To think this could be harmless sexting?

[Cherrycakepop]

I've been with my husband 6 years, married for 2. I've always been faithful, can't see that changing. But recently I've been sexting men. He knows about this as I told him out of guilt. But I'm worried about why I'm doing this. I know where to draw the line, but obviously I feel bad about doing it after I've got what I need from it. Please don't be mean.

He's not really into sexting or talking sexually. He gets shy and says he's more into actually doing it. But for me it's my main turn on. One child is SEN, the other is naughty but not diagnosed with anything but they imitate their older sibling and see the attention they get, so I think the main thing with that child is pushing boundaries. I think I deal well with it but then my relationship with my husband comes last and that's not great for us.

You already know that your husband is deeply hurt by what you have done, and yet you still continue to do it? That's not love. You've had the wake up call of being face to face with his reaction upon your confession and yet you STILL continue to betray him. That is really low.

Work on your life being less boring. Sext your husband. If you really can't stop you need to be in an open relationship or leave him, it's not fair.

I've stopped doing it.

It seems like you do it to escape the stress of your day to day life and to feel wanted again.
Its fun, feels exciting and you get a thrill from it. Trust me, I know exactly how you are feeling. Once it’s over with you do feel terrible for it all and there’s a guilt that’s hard to explain to others.
You know your husband doesn’t like it, you’ve been honest with him about it- as terrible as it sounds I think you should be proud of yourself for coming forward and being honest. How many other people out there would have just kept quiet and deleted everything.
You need to get some excitement back in your marriage. I know you said your husband won’t text you but why not start with date nights. Once a month, if you can arrange childcare. Take turns arranging a night out, come home and try spice things up. It might help lead to him texting you. He maybe doesn’t feel wanted either and this will give him a big confidence rock so now you need to help give him attention to work on your relationship.

it’s not up to you to convince people of this is real or not . Both men and women are capable of sexting others, it’s just more common to discuss men doing it in comparison to women.

Thank you for understanding. It would have been better all round if I'd kept my mouth shut. Then he'd not have known and not been hurt. But we have never had secrets before this and I wanted to know that he would still want and love me despite this because then it's not under false pretences.

So you don’t physically cheat because you ‘never get chance’ but you do it emotionally every day and think that’s ok because it gives you a thrill? Nice. Wake up, you are being unfaithful and your DH should leave.

The main reason I don't cheat physically is because I don't actually want to. I don't get chance to cheat but if I really wanted to I could fit it into my life somehow. And as I said earlier, I've stopped.

And what does your dear husband make of you using only fans?

Where did I say you were famous op? I certainly don't think you are.

You are being a dick…I hope he leaves you.

shocking behaviour.

if you needed that thrill you should have spoke with him about it first, he may have given you the ok or come up with an alternative, instead you’ve just done a Jada

This is definitely a troll post

Guess again. Women cheat too you know.

Of course it is.

Once again, that is NOT the issue with your posts.

Just the part where you thought the fact that because I'd been a model must mean I'm making it up. You have no idea about my life history or what I look like.

He doesn't mind. I make a bit of money from it. Showing my body isn't the issue, it's the secrecy he was hurt by.

Then what is the issue? Tell me.

This is the issue. I've already told you.

It's an anonymous forum. I was hoping for someone maybe who had done similar to give their view and also the replies that I've had to make me see sense. I don't want to lose my marriage. These posts have actually helped. Some have been too personal but I can cope with being called trash and scum. I've gone through a lot in life and come out the other side and I have a pretty thick skin.

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Can't believe I just posted that but I hate being called a liar.

If he's OK with OF and it's the secrecy that upset him, then I'm wondering if you have to stop at all, cant you just be open about it? Sexy chat is a pretty common thing from people doing OF and as you've said you have no desire for real life cheating.

Thanks. I think he's alright the only fans stuff because that's classed as work really for me and I'm not interacting with anyone on a personal level. The sexting is something separate and he's really not happy about it so I've stopped that.

Can I suggest going online and finding the sites with 'written porn' , rather than visual stuff. it may be you get a sexual buzz from the 'written words' - in front of you- much less harmful than what you are doing (which I personally would leave you for doing)