Insulted -lottery win offer

[Windypants21]

So no I haven't won the lottery nor has anyone I known of, but i was having a wistful conversation with my life long best friend about what we would do if we won the lottery.

Her conclusions ..She would buy a business and employ me as her front of house.

I on the other hand, would give her a large sum of money and let her get on with it.

I know this may sound petty and maybe I'm reading too much into this, and given the odds it is never going to happen , .... but is this how she views me ...an employee ?!

I did say to her so you would 'EMPLOY ME '..., which she had the good grace to sound embarrassed about and tried to dig herself out of the hole she had dug for herself...unsuccessfully.

Aibu to be insulted.

I told my friend I was hiring a house with Aircon and a big pool near where she lives, she told me she was moving in. We love the Lottery what if's.

My OH and I were having this conversation the other day.
I was listing the friends and family I would give money too...

He said and how many of those would give anything to you if they were the ones to win...

I also wouldn't tell anyone. Not because I wouldn't want to be seen as a cash cow, but because it is just asking for division and competitiveness and as your friend is finding out, OP, there are people who will hate you no matter how much you do for them. In fact, the more you try to do for them, the more they resent you.

Don’t fall out over pish.

My colleague is buying me a lighthouse if he wins. He says I am nice if I’m near water.

If I win? He wants to stop work.

We are simple souls.

(If I ever won a huge amount like £195 million? 180 million of it would be for charity. I can make my small circle of family and a few colleagues and neighbours very comfortable with the rest.)

I’d still have a lighthouse if I won. That would be the dream. I’d hope that my colleague would drive me to the shops if he didn’t have to go to work. 😄

truth to those that say people are a lot less generous with real money - it is the reality. Elon Musk, for example, has had a full costed proposal from the UN World Food programme to end world hunger for about £5bn. And he's spending it on rockets and court cases with Twitter. Lots of other people normal people are no different. Just ask a charity fundraiser.

Are you 10?!

@ackeeandpeas

Just to say that a very big yacht can be incredibly hard to find a mooring for anywhere in the world. So it might end up being a real pain in the arse.

[chuck that into the debate and see what happens!]

I will do that, but I suspect the saddos dreamers have already thought about that, because they also got upset when my friend pointed out she didn't want to be uncomfortably bobbing about parked offshore for weeks on end on this imaginary yacht. Only for DH and his friend to both round on her with "well obviously it will have gyro stabilisers and you will be perfectly comfortable in all conditions!", etc.

I think they're at the point of imagination taking over from reality regarding this bloody boat. 🤦🏻‍♀️

The people who give the most are the poorest. It is why foodbank are really struggling as those that tend to give are now struggling themselves and do not always have money to give.
I have found the same in my volunteering. I used to run lots of free or very cheap kids activities. It was always the families with the least that would be offering money to help out or old toys and craft activities. Virtually never the well-off families.

To those who wouldn't tell anyone. It's likely to be obvious if you want to enjoy the money. I guess they won't actually know it was a lottery win as it could have been an inheritance, but it will be obvious as people change.

I'd not want to flaunt it but I'd move house, work fewer hours, and buy my children homes. That would be enough for people to know something is up.

These are always interesting debates because what do people classify as a “friend”? I can see me upsetting a lot of people who maybe think they’re closer friends than they are 😱

Well, after a little display of that sort, I wouldn't even offer my friend a job after the lottery winnings came rolling in. 😂

Honestly? I wouldn't tell anyone except my closest family. Friends wouldn't even know I'd won.

I liked this letter in the paper a few weeks back.

If she can't even be generous to you in a hypothetical lottery win, then she is likely to mean in real life.

You now know how she sees you. I'm guessing you are the giving one in this friendship? I'd be re-assessing how much I do for her.

I have it all planned out - if I won £191 million I would give 70 or 80 people I know £2 mil each but totally anonymously with a legal obligation that 10 percent be given to a charity of their choice - then you cover a lot of different charities.

It's not a very well-worded letter. As her husband he would presumably be entitled to half the lottery win, so it would ruin them both if they split because of it.

yep, unreasonable. she was paying you a compliment as part of a fantasy.

No one would know if I ever won

Well they probably would to be honest because I'd be faster than a speeding bullet off to a very remote cottage in the Outer Hebrides so that I wouldn't have to engage with them ever again
I don't like people 😁

Why don't you wait until she wins the lottery and then decide to be insulted?

This is why I don’t play the lottery.
I wouldn’t want to risk winning!

Perhaps you are someone who has voiced on many occasions that you would never give up work if you won a load of money because you enjoy working

I think she gave you a compliment, maybe it came out wrong to you, but it was definitely a compliment.

Ditto!

The people who give the most are the poorest.

Exactly. I find the posts from people saying they would give most of it to charity quite nauseating. Virtue signalling at its most annoying.

Balls - quote fail - that was for @HelloBunny

Agree, the hypothetical depends on the hypothetical amount.
If I won £190m. Well that's me, mu kids, family and friends able to live for free.
If it were £1m, that probably wouldn't get split further than thr kiss.