To go to a restaurant with Covid

[User112]

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

I’ve just looked. You’re misrepresenting what that thread is saying. Those who are saying to go ahead are mostly saying to warn the guests. You can’t do that in a public restaurant.

@Thatboymum I saw that thread and just knew someone would draw false equivalences. The important factor here is choice. The bride can say 'we're going ahead, it's up to you whether to come'. The guests for this dinner aren't going to ring up the staff and other diners in advance and give them notice, are they?

Why? Because I'm right?
If you had a brain cell you wouldn't have even asked, you would have just postponed

I'd go, past caring now.

Consider others and consider yourselves (do you want to spend the first week of the school holidays feeling shit and not able to go anywhere?)

People are sitting in offices working with COVID, it's happening in mine.
How is it any different?

Going to work vs going to a restaurant are not comparable.

What are the current rules around covid?

Do you really need the government to tell you how to be a decent human being? Ffs.

My SIL is vulnerable and if I knew someone in public was out with covid and could make her ill, I’d be livid. Don’t be selfish, think of those who won’t easily get over covid not yourselves!

2.5 years in and people are still in a rush to prove they gave less sense than they were born with!

All of you shouting about how selfish it would be to go.

Are you aware that now self isolation has ended staff are being forced to work when they have covid as they won’t be paid otherwise? The restaurant staff or the chef making your food is just as likely to have covid.

My daughter did a shift at McDonalds today while she has covid, because she was threatened with her job for suggesting not going in. We are surrounded with it whether you like it or not and 1 person going for a meal on their birthday isn’t going to make a blind bit of difference!

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@User112 Hmmmm…Shame you didn’t marry into a family with an ounce of common sense. Hopefully your genes will be stronger.

I recently had Covid for 2nd time. Healthy but felt dreadful for a few days. Faint positive on Tuesday. Took pretty ill later that day. Strong positive on Wednesday. tested negative again on Sunday.

That absolutely should not be the case and it's not McDonald's policy to force people in while they have Covid. My business manager has been encouraging people to stay off with it even if they feel well before we work in close quarters and it'll spread quickly. I'd suggest that she contact people services and speak to them about it.

You can get a lovely meal to-go from many restaurants. The birthday celebration can continue without exposing anyone outside the family.

1 person makes every bit of difference. It only takes 1 person to spread to 10 other people, and so on. I’m sorry your daughter works for a crappy company but that doesn’t mean you should accept their treatment of her as the norm and encourage others to carry on spreading without a care in the world.

I see that most people on here have done a pretty good job of shooting this idea down, but I see the odd ignorant person thrown in, and seeing as you’re showing this thread to your husband, I figure the more sane voices the better.

The people at the restaurant do not consent to your MIL bringing covid to them. You do not know the circumstances of the people at the restaurant, and any of them could be vulnerable. I have two elderly grandparents, in their 80’s, who are extremely vulnerable. They hardly leave the house these days, but if they decided one day to go to a nice restaurant and enjoy a little bit of freedom, I would expect fellow customers to have the common decency not to have willingly exposed them to covid just so they could have a little party. Like someone else said, your MIL is not a child. She can surely understand the word “no” and accept that other arrangements will have to be made. The same goes for your SIL.

And 50% of them are stupider.

My clinically vulnerable friend died from covid, she was in her mid thirties, she had just survived cancer.

I am low contact, I can’t cut her off completely because I’ve just given birth to her granddaughter and that wouldn’t be fair on DP. She is your typical overbearing and irritating MIL but fortunately lives 2.5 hours away and has only seen DD twice in 2 months. Incidentally they did covid tests before the first visit, but she still kissed the baby even though I said no, and didn’t even ask on the second visit.

That’s the reason I asked!
God! Some people are vile !

update: I have cancelled the reservation. It was at a fancy restaurant and I offered to pay for it all as a gift (MIL loves having large family dinners). I told inlaws I’m happy to pay for it another time at the same restaurant. If SIL insists on going, she can book and arrange.

I cannot control what other people do. I’m definitely not going. My kids won’t be going. DH - it’s up to him. He cannot stand up to his bully sister, so he might end up going. I have no time or energy to pick arguments with DH on this.

I think you did the right thing. I've just had covid, and although I'm generally in good health I felt quite unwell. I'm also self employed so lost 10 days pay. A double whammy!

Day positive 5 for me of this (I suspect) variant. Fairly young and healthy. It’s awful. It’s nothing like a mild cold. I’ve got flank pain, eye flashes, neuralgia, chest feels like I have smoked all of my life overnight.

If she feels well enough to go I wouldn't worry. Everyone had been vaccinated now anyway.

What difference does that make? I'm fully vaccinated and still caught Covid. I'm guessing from my boss who had all the symptoms but didn't test as he was going on holiday.