Two burgers and chips is too much?

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Just that. Everyone else is having bolognaise but H doesn’t want it. We have some burgers in the fridge so trying to be nice I said he can have burgers.
now he’s sulking because I won’t go to the supermarket to buy burger cheese and some frozen chips! For clarity he doesn’t drive so it would be difficult for him to go but I’ve said why do you want chips when you’ve asked for two burgers.
for clarity it’s two large burgers in buns with salad and was going to put potato salad and coleslaw on the side. But he wants chips!
he’s now saying he doesn’t want anything.

iabu- chips with two burgers is fine
ianbu- two burgers are plenty.

your voting options are the same thing. but YABU to even ask if he’s being reasonable, surely you can see that for yourself?

BEhaving. Obviously..

1. he won't learn to drive
2. he won't buy his own food
3. he won't cook his own food
4. and now he's going to sulk.

He could get the bus and cook his own dinner. 🤷‍♀️

Good grief. There have been a few threads on silly, baby-men lately. Sulking and not wanting anything because he can’t have chips instead of perfectly good potato salad puts him near the top of the list for ridiculous behaviour. Why is it always the ones who can’t drive or help out that are the worst?

You said husband, but did you actually mean 7 year old DS??

Did you really think this was worth posting?

It's obviously worth something to OP. And now plenty of people have given their opinion and told her how his behaviour really isn't acceptable.

What is she getting from your post? What are you getting from it?

Well 3 pages of replies so far, so yes!

I hope you've put him on the naughty step op.

Oh, OP,

This is rubbish ☹️

What other ways do his moods dictate the way the family lives?

I know this is a light hearted post, but it's not really x

I noticed the missing "D", as in DH !
I thought you were talking about a difficult toddler at first.

He’s welcome to have something different but then it’s all on him to get it. I can understanding wanting the chips and cheese though, but he should be the one to get it. Tough he doesn’t drive, maybe situations like this can be an incentive if there is no underlying reason he cannot.

Typical controlling behaviour by your DH.
I’m guessing he’ll sulk for ages now. The next time he doesn’t want to eat what everyone else is having, you’ll pander to his needs because you won’t want to upset him & endure another sulking period.
You have 2 choices..
A) Be assertive & stand your ground. If he doesn’t want Spag Bol, fine, his choice. Will have to make a sandwich or whatever.
B) Get in the car, drive to the nearest food shop & buy whatever he wants.
The latter option is clearly enabling his behaviour, but I totally get it that sometimes it’s better to suck it up to avoid the bad mood, which affects everyone.
Good Luck!

Tell him to grow up. He can eat what's on offer (bolognese) or sort himself out. Just like you'd do with the children.

Weird behaviour.

Can't he just ram a slice of cheese into a burger bun so it's a cheesy burger? (Assume you have cheese in the fridge.)

Or make his own chips in the oven with a potato?

Do you do everything for him?

And why doesn't he drive?

I thought this was about a sulky child not a grown man. Let the silly sod go hungry - or if he insists on chips, then walk to the shop to buy some.

Did somebody say “Just Eat”?

YABU 2 burgers and chips are fine and as an adult you can’t decide what is and is not an appropriate amount for him to eat.

However he is being very U expecting you to go to the shop just to buy chips!
I’m sure he can find something else to eat if the burger doesn’t fill him up.

If there is absolutely nothing else in the house to eat then he can ask nicely if you’ll take him to the shop so he can buy some - you shouldn’t have to shop for him.

What is the dynamic like in your relationship?
He is treating you like some sort of maid and it is not normal.

Good lord. Is he 4?

Why can't he drive?

If he wants two burgers and chips he can. It's up to him.

What he can't do is pack you off to the shop for him!

There are no chips in the house. Tough shit for him. He can have something else.

If the chips etc were in the house and you were trying to police his food I'd say yabu but they aren't and he's being a baby about it.

If my husband doesn't want to eat what I'm making for dinner then he will sort something to eat for himself. He's not a child that can't look after himself.

His behaviour really isn't normal, op. It's not your job to run around after him, making extra trips to the shop to buy in exactly what he wants. That's utter madness. My husband gets what he gets, if he wants something else, he makes it himself. Likewise if I haven't cooked for whatever reason, he just makes his own.
I couldn't be arsed to run around after a manchild trying to pacify him so he didn't ruin everyone's night.

Not defending him but I hate people who say this.

I can’t drive…because I can’t afford to learn, take
the exams and then buy and run a car

Chips with 2 burgers is fine but YANBU because he’s an adult, he can make it himself!

He needs to learn to drive for a start.

I don't think 2 burgers plus chips is unreasonable. Your 'd'h sounds frustrating though. Take him at his word for not being hungry 🤷‍♀️ he knows where the oven is if he changes his mind.