Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

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My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

Her friend does not work at the restaurant, and has no discount to give out. Her partner does.

staff discounts are for, er, staff. and lol at you thinking a QR code is untraceable 🙄

*Maybe her dh has asked her to stop giving out vouchers from his place of work Willy-nilly (if they are able to be given out to any randomer and there's no comeback surely this isn't a good way to do business?)
*maybe her dh's company have clamped down on it or there are now restrictions she has neglected to tell you about
*maybe she just forgot to offer it to you
*maybe she knows you always expect it and are a bit of a CF?

I used to work somewhere that had a company shop with huge discounts - this shop was meant for staff only but the amount of people who abused it was shocking (buying loads of stuff and then selling it on at a profit). This staff shop was quite well-known in my area and the amount of family/friends who used to pester me for discounted stuff was really annoying, with some people even producing lists of what they wanted me to buy - I would then have to lug all this stuff home on the bus and they often didn't give me the money upfront but would just say "let me know what I owe you"!
Eventually the company put a rule in place that you could only buy a certain amount of stuff each month which was a handy excuse to the CF's! Maybe something like that has happened?

*I know my situation was slightly different but this thread just made me remember it and I wanted a rant! 😂

Let me guess. You haven't worked in the department store for over 10 years but you want to remind her how you once saved her 200 off a sofa that is probably gone to the tip by now.

YABVU

It's not even her discount. She doesn't work there.

You're not making any sense.

And I've worked since I was 15.

Maybe she already has someone else using the voucher today?

Have you asked her if she can get you a voucher?

Sorry. I see my keyboard was not friendly and made 2 sentences into 1.

The fact that partner has a discount somewhere does not mean OP's friend can freely offer and give out discount as she fancies. It is not her discount to give. Completely different to a situation when OP was offering own discount in a shop. Or was asked for.

You just don't go and get pissy at someone not offering a discount that isn't theirs to offer

Businesses are struggling at the moment. They are probably clamping down on this. They might have even had to stop the staff discount.

When I have worked in shop's the staff discount was only for staff. It's a sacking offence to serve friends and family and give them your discount.

Some used to have friends and family vouchers, less than the staff discount but that's stopped now.

Maybe the partner who is actually staff, doesn't want to give his partner's friend and her friend's partner, a discount . Who can blame him, it's spreading the net a bit too wide.

There's a maximum amount of voucher's they can give out over a year. They might have used up they're allowance.

My sister got sacked for using someone else's card on her staff discount (even tho the item.was for her but or mum had offered to.pay for it) so you are being massively unreasonable

I think you shouldn't have used your staff discount for her purchases - the benefit was for staff and I think you unknowingly risked your job.

But I also think your friend is a cf in expecting you to pay full whack for her birthday meal but only takes you to the place she gets discount when it's her turn to pay. Maybe you need to pull back on the generosity a bit.

I also think that yabu to expect use of a voucher where your friend isn't with you. I think there probably are restrictions and checks that you don't know about - lots of businesses are reeling back in the perks in order to cut costs.

Of course they know the QR code is her partner! Just like your NHS Covid passport is a QR code. They are unique. He could get the sack.

Another one saying YABU. I used to work in a shop and discount was for me and me alone. I could buy gifts for people with it but even at 16 I knew I wasn’t allowed to use it for other people.

My friends store also has family & friends discount so she uses it with family & friends.

Maybe the rules have changed at her partners place of work. You shouldn’t be assuming you’ll get the discount.

YABU and a CF

Seems like you don’t understand how QR codes work… they’ll definitely by linked to an employee

I worked in a supermarket many years ago.

we got a 10% discount for our own personal shopping. I know of at least three people who were sacked for using it for their mates. It’s stealing.

rules around these things are often very tight - not sure why you are rolling your eyes?

Just ask her. Maybe they are going out that night, maybe she has given it to someone else, or maybe she feels you were fishing an on that basis hasnt offered. Tbh if it was me and someone asked I'd have no problem, but if they were fishing and they caught me in the wrong moment I'd not offer just on that basis. You cant judge her for not offering something you haven't asked for in the first place.

OP didn't say they won't know the QR was issued to her partner. Why do people keep saying this? Op says he downloads it from a portal so obviously she knows the QR is issued to him.

She said that her friend gives the QR codes to her sisters and parents, so obviously the restaurant chain is not checking that their employee and his partner are the only ones using the vouchers.

oh Shirley, how would we get our fun then?

Yes - I agree

@Meraas In an earlier post the OP literally says 'the vouchers have no name, just a QR code' - ignoring the fact that the name is likely accessible via the QR code.

I'd imagine a business that pays attention could easily catch someone out apparently using their staff discount at one property while they are on shift at another.

Perhaps someone else has been given the code for that occasion.

But that doesn't mean she thinks the chain won't know the QR was issued to their employee. It just means that in any restaurant this chain has, they won't be able to see who the QR was issued to when looking at the voucher.

Everyone seems to be ignoring that the OP's friend's sister and parents have been able to use the codes with no issues.

There has almost certainly been a policy change, or her work has changed the system somehow to tighten up and prevent people giving away or selling the vouchers. Who knows, maybe they've started giving out warnings when people are obviously misusing them.

You're not much of a friend if you won't give her the benefit of the doubt.