Insulted -lottery win offer

[Windypants21]

So no I haven't won the lottery nor has anyone I known of, but i was having a wistful conversation with my life long best friend about what we would do if we won the lottery.

Her conclusions ..She would buy a business and employ me as her front of house.

I on the other hand, would give her a large sum of money and let her get on with it.

I know this may sound petty and maybe I'm reading too much into this, and given the odds it is never going to happen , .... but is this how she views me ...an employee ?!

I did say to her so you would 'EMPLOY ME '..., which she had the good grace to sound embarrassed about and tried to dig herself out of the hole she had dug for herself...unsuccessfully.

Aibu to be insulted.

If I did win a massive amount of money, even the few people I would tell wouldn't be finding out the exact amount won any time soon.

Mortgage gone. Work told to go forth and multiply. Money set aside for kids. Pay off a couple of friends mortgages/sort them out. New car.

Then a period of just getting used to the concept of having no worries for the rest of your days.

It’s like Jacquie sulking because Martin had sexy dreams about Princess Diana.

So her dream was to own and run a business and work with her friends. You are seeing from the point of view of what she'd give you (and what you'd give her). She's seeing it from point of view 'what would I like my life to look like? I'd like to own my own restaurant, and staff it will all the loveliest people I know, so I never have to work with assholes again.'

If I won the lottery I wouldnt tell my friends lol Smart people dont tell anyone.

If I won 190 million, I would give 20 million amongst family and friends, buy a house and a holiday home and set up a charity trust with 50 million with my friend who has experience of this , that would both keep Us busy and give me great pleasure to look after and help great causes

DH and I have argued over this hypothetical problem! He would want to give money to everyone he knows including many of his toxic family members that we don't even like (and he has a very large extended family). Outside my absolute immediate family I wouldn't even tell anyone I'd won the lottery (if I could get away with it). It's not that I'm greedy because I'd donate plenty to the causes I'm interested in. It just sounds like more trouble than its worth having everyone coming to you looking for money all the time (as I know many of my in laws would!)

Also how much of a win are you talking?

1 million sounds like a lot but national average says I should live another 45+ years so that only £22,222 a year, I also have kids to be the main financial support for another 16 years. So 1 million is NOT a lot, it would allow us comfort, knowing we have money for old age, the ability to buy a house out right cutting morgage interest and not to work if we choose but still only an 'average' life.

This is a pie in the sky conversation, I would never fall out with her over this conversation but we both did go on to acknowledge that if we did work together there would be a blood bath as we would kill each other !!! Which sort of makes her choice all the odder.

I suppose it shocked me because my feeling is that I would set my friends up if it was obscene money ..or at least pay off a mortgage new car holiday if it was just a few million region. But I would never, never never employ them. The dynamic change would be hard enough to negotiate, never mind telling them what to do.

Like I said this just got me thinking that despite a lifetime of friendship I didn't think we would be so polar opposite on something this.

Anyway I've laughed and enjoyed the replies ! 😁

Assuming we are discussing large wins of tens or even hundreds of millions, I think it's a bit of a failure of imagination when people talk about buying a business, or even just how they'd invest. You have more money than you can spend, you should be wasting exactly zero seconds of your remaining life thinking about how to make more.

(Or maybe these people are better than me at imagining things to spend money on.)

@Getoff Most lottery winners buy a business because most people do not want to do nothing for the rest of their lives. It is not about making money.

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I just don’t get people like him and Jeff Bezos. They have so much money between them
they could make a real difference to the world, yet all they want to do is play with rockets and dream about inhabiting other planets.

See it as the compliment it is. Her dream is too have a business - no doubt she would be working in this business too (not simply sat on her sofa spending money) She sees you as someone she would like to work with.

Seems like you would rather have a hand out and sit on your arse!!

Me and my husband have had our most, erm, robust debates over how much we would give our family and friends from our lottery win.

I believe we should give everyone the same.

My husband believes we should assess everyone's financial situation and allocate money accordingly.

I think that's a twatty 'lady bountiful' way and he thinks my way means people who don't need money are getting some at the expense of people who do

Like pp. We don't play the lottery.

Sorry to explain a joke but she's saying if she won the lottery there would be no "us" any more, she would LTB!

I wouldn't give anything to my friends but I would do some of the following; buy myself investment properties and allow them to live in them, invest in their businesses, pay for them to retrain.

No, I get that, but what I mean is they are married so he would get half of the money!

Only family I have are my children and parents and only a couple of close ish friends that I wouldn’t want a penny off if they won so wouldn’t be telling anyone apart from my family, there’s a couple of charities I would donate to

See this is why if i won the lottery i would just like to win about £2 million would be just a nice amount to win (for me) and not enough to feel like you have to help every Tom Dick and Harry out

I have a spare grip I am not using, you are welcome to borrow it.

That makes it even worse. The point of a business is to make money, if you're goal is not to make money, why do something where that is the primary purpose?

If you really like managing people, or building things, or writing code, or something else that people usually do for money, then do those things as part of an enterprise that doesn't have a goal of maximising financial return. Something can be optimised for enjoyment, or for making money, it's unlikely that exactly the same thing will perfectly serve both purposes.

Lots of people run lifestyle businesses. Like the people near my in-laws with some sheep and chickens and a few crops playing at being farmers. Their set up is too small to sustain more than on the verge of starvation income, but they seem to have plenty of income. They are playing at it.

This is a classic example of how people actively look to take offence about nothing.

Life must be exhausting and so unpleasant when every little conversation has scope for offence within it.

My friend said she’d buy a ranch where we live and I could go live with her. Lol. I hate where we live. Think bigger lady!

So you prefer your friend to think of you as a charity case?