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To go to a restaurant with Covid

190 replies

User112 · 14/07/2022 16:06

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

OP posts:
Raindancer411 · 14/07/2022 16:25

Change the date, it's unfortunate but it like be very selfish to go knowing. You don't know who else is there and it could be serious for them :(

calmlakes · 14/07/2022 16:25

Jeez, who would actually consider this type of behavior.

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:25

What the fuck is a babymoon?

Whitehorsegirl · 14/07/2022 16:25

Seriously, you have to ask?

Do you think it is fair for the staff and every member of your family to be put at risk?

There is a simple solution: postpone the meal to the following weekend when your MIL will likely be testing negative. She is not a child who needs to have a birthday dinner on a specific date.

The fact that she has no symptoms does not make her any less contagious.

I am not surprised we have rising rates of infection with the complete lack of common sense and basic respect for other people that is being displayed by so many...

JemimaPuddleducksWaddle · 14/07/2022 16:26

alphapie · 14/07/2022 16:14

Of course YABU

every day posts like this remind me that 50% of the population have below average intelligence...

Absolutely this

Nancydrawn · 14/07/2022 16:28

Don't be a dick. Cancel it.

QuizzlyBear · 14/07/2022 16:29

Obviously YABU. It's not about you!! Others can still be very badly affected by Covid, so spreading it just for a jolly? Massively selfish.

Lolliesareonme · 14/07/2022 16:32

it is your entire families choice if they want to carry on visiting. It is NOT the choice of the restaurant staff (who more than likely will not be paid if they have to take time off with THEIR covid symptoms if they catch it from any of you).

Totally fucking selfish.

Maybe ring the restaurant up and explain your predicament. See what they say!

I had to have my birthday plans cancelled last week because I was still testing positive. Am I bothered - No! I’m a grown, unselfish person who looks at the bigger picture.

AgathaX · 14/07/2022 16:32

Of course you shouldn't go. I can't believe you are asking. Don't be selfish.

GoadyToady · 14/07/2022 16:33

Not to mention, most places like Retail and Hospitality no longer pay staff Covid sick pay so you could financially impact the staff too.

gogohmm · 14/07/2022 16:34

Why not test Friday morning, if positive cancel. That said if she hasn't tested she wouldn't have known. Personally I'm not testing anymore unless I'm unwell (which I haven't been)

Davyjones · 14/07/2022 16:34

User112 · 14/07/2022 16:06

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

How can you ask that if you take this thing seriously? And the fact your testing suggests you do.

are you going to hero resting forever?

Awombaweh · 14/07/2022 16:35

So both your mil and you think it is fine. No consideration for the staff at the restaurant. Neither of you are very clever, are you.

Borgonzola · 14/07/2022 16:36

@KingBling Google is a thing. But it's a short way of saying 'final holiday with my partner where we can be away just the two of us before our lives are changed forever by having children and all future holidays will be very different and won't be about just the two of us anymore '.

hth.

alphapie · 14/07/2022 16:38

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:25

What the fuck is a babymoon?

Have you not used Google before?

It's been a 'thing' since the early 90's

AngeloMysterioso · 14/07/2022 16:39

Well I’ve said YANBU, simply because the restaurant could be chock full of people who also have covid but don’t know it because they are asymptomatic and not regularly testing.

Mercurial123 · 14/07/2022 16:40

OP stay at home and have a takeaway or change the date. The world doesn't revole around your family.

Maireas · 14/07/2022 16:40

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:25

What the fuck is a babymoon?

A holiday you go on when you're pregnant.

Maireas · 14/07/2022 16:41

Mercurial123 · 14/07/2022 16:40

OP stay at home and have a takeaway or change the date. The world doesn't revole around your family.

Absolutely. It's easy to change, it's hardly a difficult task. In

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 14/07/2022 16:41

What are the current rules around covid?

How can you not know where to look for guidance (other than MN) after all this time??

link

In summary, legally your MIL doesn't have to isolate but the guidance is clear. Read it.

If your family is happy to socialise with someone who has COVID, that is your choice. But do so in your own homes. Knowingly taking it into a public place is irresponsible and selfish.

Totheweekend · 14/07/2022 16:41

I reckon I caught Covid in a restaurant though who knows whether the person I caught it from knew they were positive. I then passed it to a couple of others, one of whom has a CEV condition, before I realised I had it and started isolating.
My bout was horrible - not at all a ‘bad cold’ and I anticipate I’ll be feeling the fatigue for a while.
These things happen as people are out and about not knowing they have it. But your MIL knows!!! It’s not a good idea!

PupInAPram · 14/07/2022 16:43

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:25

What the fuck is a babymoon?

I've never heard the word before but it took me about 5 seconds to figure it out. It's not exactly a cryptic crossword question 😂

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:43

Maireas · Today 16:40

A holiday you go on when you're pregnant

Thanks, I thought it was a made up word.

Carrotzen · 14/07/2022 16:44

Its not about rules its about common sense. Do not go to a restaurant if you are ill, whether that be flu, covid, stomach bug whatever.

If you are happy to take the risk go to someones house and order a takeaway, although personally I think its madness to purposefully make yourself ill, if not cancel and postpone. Its only a restaurant booking ffs, it can be moved

KingBling · 14/07/2022 16:44

I've never heard the word before but it took me about 5 seconds to figure it out. It's not exactly a cryptic crossword question 😂

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