Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

[sofaslofas]

My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

Rather than presuming she will offer, why not ask if she can get you one ?

YANBU that’s what friends do for each other.
All these people that are saying “but should you be giving your code and should she be giving her code” obviously don’t know what proper friends are.

I would literally just message her back and ask for the discount and if she gets all prickly about it just say about the discount you allowed her to have for all them years. Sometimes if you don’t ask you don’t get and there may be a perfectly reasonable excuse to why she never offered it on the first place.

I really don't think you can expect people to gift you such discounts as other than very occasionally. And I agree that likely the company has changed Ts&Cs for staff use of vouchers (which likely puts friends out of the picture now).

YES, IT'S NOT HERS TO OFFERfor the ones just reading OP now and not bothering with the rest

They could have tightened the rules about staff sharing vouchers, but you should have asked instead of just expecting her to offer.

But anyway chain restaurants usually have freely available discount vouchers if you google so there's no need to pay full price in the week anyway.

Or you could have gone to an independent, which is usually better food and cheaper even when 'discounts' are taken into account, because let's face it, no-one ever pays full price in chains, do they?

In this day and age, you actually think that? If it's digitised it can be tracked and cross-referenced.

Skipping to the end here so haven't read all the comments... but can't you just ask her if she could get the discount for you?

This….. sorry!

I guessed miller and carter too.

@sofaslofas Maybe her partner has been caught giving discounts and has got into trouble because you are not family. Would you really like knowing that he could potentially lose his job by theft just so you can have a discount off your meal.

Maybe she just didn't think about it. You could have asked in a light-hearted way. She never made you serve her, you chose to as you chose to apply your discount - you were being a kind and generous friend. Did she ask you to? If so, then why could you not ask her?

Expecting, hoping and hinting are not pleasant for anyone. Just ask if you could possibly have a voucher, and if for some reason the answer is "no" then hopefully you will get to know why. It may be that since covid there are different restrictions, with so many struggling businesses.

Why ask for opinions if you are not going to listen?
She is awful, end your friendship now & send her a bill for money she has saved from your kindness, thoughtfulness and generosity in providing historic discounts and never, ever offer these again....I think that is the type of reply you are hoping for.
I actually think YABVU!
You should have checked before you booked if she would provide a code. If not then choose whether or not you wish to go to said restaurant. You sound entitled, and maybe that is why she did not offer this time.

Used to know someone who worked in a theatre who was always being asked for free tickets to plays, and she did used to get them for her family and friends.

One day, her manager told her when she asked for tickets for her mum; 'If you worked in GAP would your mum just expect to walk in take a jumper and walk out?'

Maybe they've clamped down on discounts?

Blimey. All these 30% discounts being used indiscriminately! No wonder some businesses struggle, to echo what pp said about Debenhams.
You do sound somewhat grasping.
If you can't afford a meal out, just don't go.

Can you just ask her outright if she can get you one?? She's your best friend!

It would have been in the store I worked in! You were allowed to extend the discount to a spouse (not a non married partner!) and no one else. It was gross misconduct in our place, as I believe it is in most retail and hospitality workplaces.

Unless it is her company yabu.

Family and friends are always looking for discounts in DP's store it drops his commission to zero, uses his time due to the text messages requests etc prior to the sale, he has to explain to HO why he gave his staff discount.

Policies are changing within companies.

Can you just ask her outright if she can get you one?? She's your best friend!
Yes of course.

I think it’s a bit unreasonable to expect anything off anyone to be honest. Just because you gave her discount every time she shopped in a store you worked at (which I’m pretty convinced wouldn’t be welcomed by management) you can’t expect her to do the same. How do you know her other half wasn’t using one of the vouchers already that day or had given one to one of his friends? It’s also a bit wrong to assume that they can’t get in trouble because it’s just a QR code. Am sure company has ways of monitoring who use them that you may not be aware of and they may have tightened the rules recently. Be grateful for what you are given and don’t assume because you’ve been given something in the past it’s forthcoming whenever you want it.

You sound immensely entitled.

Either ask her politely and directly or stop whinging. You don’t have a right to have the discount and processes may have changed.

YANBU, she's being petty, it wouldn't have hurt her to ask her DP for the voucher code 🙄

I see MN is on form for weird, contrary for the sake of it opinions tonight. Of course she should have given you a discount. You helped her out, quid pro quo 🤷🏻‍♀️

I want to press YABU. You really keep a tally of what discounts you got for your “best friend” and what discounts she got for you - just be grateful for the friendship and stop counting the ££££. Tbh if you had to ask this question of mumsnet you’re not really a friend worth having.