheaper than Premier Inn. The further North/away from London you go, the cheaper accom tends to be.

If in doubt, call the relevant charity pertaining to your concern and they may be able to direct you in your next steps if you don't feel able to plan.

I cancelled my wedding with 1 month to go and I do not regret it. You're doing the right thing getting some breathing space.
Look after yourself x

Depends what your priority is. Luxury or cost? If you can travel but don't want to spend too much then Airbnb private room is probably your best bet. This place has a desk to work at and wifi... abnb.me/hSLCOid8Wrb

For the actual love of god, do not marry him.

Also, as a reminder, if you do go to friends or family, you do not have to say why. You can just say you have cold feet and need some time to sort your own head out. If a friend came to me saying that, they would get hot tea, a listening ear if/when they needed it, and no intrusive questions at all.

Well until op explains (if indeed they do. Obviously they don't have to) we have no idea if op is overreacting to a late paid parking ticket or murder.......

I doubt its a late parking ticket.. it would help if we knew what the allegations were and how OP suddenly found out but thats her choice if she wants to share.

Exactly. She wants all the attention for the mystery crime, yet it's clearly minor enough that she's still undecided about marrying him.

Then you are in danger. You need to contact the police and let people know in real life. You need to face reality.

You need to get the hell out. When a monster's mask slips or when a partner tries to leave, that's when it is MOST dangerous.

They are not necessarily cheap though. Days Inn and Holiday Inn express might be worth a look, or spareroom or even a bnb.

@Butterflymosaic have you seen the price of caravans in the school holidays?Well over £100 a night.

You poor woman, is there no-one you can go and stay with? If a friend of mine was in such a distraught state, I would offer the use of my spare room for as long as she needed. I hope you find somewhere soon.

OP don't go and hide in a hotel or a caravan. Find out the details of the arrest/crime, and go from there.

Then tell people you trust. When you get to my age, you realise that today's headlines are tomorrow's chip paper, most people have seen it all already, and nobody cares about other people's lives really, past a 5 minute 'oh wow can you believe that', after which something interesting comes on tele and they move on to that instead. Certainly don't ruin your life to keep up appearances that noone cares much about anyway.

Can you find a friend or do the pet sitting, that will be free,

What she wants is some help finding somewhere cheap to stay for a little while whilst she processes the (clearly distressing) information she has been given, and seeks to check its validity. This takes time to do, and understandably she’d like to do it somewhere safe. I’m sure she’s very much hoping that it’s all a terrible mistake and so her wedding to a man that until today she thought was her soulmate will still go ahead. Sadly a lot of the rest of us (or people we are close to) have been there, done that, got the t shirt. I didn’t know what the fuck to do when I finally realised the truth about my ex”DH”, I remember running away (to family initially). It took me quite some time to be able to focus and see things clearly, and to believe what a total bastard he actually was.

@Maybeebebe The op has already said it was some type of assault. We don’t need specifics to try to help someone in need. It’s very clearly not a parking ticket.

Hard to keep up appearances when you or your kid have a smashed mouth/burns/internal bleeding. Swallow the pride or the fear of disappointing people or whatever it is and take sensible decisions now. Also if he has done something "unbelievable" to his ex and was arrested for it I don't know why you'd want him holding your hand or in your inbox let alone having his penis inside you. Time to leave, no?

What she wants is help finding reasonably priced accommodation.

She hasn't explained why she can't go on the Premier Inn website herself and sort the results from Low to High.

It's not clearly anything except drip feeding for drama

Ex DIL had to find somewhere cheap to live between sale of marital home and purchase of new flat going through. Premier Inns and travel lodges near to motorways/main roads not near town centres are the cheapest!

They're not being an arse

If you discovered your fiancé had done a terrible thing in the past,would you still consider marriage?

'I learned something SHOCKING, I'm SHAKING because its UBELIEVABLE what this MONSTER did'... click here to find out more (seem familiar?)

Your writing and wording whilst also being entirely vague is exactly how clickbait is written... are you a journalist?