Creepy neighbour 2

[Mooshamoo]

I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I bought a house six months ago in a medium town in Ireland. Two middle aged men live next to me.

I posted here that I was on holiday last week, and these men got my estate agent to ring me to see where I was. They are friends with my local estate agent.

They said they were worried about me. This creeped me out as I instantly got the feeling that they werent worried about me, they just wanted to know where I was. I felt it was very intrusive and over the top.

If there was a young woman living alone next to me and I hadn't seen her for a week,I wouldn't dream of getting an estate agent to ring her. It is totally creepy.

Now I am back in my house, my neighbours are creeping me out more. Many times that I go into my front garden, the men come out and stare at me.

For example I went out to cut my front lawn.
I was cutting my front lawn, and the man next door came out into his front garden, and just stared at me the whole time.

Then this morning I went out to pick up a delivery. Next door , he was walking out of his front garden. But when he saw me come into my garden, he stopped walking, just stood there and stayed in his garden and stared at me until I went back in. They never say a word. Just stare.

What do I do. I'm starting to feel really upset in this house. I wanted to have a nice private house. Now I'm starting to feel uncomfortable every time I go out.

Would love an update OP. I just find two unmarried brothers living in the same house such a strange thing. Is it really that common for men not to marry and stay at the same family house in Ireland? I mean it isn’t exactly helping their chances. I agree you’re like a celebrity to them for the time being. I would say “hi are you okay?” (without smiling) because the response would say a lot.

The do what?????

They

Make them uncomfortable back and get right to the point.

"I notice that every time I'm outside, you stand and stare at me. Why do you do that?"

'I just find two unmarried brothers living in the same house such a strange thing. Is it really that common for men not to marry and stay at the same family house in Ireland?'

I can easily believe it, I'm in Scotland and know plenty of examples, including within my own family. I think it's dying out a bit now though.

Update is- I sent the estate agent a message.

I said "if the neighbours ever ask you to call me again, please respect my privacy and say no. I don't want to get a call every time I go away". It was a longer message than that but that was the gist.

He replied-" will surely do, we were worried about you"

I bumped into one of my neighbours. A different neighbour, also an older male, a few houses down on my other side.

He said "I was wondering where you were"

I was literally away for just over a week! I wouldn't notice if he went away for a week.

I nearly have to laugh. I'm definitely the only woman living alone on that street, and I think they are definitely extremely nosy about what I am doing.

I've told the estate agent not to call me again.

I have to say I think it is disgusting in this day and age that single women must be treated as an oddity for living on their own.

I have had a problem with sexist handyman here and there. Calling me doll and babe as part of their everyday conversation. Unprofessional if you ask me. I moved up to a small market town 14 years ago and noticed how unusual some men perceive it. I moved up from London where there are loads of single women and single parents and nobody batters an eyelid. At one point the plumber would ring me up to check if my central heating was still working. They must think we are gagging for some male attention.

I remain living on my own as I prefer it! Do they honestly think we cannot bag a man. I do not feel incomplete not having a partner in the least. The peace and quiet is great especially now ds is 17.