AIBU to think I am engaged???

[EngagedRant]

I know I'm not, so this is more of a rant.

Been with DP a decade, always planned to get married, other life stuff got in the way, then covid. Earlier this year we thought, maybe let's go for it this year.

Looked around a few venues, booked one, booked registrar, invited everyone, wedding is later this year. Great.

But - because we don't have a consumerist wedding industry style romantic proposal story, and I haven't got a ring yet (I'm choosing it!) people seem confused. The number of times I've been asked - by people actually coming to the wedding - "so, are you engaged then?" <confused tilty head>

It's starting to really piss me off.

And whats probably prompted my rant is that even my (usually very sensible) DM asked me this question yesterday! Er - in what circumstances could you be coming to my wedding and the answer to that question is also no??

What is going on?? What on earth do I say when asked this ridiculous question??

Or AIBU?

eh?

'Because it's nice to share your good news with your friends and family?

Because most people care when their friends get engaged, get pregnant, buy a home, get promoted or have good things happen to them?

I love when good things happen to my friends - it makes me happy to see them happy, and the quickest way to share those things is via social media.'

This is NOT an experiance, its simply your opinions on how YOU feel about something that no one owes to tell you.

'it's nice to share your good news'

Many do not feel like that, many people view their lives as private and personal, they do not owe you a celebration.

"yes".

done!