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Original poster

I'm getting married on Sunday

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:06

No reason for AIBU, just posting in a panic because it's supposed to be 34 degrees in London.

My make up is going to melt, I'm going to have a sweaty crotch, and my hair is going to be fucked.

If you've gotten married in stupid temperatures please post your tips to not be a sweaty slime goblin. Wedding is at 1, reception starting at 4, dinner at 5. Evening guests from 7.

Do I literally wipe and re-do my makeup at 6.30pm? I've asked the venue to provide ice ice cold water both still and sparking, and bringing iced bottles of water to ceremony for 2 young bridesmaids.

Im honestly tempted to bring a white cotton beach dress and change into that at 8pm. My wedding dress is lined lace 😂 which would have been fine in October 2020 when the wedding was originally planned for - note: wedding is now due to terminally unwell MiL so not really our choice to have a roasting july day.

Wtf England, you're usually 23 and drizzling on this date.

So to conclude I need advice on eyeliner melting, sweaty vag in lace dress, and to help children not faint in London on Sunday. FUCK.

Thank you.

[Title edited by MNHQ]

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:07

Ffs @mnhq can you correct my title 😄

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midairchallenger · 12/07/2022 21:10

I was concerned you were having some kind of torture-like surgical procedure, so sweaty makeup doesn't seem too bad by comparison.

Florelei · 12/07/2022 21:10

😂😂 can you buy one of those portable neck fans for your narrowing?!

congratulations!

Titsywoo · 12/07/2022 21:10

Is there air con in the venue?

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/07/2022 21:10

For the make up you want a decent primer and powder and a setting spray. What are you doing with your hair? If it’s long are you having it up off your neck?

Have someone keep your make up stuff to hand, plenty of water and a little fan.

It’ll be grand, I promise.

Spongeboob · 12/07/2022 21:11

Odaban, get it on Amazon!

Original poster
doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:11

Thanks @mnhq 😄

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picklemewalnuts · 12/07/2022 21:12

Be ready to let the dress code go, I think! Get the photos, then change.

Get some chiffon scarves in a suitable colour, and a basin of water. The scarves can be wrung out in the water, then used around your neck or as shawl- it's really cooling!

Experiment with the scarves this week, you'll see what I mean!

Maybe get some spray bottles to mist people with.

And maybe a cooling make up setting spray for you.

Can you get a mini fridge to plug in to keep your make up/water spray?

Spongeboob · 12/07/2022 21:12

Also urban decay all nighter setting spray

MassiveSalad22 · 12/07/2022 21:12

Ah you’ll probably not even notice tbh. Will you mainly be inside or is it an outside ceremony?

ApplesandBunions · 12/07/2022 21:13

Period pants to absorb the minge sweat?

travailtotravel · 12/07/2022 21:14

Do you have a bridesmaid who can help you fluff and faff. Washbag in the bathroom with flannel and a regular wipe over with a damp flannel will keep you fresh. Reapply deodorant. Setting spray for your hair and face - set it like a rock. You might have to chip it off at the end of the night but it won't budge through the day, honest. It's like face glue. I think I got my last set in body shop. Was more worried about being flammable!

midairchallenger · 12/07/2022 21:15

I actually quite like the idea of making the best of the situation and just getting changed into something lighter if you have a dress? Why not, it'll be part of your story in years to come and it'll make a nicer story than heatstroke or feeling uncomfortable!

My main concern would be protecting health - staying out of the sun, lots of water, making sure people are safe.

Mojitomogul · 12/07/2022 21:15

Hair up, cooling face spray to hand, defo a change of dress, underwear, flip flops too! Try to stay in the shade as much as poss and ask venue for lots of fans and Aircon if poss!

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:17

Titsywoo · 12/07/2022 21:10

Is there air con in the venue?

No there's no air conditioning, because I'm a silly person. We're in a field with tipi type tents all connected together. Hog roast and an open bar. They're providing big still and sparking water urns which is great.

So nobody would be dehydrated but I'm complaining that my makeup is going to look shit.

Honestly I'm usually a dungarees and maxi dress doc marten bird but I'd planned to wear make up this weekend and I'm such an oil slick it's going to slide off.

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StopFeckingFaffing · 12/07/2022 21:17

I would go light on make up as a heavy foundation will definitely start to slide in the heat

Hair off your neck

Assuming the venue has air con then stay inside as much as possible!

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:21

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/07/2022 21:10

For the make up you want a decent primer and powder and a setting spray. What are you doing with your hair? If it’s long are you having it up off your neck?

Have someone keep your make up stuff to hand, plenty of water and a little fan.

It’ll be grand, I promise.

This is the first exact advice I needed thank you!

I'm oily skin late 30s so usually just wear la roche posay 25 spf but that's melty on me in hot weather.

Maybe I should slog to a make up counter. You're probably right about primer! I assumed they'd make me more oily? I'm basically a 38yo oil slick face.

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:21

And thanks for the congratulations messages 😄

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doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:23

Spongeboob · 12/07/2022 21:12

Also urban decay all nighter setting spray

Is that better than Nyx? That makes me more slime😄

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UsernameFail · 12/07/2022 21:23

I got married on Sunday 9 years ago and it was the hottest a day of the year!!!

I won't lie - my hair didn't last and even in pics now it was fluffy (when it wasn't scraped back).

I recommend getting make up blotting paper to keep your make up sliding down your face - once it gets dark no one will notice or care.

Pack extra knickers. Change if you can or get someone help you redress after a cooling shower.

My fav pic is of my husband and his very proper family at the end of the night looking like sweaty rats (MIL still wearing a hat!). Everyone had an awesome time

BecauseICan22 · 12/07/2022 21:25

doggygogadog · 12/07/2022 21:07

Ffs @mnhq can you correct my title 😄

I read it as 'marrowed' - GrinGrin

A good primer, foundation, loose powder, setting spray are all your friends.

Personally I wouldn't wash and reapply but I would absolutely touch up and invest in blotting paper.

Have a beautiful day.

allthatglimmers · 12/07/2022 21:25

My makeup artist gave me spare blotting pads which might help with the sweat/oil situation? I got married in July and to be honest I genuinely didn’t notice our hot day so hopefully it’ll be the same for you!

whyohehy · 12/07/2022 21:26

I had a freak 30 degree day in October for my wedding. I have no idea why but I wasn't affected by the heat?? Maybe it was the adrenaline but it had zero impact on me. I'm a sweaty person normally and didn't sweat plus my make up didn't melt. Not helpful I know but you may be ok.

jevoudrais · 12/07/2022 21:28

Can you see if anyone can source portable air con units? The breeze would be nice even pointed at you for a bit.

Is there anywhere cool you can get photos done in the dress? Are you getting married in a church, could some be sone in there? Def sack off heavy dress and change post photos I think!

BecauseICan22 · 12/07/2022 21:28

Foundation: Huda (thick but high coverage so you don't need a lot)

Primer: Benefit

Loose power: Laura Mercier

Setting spray: Urban Decay

Prep and Prime (refreshes make-up) Mac

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