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Two burgers and chips is too much?

180 replies

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 20/07/2022 18:21

Just that. Everyone else is having bolognaise but H doesn’t want it. We have some burgers in the fridge so trying to be nice I said he can have burgers.
now he’s sulking because I won’t go to the supermarket to buy burger cheese and some frozen chips! For clarity he doesn’t drive so it would be difficult for him to go but I’ve said why do you want chips when you’ve asked for two burgers.
for clarity it’s two large burgers in buns with salad and was going to put potato salad and coleslaw on the side. But he wants chips!
he’s now saying he doesn’t want anything.

iabu- chips with two burgers is fine
ianbu- two burgers are plenty.

OP posts:
SleepingStandingUp · 20/07/2022 20:43

Yabu burgers and chips is fine.
Yanbu not running off to fetch him chips

Animallover87 · 20/07/2022 20:43

My vagina sealed up just reading that. Soooo unattractive 🤮

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2022 20:45

because I have 40 miles of fuel in my car until Friday when I get paid.

I mean you could bill your time out and mileage. May I suggest £5 a mile plus £100 an hour for the concierge service?

Is he also mean and controlling with money?

diamondpony80 · 20/07/2022 20:45

Even if DH didn't fancy bolognese he'd probably just eat it anyway because it's what everyone else is eating. But if he REALLY didn't like something I cooked he'd just go and make something else for himself. And he'd use what's in the house rather than expecting me to go to the shop.

Goodskin46 · 20/07/2022 20:49

Madness, " what's happening with dinner?" And " what were thinking of for dinner?" also " remind me what the plan is" Are banned phrases in this house. DC are 18 & 15 I will cook if I feel like it for anyone who wants to eat what I cook. I don't cook every night, I am not a short order chef. Although I will make Dd(15) pasta.

wildingtree · 20/07/2022 20:52

western world decadence, flapping over a burger and chips.
fuck i think we need to get some perspective.

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UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 20/07/2022 20:53

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2022 20:45

because I have 40 miles of fuel in my car until Friday when I get paid.

I mean you could bill your time out and mileage. May I suggest £5 a mile plus £100 an hour for the concierge service?

Is he also mean and controlling with money?

No. He just doesn’t earn very much. I work two jobs one full time and then a part time job evenings and weekends.
I do make sure that I spend money on myself and dc though. I take them on holiday when he doesn’t want to go. We have one family holiday a year, well did but now ds is too old to come on holiday with us (his choice at 20 and at uni) so just dd now and then I usually go away with my mum and then with just dd this year. Was all dc on my own before.

I just have a poor month as had to pay for a few things and need a new car. So squirrelling money away for that as I don’t want to take out finance.

OP posts:
wildingtree · 20/07/2022 20:53

Is he also mean and controlling with money?

obvs, LTB.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2022 20:55

I work two jobs one full time and then a part time job evenings and weekends.

Then I can se why you have neither the time nor inclination to offer three meals! And shop for ingredients while cooking them.

Badgirlriri · 20/07/2022 20:55

He sounds hangry.

EmJay19 · 20/07/2022 20:56

DH is BU.
Rude in first place for asking for something else then sulking like a toddler because you won’t run around after him is pathetic

TheWeeDonkey · 20/07/2022 20:58

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 20/07/2022 20:53

No. He just doesn’t earn very much. I work two jobs one full time and then a part time job evenings and weekends.
I do make sure that I spend money on myself and dc though. I take them on holiday when he doesn’t want to go. We have one family holiday a year, well did but now ds is too old to come on holiday with us (his choice at 20 and at uni) so just dd now and then I usually go away with my mum and then with just dd this year. Was all dc on my own before.

I just have a poor month as had to pay for a few things and need a new car. So squirrelling money away for that as I don’t want to take out finance.

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Please tell me he gives you the kind of orgasms that make you forget your name and still feel your toes tingling the next day because I can't see anything positive or even neutral he adds to your life.

BMWqueen · 20/07/2022 21:01

My fella can eat 4 burgers and chips in 1 sitting and a McFlurry and milkshake after lol and he’s super skinny
I love chips they have to go with everything

ecosystem · 20/07/2022 21:02

Change his nappy and put him to bed

Spaceprincess · 20/07/2022 21:03

ManBaby says what??
YANBU

godmum56 · 20/07/2022 21:10

I am asking this a lot lately.....why do you stay?

Mum2jenny · 20/07/2022 21:14

If you have potatoes in the house, he can make his own chips. Take a potato, cut it into chip shapes, parboil, toss in oil, put in oven till crispy. Job done.

Ottersmith · 20/07/2022 21:16

Is this your husband or your son?? Why are you even making his dinner any more? He sounds awful and I would leave him.

MrsRhodes · 20/07/2022 21:20

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 20/07/2022 18:21

Just that. Everyone else is having bolognaise but H doesn’t want it. We have some burgers in the fridge so trying to be nice I said he can have burgers.
now he’s sulking because I won’t go to the supermarket to buy burger cheese and some frozen chips! For clarity he doesn’t drive so it would be difficult for him to go but I’ve said why do you want chips when you’ve asked for two burgers.
for clarity it’s two large burgers in buns with salad and was going to put potato salad and coleslaw on the side. But he wants chips!
he’s now saying he doesn’t want anything.

iabu- chips with two burgers is fine
ianbu- two burgers are plenty.

You gave him permission to have something else is what I’m reading - he is a grown man and shouldn’t require his partners permission.

However, if he wants something not available then he needs to sort himself out with going to the shop etc.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 20/07/2022 21:21

Seriously, all this shit about “oh he’s a grown man, he should be allowed to eat what he likes”… do none of you people have a food budget??

If, like the OP, I’ve already cooked a perfectly decent meal then people don’t just get to opt out of it and decide to fuck off to the shop to buy more food when there are alternatives in the freezer, or to call JustEat for chips FFS!

BMWqueen · 20/07/2022 21:21

Leave him ? Over fucking chip haha bit extreme int it

Jolinar · 20/07/2022 21:22

You want to blame the lifeguard for not seeing 1 person in 30? Yet you and your DH, who are only responsible for 3 people, 1 of whom can't move were unable to do your job?

Jolinar · 20/07/2022 21:22

Clearly the wrong thread!

pepsirolla · 20/07/2022 21:24

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 20/07/2022 18:24

I wouldn’t say scared of him but aware that his moodiness has the ability to ruin everyone’s day!

You are enabling him. If you get what he wants because he sulks he will sulk. Just explain calmly why he can't have something then walk away, literally if necessary with the family. Ignore sulks, difficult I know, re-engage only when he is being reasonable. If he sees no reaction or results from his sulks he should give up. This is usually advice for a 2 year old so guess the sulking is learned behaviour from his childhood. Really he needs to grow up. Good luck 💐

PurpleDaisies · 20/07/2022 21:24

BMWqueen · 20/07/2022 21:21

Leave him ? Over fucking chip haha bit extreme int it

You clearly aren’t reading the whole thread. This isn’t just about chips.

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