Please help me find the cheapest Premier Inn for 3 weeks - sanity depends on this

[viaprox]

Hi,

I have learned something shocking about my fiancé. It has totally made me question whether we should even get married in, almost exactly, a month.

I think it would be beneficial to take some time apart to evaluate things.

I'm shaking literally from the unknown (also have a bad/weird feeling I may be pregnant).

Please advise where I should decamp for a couple/3 weeks.

drawacircleroundit probably not but the OP is clearly struggling to process whatever it is at the moment. Practical help finding somewhere to stay is probably the most helpful to her than sharing details at the moment.

No!

OP, getting out of London would probably be the cheapest option, as well as using an AirBNB. But where are your family and friends? Wouldn't it be useful to have a sounding board right now? Whether the information you have is true or not.

i discovered he was arrested

Is this recent? Was he charged? Its very vague.

im not finding much of a £ diff between Air BnB and PI

Isolating yourself for 3 weeks probably won't help the situation. Have you got any real life family/friends you can lean on?

What about one of the Staycity apart-hotels? Might be cheaper. There are a few across the UK

Staycity

Is this recent? Was he charged? Its very vague.

Months before we met, pertaining to his last partner

Farnborough is the only PI in the south east that's not sold out. And its £500+ for a week. There's more in the south west but they're all £500+ for the week too.

Sunderland is the cheapest I've found at £410 for the week but then you'd have travel expenses on top.

Agree an Airbnb might be better / cheaper.

Lots of people get arrested. I was interviewed under caution for jaywalking...

I've always protected/covered up despicable behavior even as a child.

I have plenty of people I could lean on but my fear is that I share the situation yet ultimately resolve on going fwd with our plans...I want to keep up the appearance that we are perfect for whatever reason...cannot talk myslef out of this

QuestionableMouse - thank you, saw similar

Was he arrested for assaulting or hurting his previous partner, is this something you can discuss with the police. Do you know anymore about what happened. The Bromley travelodge have rooms available which is not far from central London.

I would look just outside of central london - depending on where you are - and check travel lodge as well as premier inn. Eg Clapham and Putney, still London but a bit cheaper. Or if you carry on south from there, Epsom/Chessington/Kingston/Tolworth all seem to be around £60 per night currently.

You can speak to the police about a Claires Law request if he has a history of abuse

Are you doing a Clare’s Law application about him?

As it’s summer holidays they might not be cheap enough - but have a look at caravan holiday parks - a bit more living space and a kitchen, better than just a hotel room.

Was he arrested for assaulting or hurting his previous partner

yes, for something unbelievable

Have you looked at hotels near the airport. Might be worth ringing them and speak to the reservation teams. You can often get good deals if you are staying more than a night or two.

This is a worrying statement, @viaprox Why were you brought up to cover up despicable behaviour? This suggests you have grown up in an abusive family, and are now with an abusive partner.

It’s good that you have recognised the need to get away and be safe. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to friends/ family, what about an organisation such as Woman’s Aid?

I’m an hour outside London. The TL here would be £540 for the week.

Chelmsford in Essex is coming up cheapest in essex about an hour by train from Liverpool Street

I stopped telling people what my ex did to me as it was ‘unbelievable’

to be fair I felt the same having known him for 6 years and deliberately conceived with him I certainly wasn’t expecting him to come at me and my tiny dd with an ax or to stalk the house I fled to and message my mum with details of what he could see me doing through the window

please op, at least postpone the wedding.

how long have you known this guy?

Was he charged? Who told you about it? Have you discussed it with him?

Ring up Premier Inn as they will do a search for you and will also offer you a discount for a 3 week booking. However you may find a week is enough if you're alone and can do some serious thinking. It's amazing just knowing you have 3 weeks now to hunker down and think about things without the stress of dealing with him or needing to tell anyone can help.