Grandparents cancelling babysitting

[Cara671244]

So me and dh were invited to a wedding back in February... wedding is in October. I asked my parents months ago if they would have dd for the wedding. They said yes. It's the whole day and night. So we returned the rsvp saying we would be attending.

Now my parents are after being invited to the evening part. They now want to go. My dd makes very strange with people and my parents are the only ones who have ever minded her.

I think it's unfair they want to cancel now but also realise they aren't obliged to mind dd either so who is being unreasonable here

On a side note op. you might want to work on the "strange with anyone" aspect.

You cannot solely rely on your parents to babysit forever.

YANBU. This happened to me years ago! I had to miss the evening reception of my best friend's wedding because my parents, who had agreed to babysit my 10 month old and 7 year old, decided to attend the reception themselves. They arrived, handed over the kids, and we had to take the boys home because it was well past their bedtime. I was miffed but at least I saw her get married.

Agree that you have time to find a new babysitter that your child can get to know before October .

Personally I wouldn't break the arrangement.My daughter would be furious...I just wouldn't. But I'm a lone grandparent so no one else to keep happy!

Your parents have given you 3 months notice at least. Plenty of time to find a sitter and ensure your daughter is comfortable and safe with them.

It's you that's BU.

She is your child. They have no ties so can go where they please.

You'll have to just go to the day celebration and be back in time for them going to the evening part of it.

My mum does this. She agrees to everything but then let’s us down. I think it’s out of order.

I would be angry if my parents did this to me. It’s your friend, not theirs.

Surely, if you got invited in Feb and your parents have just been invited, they aren’t even on the B list they are on the E, F or G list.
as an aside, I’d be annoyed but I’d get a different babysitter .

It's completely obvious by her posts.

Wrong. They already committed to the babysitting, so they do have a tie for that particular event. You can't just ditch the plans you made that other people are relying on, without being a dick.

My daughter was 3 when she was the flower girl at my friend's wedding, & DD was still giving it large on the dance floor at 1am! If your friend is amenable to having your daughter there, roll with it and let her stay up & enjoy herself! Plan a quiet day the following day, & ask your parents to watch her at the evening do. Everyone gets to have some fun!

I haven’t read all the posts so apologies if I’m covering old ground.
Firstly, I’ve been here and it really pee’s me off. FFS if you offer, you stick to it!!!!
what about your single mum friends babysitting in your house? Your parents can do the day and let them do the hand over. They’ll then see how much shit they’ve caused and have to stay or it might just work .. kids often behave differently when their parents aren’t around. Make it fun with the emphasise on a sleepover at your house not the other way round. My kids were a nightmare but my best mate handled my kids the best and it was probably the only time things didn’t kick off.
You could always explain to your parents that as you have already booked to stay at the hotel they could they return to your home at the end of the evening?

Good luck !

How many times does OP need to say she can't afford to do this...

If it's your childhood friend, I agree with the PP that you and DH drive to the wedding. Your parents have DD during the day and then bring her to the evening do.

DH then either drives back with DD when they arrive, or else see how long she can manage it - mine were up til 9pm/10pm at weddings at a similar age. Then he drives her home and you get a taxi home with your parents later on. Everyone gets to go, no fuss, plus DD might enjoy an hour or two of dancing

this.

What do you mean?

I think they’re being unreasonable if I’m honest. They made a promise and now they’re backing out. Unacceptable. They should have said no the first instance you asked them if they intended to be open about the possibility of an evening invite.

Would you all be staying in the hotel? If so, Could dd come too and you sit in the room with her for an hour each in the evening?

i Think the poster is Irish. This is exactly how my family talk. I’m sure you are intelligent enough to get the drift?

The poster is possibly Irish. This is how my family speak. I’m sure you are intelligent enough to get the content?

Why would people comment on a 13 page thread without even reading all the OP's posts?! What pearls of wisdom do you think you, and only you, will have to add to the 300+ posts?

After 2 years of covid, maybe the GPS haven't been out that much themselves, wouldn't it be lovely if all the adults could go and have a great time together with no bitterness involved

Unfuck yourself and hire a nanny for the evening.
Relying on people is crxx

Buy your freedom 🙂

I agree with @Fivefor - the OPs parents are selfish cunts. I would find it very difficult to forgive them for this - I wouldn't want to see them really.
Once you make a commitment to do something, you do it, barring a genuine emergency.

Fed up with how how wilfully obtuse so many posters are on this thread. I'm English and I fully understood what the OP said from the context. It was also glaringly obvious that the OP wanted a night out with her husband, not be stuck with her parents instead. I certainly wouldn't want to socialise with the people who fucked me over!

Also it would be nice if people rtft instead of making suggestions that the OP has said she cannot do!

Do you really think the op needs her parents to be called fucking cunts

You're very aggressive. You can't call people cunts and say they 'fucked her over' (they didnt).

PS on the rtft , its 13 pages. people have lives.