To go to a restaurant with Covid

[User112]

Mil has covid but zero symptoms. It’s her birthday on Saturday, AIBU to keep our reservation at a restaurant for a family meal? What are the current rules around covid? We have been at inlaws house, SILs kids are still there (she looks after them and their schools break early).

NONE of us are positive, incl FIL. Mil tested because she went out with someone who tested positive.

Massively selfish.
Very, very stupid.

Don’t be so selfish @User112 of course you cancel it. Assuming this is a real situation

Why are people still testing?

Also cases aren't on the rise - wave has peaked, it's dropping off as it does, and that overall pattern isn't going to look different whether one person's MIL goes out for their birthday or not.

@Scianel well I tested because

1. I'm in my third trimester
2. I'd never had covid before and thought 'oh no, is this it?'
3. I knew I was about to go on holiday, which would influence whether I was going to spend four hours on a train and then be entering shops and restaurants etc for a week
4. I am lucky enough to get tests from my partner's work so I have no excuse
5. I have a social conscience and felt it was the right thing to do

One post wonder.

Wind up.

Surely this is a wind up

Id be NC with the horrible woman after that.

"I'm sorry, but I won't have any contact with you. The last time I did, I caught a disease"

Thanks all. SIL was pushing us all to go, because it’s apparently “unfair” for mum to not have a celebration. DH thinks it’s ok! Im sending this thread to him.

whatever I say, regardless of it’s merits, gets pushed back when it comes to his family. He needs to hear it from others.

@Scianel MIL tested because she socialised with someone who tested positive.

Let him go, but make him aware, he'll be staying there for a few days after until he's clear of their pox.

I think the fact you have had to ask this question shows you know deep down it’s not the right thing to do.

I personally would Cancel the dinner and rearrange for another suitable date

We had to cancel our weekend away last weekend, and we were going to see Bryan Adams as DH’s Christmas present, because I had Covid. I got it from DH, we think he got it from work.

It’s wiped me out. I had 3 days in bed. I still can’t have a conversation without coughing my guts up and can’t go a full day without a lie down. It’s great that your MIL is having an easy time of it, but the person she passes it on to might not be so lucky.

@TashieWoo but they never knew they would get it ?
Currently many of us are in contact with someone who has covid its rife and we don't all have to isolate for being a contact and it would be impossible
I can understand judging then for going out maybe but if the people with knew
But they could of come down with covid and not of been near anyone and passed on
Also may of picked up earlier as to get it and pass on in a couple days semms quite quick

Plenty of people would go. Lots of settings have positive people at work as it is. Lots of people telling you it was selfish would happily send their kids to school with sniffles bad throats or "tonsilitis' and would refuse to test as they claimed it was child abuse could not afford to miss work.

If you worked in that setting it was" it's low risk "and then you have had jabs so get on with it.

The government are dissuading people from testing and in some ages actively advising against testing at all.

If you feel "well enough" to go then do so seems to be consensus now.

Sorry to hear this, Borgonzola. You make me feel a bit better about sitting here glumly, with the last dregs of covid, while everyone else is out having fun in the sunshine. I'd be gutted if I passed it on to someone else.

Best wishes for a safe and easy birth, and healthy baby. xx

Please don’t. Just because your MIL doesn’t have symptoms doesn’t mean whoever she passes it on to will be so lucky. It just means postponing the celebration, not cancelling.

@Walkden thats the thing isn't it many on here will not be testing for every headache etc
Not all people become ill with covid so won't all know they have it
And I know of several people who have had to go in work covid positive, so the sil is not the only one around with this attititude in real life

Thanks, @ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus. It was a horrible decision to make, especially as my partner wasn't positive, but the thought of me coughing all over someone and then ruining their week/month/year or making them feel seriously ill just didn't sit right with me, so it was a no-brainer, really.

My dad is CV and has been for about 20 years so perhaps it just makes more sense to me.

Thankfully my baby seems to be fine, from what they can tell, and the silver lining is that my colostrum is absolute gold dust as it's packed with recent covid antibodies

@Scianel I have to test for my job, 2x a week. Unless you'd prefer I went into work with children who have cancer and give them Covid?

Are you an arsehole? Y/N

Please see above for the answer to your question.

I think not cancelling it is being quite selfish to MIL too.

Many people are quite poorly with this strain and it doesn’t always hit them straight away.
Your MIL shouldn’t feel she has to go because it’s ‘her thing’ when by Saturday she might not be feeling up to it.

Drop off some nice things for her and rearrange the meal for when she’s better.

Lots of us still testing for work.

OP I caught Covid from a public place last week and have been horribly ill all week (hospital included). I still can't get out of bed. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Please persuade your DH it would be wrong and selfish to go.

Can't believe people think this way.

Try asking the management , staff and customers of the restaurant what they think?

And get well soon @ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus !!!