Insulted -lottery win offer

[Windypants21]

So no I haven't won the lottery nor has anyone I known of, but i was having a wistful conversation with my life long best friend about what we would do if we won the lottery.

Her conclusions ..She would buy a business and employ me as her front of house.

I on the other hand, would give her a large sum of money and let her get on with it.

I know this may sound petty and maybe I'm reading too much into this, and given the odds it is never going to happen , .... but is this how she views me ...an employee ?!

I did say to her so you would 'EMPLOY ME '..., which she had the good grace to sound embarrassed about and tried to dig herself out of the hole she had dug for herself...unsuccessfully.

Aibu to be insulted.

Dump her. You don't need friends like that

These sorts of responses are mad. It was an idle conversation about a non-existent lottery win.

I would give it precisely less than zero headspace.

I would rather have 2 million thanks. i would never work again.

😂

I think it can mean she trusts you so much, that you’re the one she would want to run her business.

as others have said, she’d probably offer a generous salary.

Does 'front of house' mean running the business? Or does it mean sitting pretty on reception taking all the crap? Big difference!

She's just being honest. She could promise you millions, win on Saturday then not want to hand it over.
It's very easy to give away hypothetical millions.

Well aren't you just delightful

The thing is though that if you paid your friends a lot to work in your business, if they are not qualified to do the job properly then your business will go bust, so you won't have any friends left or a business!

It makes no difference to anything at all, because a) it's not happening, as nobody has won the lottery; and b) people have idle conversations all the time. It is completely meaningless!

I think it was sarcasm 🤭

Anyway, I'd share with my nearest and dearest, which is about 6 people - 3 of them being my kids.

DH, I and some friends had the theoretical EuroMillions win conversation last weekend over dinner and drinks.

DH and one of his friends had quite a lengthy, heated disagreement about the type of yacht that should be bought with the imaginary winnings because apparently the £20m yacht that would be amazing in the Med and the Bahamas wouldn't be suitable for going on expeditions in colder climes.

I was incredulous at how important this was to them both.

😂

Seriously? Dump a FRIEND just because she didn't give you a handout in a pretend story?!?!?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I actually think that's nice - not making you feel indebted forever, setting you up with a cushty job you'd like with a (presumably, hypothetical) good salary, so you get the benefits but you're not feeling like you've taken a handout forever.

(It's all entirely hypothetical and it's insane to be upset about it, but I think it's not offensive even if it was real!)

I found myself worrying the other day about how to use the stables & paddocks which came with my proposed Lottery house because I'm too old & knackered to ride or look after horses. After a bit I remembered all I had was a ticket (which didn't win).

I had this conversation with my colleagues 25+ years ago and we agreed that whoever won would pay off all our mortgages. I expect they are all paid off by now so I’d have to think of something else to do with the money.

DH and I argued over what we would do with 191 million.

I said I would give £10 mill each to my parents, his sister, our nieces and nephews and then I would blow the rest on houses, holidays and our Dcs future. Even then we would have enough left over to start our own charities never mind support them.

He was shocked and said he would not tell anyone and we would just squirrel it away on investments. But that we could probably pay for his sister to visit us via business class.

@SofiaSoFar we also had a yacht conversation. Just to say that a very big yacht can be incredibly hard to find a mooring for anywhere in the world. So it might end up being a real pain in the arse.

[chuck that into the debate and see what happens!]

@antelopevalley It would be the friend winning the £2m though. Then she might only give OP £25k because there's not much left once she's invested in her new business and bought a house/ given her mum some money or whatver. Instead she is offering her a job in the business she is investing in where she might give OP £50k a year. So she might think she is giving her more over a longer period.

Same!
I see OP's point though. If I did employ any of my friends it would be as 'C-suite' execs, or managers.
Not the most junior position LOL

I’d share only with my family if I won and a few charities close to heart. Anything else I’d spend or save. I’d probably take my close friends on a dream trip we all want to do but other then that no. It’s your potential money no one else’s.

Well I'd probably not even tell my pal, I must be awful 😆. I wouldn't want people to see me as a cash cow, I'd buy a larger house and better car but I'd have no desire to live the high life, so no one would know i won big. They'd just think I was doing OK at work. My husband would tell everyone and give lots away and buy his dream flashy car. As this will never happen I don't think we need to worry about it too much. I'd have laughed if my friend suggested that, my reply would be, you couldn't afford me!

Yeah, the biggest fallouts are usually over things that will never happen :-)

You may feel insluted, but do not keep that feeling for too long to affect your friendship.

This is like when Mark and Bridget broke up over whether or not they would sent their non-existent son to Eton.

FWIW, I'd very willing to sacrifice my pride for a £2m handout, please and thank you.

I think that her offer to employ you is hilarious, and your response was perfect! I think you need to think up something for next time you have the conversation. Like you'd buy her favourite chain of shops and give her a 5% discount on, generously, whatever she wanted.

I would employ my mates, what’s the fun of all that money if they’re at work all day?

LTB