Insulted -lottery win offer

[Windypants21]

So no I haven't won the lottery nor has anyone I known of, but i was having a wistful conversation with my life long best friend about what we would do if we won the lottery.

Her conclusions ..She would buy a business and employ me as her front of house.

I on the other hand, would give her a large sum of money and let her get on with it.

I know this may sound petty and maybe I'm reading too much into this, and given the odds it is never going to happen , .... but is this how she views me ...an employee ?!

I did say to her so you would 'EMPLOY ME '..., which she had the good grace to sound embarrassed about and tried to dig herself out of the hole she had dug for herself...unsuccessfully.

Aibu to be insulted.

Oh, don’t be daft. I had the lottery convo with a friend the other day. I said if I won euromillions I’d fund all my friends to have a house and a nice life, she said she’d fund herself to have several nice houses, but we could use them as holiday homes.

It’s entirely, literally, a made-up problem.

Well, you’re both nicer than me because I wouldn’t give anyone jack shit.

Well I doubt she would have you on minimum wage!

A casual conversation about a hypothetical situation.
I think you're being unfair in her. She was chatting about daydreams. Not making a life plan or ranking her friends in order of usefulness.

I'm sure that if i'm asked how I'd spend £500mil I'd say something that could offend someone if they were feeling sensitive.

Don't fall out about this.

Dump her. You just don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

This made me laugh aloud!

It made me recall a really funny drunken convo with my sister a few years ago where we were coming up with outrageous ideas for all the twatty things we could do if we won the lottery - being absolutely dickish about it, flaunting our new-found wealth and swanning about like absolute terrors. All for laughs 'cos we'd definitely give plenty to our nearest and dearest and plenty to charities & worthy causes if we ever did, actually, win loads of cash, but remembering that conversation always makes me laugh!

My husband and I once had a big row on which house on right move we would buy if we won the lottery. I did not like his choice and said I’d live on my own in my (better) house then, I was almost crying (we don’t even do the lottery)

Maybe she thought you'd be insulted by the offer of a (hypothetical) handout, and that a nice job for life would be a more dignified way to help you? I would not be insulted by a handout

I'd send my close friends enough to sort them out for life, so they could do what they wanted rather than struggling to live. They could buy a house and continue working if they want, but it would be because they enjoy it, not because they can't afford it. Not sure if they'd do the same for me, but it's what I'd do.

We were having one of those hypothetical conversations once and a friend of my DH shat all over my philanthropic business idea I have as part of my lottery win pipedream. Royally pissed me off as I was thinking 'get over yourself, this is the hypothetical mega million conversation. It doesn't have to be realistic, THATS NOT THE POINT!'.

Get over yourself.

YABU to be offended over an entirely hypothetical lottery conversation which I assume was lighthearted.

It also depends how much you are talking - £2m or £103m. Isn't it better to give you a well paid job for life than a non-lifechanging sum up front?

Oh god, I've told all my friends which high paying amazing job they will have in my lottery win business!!! (this dream requires £150m though!)

From my experience what people say they will do IF they come into a substantial amount of money and what they actually do - is so different in reality. People are a lot less generous when actual money is involved in my experience.

I wouldn’t even tell my friends I’d won the lottery. I wouldn’t tell anyone bar my parents. Too much scope for it to become public knowledge and for the hangers-on to come crawling out of the woodwork.

It might not sound as generous as giving real money, but I'd tend to think that a job you love pretty much for life with a really great manager would be far more use and much more satisfying over the long term than a one off gift of money.

But. It worth getting upset about something which let's face it, probably will not happen.

I actually don’t think yabu, but as pp said it does depend on the amount. If she was the lucky person than won the euromil last night (191m!) then I would definitely be miffed. Mainly because if the roles were reversed I would set her up for life and then some! A million win is a different story.

Dump her. You don't need friends like that.

I can hand on my heart say I'd give maybe 95% away. Lump sums to friends for whatever they choose but the bulk to good causes/cancer/children/home town/anyone who needs it really. It would make life easier but it doesn't bring happiness. Not to me anyway.

I wouldn't even tell my parents if I had a big win. Or I'd tell people it was a far smaller win and I was intent on spending it all.

It's hypothetical.

I'm not sure what I'd do. Maybe if a friend was really struggling I'd give them money but otherwise with others, probably not.

ha well did you ask what the salary would be 😂might not be so bad if she had some spare millions.

I wouldn't tell anyone so they'd be getting absolutely nothing. It's on you that you want to give away hypothetical money. If you're insulted that she doesn't maybe get over yourself.

I can see what you're insulted and you're not unreasonable in feeling so. She'd want you to be her reception bitch whereas you'd share your good fortune with her!

Unless this is light-hearted and your relationship is one of taking the piss out of each other?

HAHAHA, I spat my coffee out at this 😂

My parents had a major fallout about what they would do if they won the lottery. My dad said he would not leave work. My mum was - WHAT IS THE POINT OF WINNING IF YOU CARRY ON WORKING!!
They never won the lottery.