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To go to a restaurant with Covid

190 replies

User112 · 14/07/2022 16:06

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

OP posts:
QuestionableMouse · 14/07/2022 16:09

It'd be incredibly selfish to eat in a busy restaurant with Covid.

No wonder the numbers are rising again!

Heyisforhorses · 14/07/2022 16:10

Read your post "Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive" that'll be you and others saying similar next week. If you were saying keep booking and her not go, thats different and odd you go. She has Covid, she's not a child that doesn't understand, change the date.

NewIdeasToday · 14/07/2022 16:10

Completely unreasonable and terribly selfish!!

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/07/2022 16:11

Cancel it.

Discovereads · 14/07/2022 16:12

God don’t go. You’d be exposing restaurant workers and other customers some of whom could be CEV and trusting in your MIL to do the right thing and not on purpose be a Typhoid Mary.

BanjoVio · 14/07/2022 16:12

Oh for goodness sake. Obviously she can’t go to a busy restaurant and spread her virus around. Just reschedule, how hard is that??

Marymary987 · 14/07/2022 16:12

🤦🏼‍♀️ Yes it would be very unreasonable. The guidance is to stay away from people for at least 5 days. I tested positive on Saturday and have stayed home all week despite minimum symptoms because I don’t want to risk passing it to someone vulnerable.

Notthisnotthat · 14/07/2022 16:12

You as a family can do what you like in each other's houses. It's incredibly selfish to inflict covid on others who do not know that members of your party do have covid. Cancel the booking.

ZuliKyanLarsFoz · 14/07/2022 16:13

What if she (or any of you who test positive in the coming days) are sat near someone clinically vulnerable.... they could become seriously ill or even die because you can't postpone a meal. Seriously selfish to keep your reservation. If you need to celebrate on the day, have a picnic outside in her garden with a cake.

TheDogTravelsByHelicopter · 14/07/2022 16:14

All test on Saturday, MIL might be negative by then and it’s possible the rest of you might not have caught it. If anyone is positive, of course, they shouldn’t attend.

alphapie · 14/07/2022 16:14

Of course YABU

every day posts like this remind me that 50% of the population have below average intelligence...

TiredYorkshireMam · 14/07/2022 16:15

User112 · 14/07/2022 16:06

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

"NONE of us are positive"

...one of you are.....your MIL.

Don't go. It's selfish. You know it is.

Borgonzola · 14/07/2022 16:15

Sigh. I've put this on here before but it bears repeating.

I got covid about a month ago at 35 weeks pregnant. I had to cancel my babymoon, lost £500, and still have a sore throat and congestion. It's also made me short of breath and I'm a bit worried about my general energy levels and well-being for the birth (very sore throat + gas and air won't be fun).

I also felt like shit.

Technically the guidance is still that self isolation isn't compulsory, but please think about who you might infect and what the repercussions might be.

StrangeCondition · 14/07/2022 16:15

Can't believe you're even asking this question! No, you shouldn't still go FFS

LittleScottieDog · 14/07/2022 16:16

I think if workplaces, schools and other places are still saying positive people should stay home, then I think unfortunately she shouldn't be in a restaurant right now.

At work we had someone test positive and they've been off ever since (they developed a cough and flu-like symptoms after about 3 days and are now feeling rough). We have two people who shielded at the start (one for themselves, one for their CEV child) and, while I know shielding isn't a thing anymore, they are grateful the person both tested and has stayed off ever since.

I'm all for "living with it" but then that means that testing and enforced 5 days at home needs to stop and it's treated like the flu. At the moment, this is not what's happening.

Ontomatopea · 14/07/2022 16:16

As some one struggling with long covid I suggest no one has contact with MIL until she tests negative or the 5-10 days whatever it is know is up.

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alphapie · 14/07/2022 16:14

Of course YABU

every day posts like this remind me that 50% of the population have below average intelligence...

This.

Cornettoninja · 14/07/2022 16:19

I don’t really understand why anyone would test if they have no intention of doing anything proactive with that information.

QuestionableMouse · 14/07/2022 16:21

I caught Covid last September, most likely from work. Just starting to feel better now after suffering badly with Long Covid. I'm getting really pissed off with people being so fucking selfish.

JustDanceAddict · 14/07/2022 16:22

Test and if she’s negative and you all are, then go. I do know of people testing neg again within a few days.

Florelei · 14/07/2022 16:23

Would you be ok if I sat next to you in a restaurant with norovirus? Or monkey pox?

StinkyWizzleteets · 14/07/2022 16:24

Of course you should all go - be sure to catch it yourself first though! . We’re all going to die one day, might as well speed it up for a few people. Maybe also attended a gig or bingo, I hear that bingo is especially filled with older vulnerable people. You might even get an obe/mbe if you go tell the queen of your services to population control.

blandnessneveroffends · 14/07/2022 16:24

You know it’s selfish or you would’nt have asked…

Be a grown up and go out another time.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 14/07/2022 16:24

TheDogTravelsByHelicopter · 14/07/2022 16:14

All test on Saturday, MIL might be negative by then and it’s possible the rest of you might not have caught it. If anyone is positive, of course, they shouldn’t attend.

This. Don't go out and purposely spread it, stay home with a takeaway instead