Two burgers and chips is too much?

[UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter]

Just that. Everyone else is having bolognaise but H doesn’t want it. We have some burgers in the fridge so trying to be nice I said he can have burgers.
now he’s sulking because I won’t go to the supermarket to buy burger cheese and some frozen chips! For clarity he doesn’t drive so it would be difficult for him to go but I’ve said why do you want chips when you’ve asked for two burgers.
for clarity it’s two large burgers in buns with salad and was going to put potato salad and coleslaw on the side. But he wants chips!
he’s now saying he doesn’t want anything.

iabu- chips with two burgers is fine
ianbu- two burgers are plenty.

It may be that he has medical reasons that he can't learn to drive. But he can learn to bloody cook.

What a man child. Can't drive and can't even sort his own tea out. Could not be with someone so useless

Okay so the burgers are not the problem.

How much of your life do you want to spend tip toeing around his moods, and what do you think your children are learing from this relationship?

He sounds like my 3 year old.

There is so much going on here that makes no sense in the context of 2 adults sorting out dinner.

1. why does he have to eat what you ‘nicely’ say he can eat? Why can’t he eat what the hell he likes?


2. if he wants to sulk about it, that’s his problem. Why are you even engaging with the sulk by making suggestions?


3. now he doesn’t want anything. Again, his problem.

he sounds like a whiny, immature, controlling manchild to me. I suggest you enjoy your bolognese and ignore him.

Yeah what exactly is he bringing to the table? OP is doing all the driving, cooking and shopping too by the sounds of it and this huffy prick is making the whole family miserable with his shitty moods. Boom zahramay first LTB of the day!

I mean I wouldn't want 2 burgers, I'd want 1 burger and chips. But I wouldn't sulk about it if chips isn't an option. He's being a dick.

When I first read it I thought your were referring to a child. Tell him to sort his own dinner. Also people who 'don't drive' are weird

In this house it would have been the bolognaise I'd planned or he can take over the cooking .

Sulking might well mean I never cooked for him again, but I've never lived with a man who thought that was an OK way to carry on.

Unfortunately you’re correct. This isnt a new thing. He’s quite old fashioned around food as in meat and veg whereas I would rather not eat meat eg I had already held back some of the tomato sauce without meat for me.

I’m not a huge fan of pasta but eat it as easier to make one meal everyone will eat rather than 4 different meals one for each person.

this probably is indicative of a bigger issue than just dinner but tonight it’s got to me.

do I tread on eggshells around him because if moods yes.

oh and yes the potato salad was already made. Homemade yesterday and lots left over half actually used all of the potatoes doing so. Food shop delivery is tomorrow.

@UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter
One of the saddest things I witnessed as a teenager was my friend, 17, with a newborn, living in a shitty bedsit panicking because she’d forgotten to buy Oven chips for her partner.
We scoured the local shops for them, and there weren’t any.
She was in tears over it.
He hit her over stuff like this.
He hit ME so hard he broke his hand when I stood up to him.
friend went to hospital with him and his broken hand-
He told staff he’d punched a bloke- not a slight teenaged girl.
Friend eventually left the lanky streak of piss.

Let him sulk, OP.

Two burgers and chips is standard for my DH - however I would be making clear that in this instance we don't have any chips so if he wants chips he has to go and buy some. Particularly as he's already rejected the spag Bol.

Lots of people don't/can't drive for medical reasons. Do you care to retract or rephrase that comment?

There are other potato’s based products in the freezer such as hash browns, waffle fries, curly fries and even sweet potato.

still feel two full on burgers and salads is plenty. I’m not the food police. I could do with losing weight myself and he’s recently complained that last summers shirts no longer fit!

Are you happy? Is this how you imagined your life would be?Think about this a while then act accordingly.Has he always been like this or is this new behaviour?No one should accept this from a so called adult.Good luck.

Why are you with him? Does he enhance your life in any way?

I don’t drive either. So I pre plan and buy what I want for my dinner because I’m not an utter moron. In 16 years there’s been literally 2 occasions where my oh and I haven’t eaten what the others cooked, him once because I made corned beef hash and he discovered he hated corned beef, and me once because he made a tomato pasta sauce that was inedibly watery. Both times we just sorted ourselves out though instead of expecting a second dinner cooking. If the oh wants to be a fussy fuck then what’s stopping him from asking ‘what’s for tea tonight’, and then sorting something else out if it’s something he doesn’t fancy?

Sorry. Lost me at ' doesn't drive '. I know, not everyone, blah blah blah. Just a bit shit.

Why can’t he make his own food if he doesn’t like the bolognaise that’s been offered?

he doesn’t care about the chips. He’s a controlling abuser who is making sure you know your place, setting you an unnecessary task and then punishing you when you refuse to let orders.

is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? At the beck and call of a controlling dickhead who treats you worse than a dog?

Another man-child. Makes me so happy I’m single!

In our house the ‘chef’ decides what’s for dinner and of you don’t like it you can sort your own. The burger is cheeky enough but asking you to go for chips is taking the piss.

Maybe he's craving it? What makes you not want to get it?

This. He can plan and make his own damn dinner. He wants chips? He should have made sure there were some in.

Ffs why is it for the op to go out to buy what he’s craving when she’s made another meal? He’s perfectly entitled to what burger and chips. The op is under no obligation to go and get it.