Definitely reporting now - is 101 the right number?

[PinkStarAtNight]

I started a thread the other week about whether I should report neighbours to SS because of child screaming through the night, and other things like mum being drunk in pool and not looking after the small children, smoking weed etc

Just now I've heard really really loud bangs coming from next door. No idea what it was, kind of sounded like a window being bashed closed again and again or something heavy being smashed down on worktops. Then lots of screaming from mother - 'STOP! STOP NOW' This went on for a while. It was so loud it sounded like it was coming from our upstairs (it's a semi detached)

Then child screaming and crying, sounds like same child from the other night. She is the smallest one I think. A toddler.

Then their back door opened and the crying child was pushed outside, with mother screaming 'GET OUT NOW! GET OUT THERE!...ITS TOO MUCH EMI. TOO MUCH' Then she slammed the door shut. The other kids were outside on the swings. They are a bit older but still young. They were trying to comfort small crying child.

They were saying to mum through window 'mum I can't talk to her because she just keeps asking for the door to be opened'. The mum shouted back 'No!'

A few mins later mum opened door and growled 'get in here'. Child still crying. Then I heard her say to slightly older children 'right I'm going upstairs, sort her out and DO NOT let her upstairs because honest to god I've enough.'

All is quiet now, but I really do need to report now don't I? I am in hold to 101. Have been a while now. .

Is 101 the right number? Or now everything is quiet should it be NSPCC or SS?

I live at home with my mum. She has just got home and I've told her why I'm calling 101 and she says she doesn't want me to call because she doesn't want any trouble. She thinks the police will come here and we will be in trouble with the neighbours.

What should I do?

Please tell me you haven't hung up. Those poor kids need you. I would never forgive myself if I knew children were being treated like this and I ignored it. I did an about turn on Thursday night because I thought a teen girl was having problems with a lad and I wanted to go back and check if they were messing or she was genuinely distressed. They were just messing, but I couldn't turn a blind eye just in case someone thought I should keep my nose out.

The mother smokes week, not sure if booze was also mentioned. But I wouldn't knock a door in a highly charged situation where drugs are involved.

You are braver than me, it could really kick off, and this young person doesn't have the support of her mother who is telling her to stay out of it.

@PinkStarAtNight Hasn’t your mum been worried by any of it if she’s heard screaming etc at night? Could you maybe explain to the 999 handler that you’re worried about them being your neighbours etc I’m sure they’ve had that before.

Also to add my children are screamers, my youngest has learnt it from my eldest who has mild Aspergers and his first response to any form of answer her doesn’t like or if he knows he’s been caught doing a ‘naughty’ thing he will just instantly let out blood curdling ear splitting screams that go on and on. We aren’t doing anything other than saying things he doesn’t want to hear yet he makes the racket. Some kids are just like that, if you aren’t a parent you cannot know the struggle even if the child is NT.

Send me the address in my mail box and il report it. I’m honestly so shocked that you are not reporting this , despite what your mother says etc.

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Shame on your Mother.

100% this. Op, if anything happens to that child you will also be partly to blame. That poor child probably has no one to speak out on theor behalf, you and your mum have the chance to save them kids and instead you have chosen the easy route out

Safeguarding of children is everyone's responsibility. If you dont report it you are complicit.

You are just reporting what you have heard. You are not saying the kids should be taken away you are, quite rightly, expressing concern for their well being and putting it in the hands of people better qualified to make decisions.

The fact that you mother said "what are you getting out of it ?" is just appalling.

Maybe what you get out of it is that you get to sleep at night knowing that you did the right thing by those children.

I'd report it if a dog was treated that way let alone a child.

Honestly op go to the bathroom or your bedroom and get back on the phone.

A welfare check isn't out of place and it might get the family the help they need.

I agree with others. This is a 999 situation, not 101

I think a knock on the door from a police officer or social worker is needed to check everything is ok and to speak to the mum about her parenting and the welfare of her children.
This can be done by yourself, anonymously via nspcc / local council emergency duty team / social services or the police. They all work together for a multi agency approach and share information so please call one of them.
Also write down the dates / times you have heard or witnessed things to keep a record, this can be cross referenced with any injuries or reports from school etc.. this family might already be known to childrens services and your call could be vital.
let’s hope she doesn’t chuck the kids out over the next few days during the scorching hot weather and refuse to open the door! Doesn’t bare thinking about!

OP please see reason and call them back

You can report online if you can't phone

In the meantime these children are being abused. Call now.

You can log it via the website for your local force if phoning 101 or 999 is going to cause aggro with your Mum.

They do pick up the reports and will investigate.

You need to call 999.

I agree that you should call (should have called) 999. Your mum is ridiculous.

www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/reporting-abuse/report/
Link on reporting online

Grow a spine, stop fannying about. There are children here that desperately need help. Either pull your finger out or stop posting. You've had your answer, it's unanimous. FFS, call the police and SS.

Agree with this. Sounds like tempers were fraying and mum removed herself from the situation.

This is how I read it too. Some kids are just super challenging. Much better to put the child outside temporarily with older siblings while the mum calms down.

Call 999

I would struggle to not go around and look after the children to be honest - which would
not be helpful!

DEFINITELY call the police. Poor kids.