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Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

386 replies

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:14

My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

OP posts:
GirlOfTudor · 07/07/2022 17:33

In every retail/hospitality job I've had, the discount was for myself or possibly my partner. Not to hand out to friends willy nilly. Yes we risked it sometimes by offering it to friends or old colleagues but it wasn't really allowed.

PresdidentOfTheOldFogiesUnion · 07/07/2022 17:47

OP, you're a CF for expecting her to give you a discount that she doesn't qualify for as a result of working there herself.

Even if she did, you couldn't just expect her to give you a discount.

NewYorkPleasecake · 07/07/2022 17:48

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/07/2022 13:22

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off

I suspect if you’d been found out doing this it would have been a disciplinary offence.

When I worked in a department store (and other retailers), it was a strict rule that we were not allowed to serve friends or family.

I'm surprised you were allowed to serve her, let alone offer her a 30% discount each time

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/07/2022 18:12

Why didn’t you ask your friend @sofaslofas for a voucher

£60pp for a starter main and 2 drinks is a little ouch but if you like it there …..

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/07/2022 18:17

Happyplace88 · 07/07/2022 13:23

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Why the eye roll?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/07/2022 18:22

stuntbubbles · 07/07/2022 13:31

@worriedatthistime I’m thinking Loch Fyne, Browns, Cote, that type of thing vs Pizza Express.

Well, the advertisement I have immediately u see the OP is this!!

Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?
Rosebuud · 07/07/2022 18:25

I also don’t know why you didn’t just ask her and why yoire so pissed if she normally does it. Either she was preoccupied and didn’t think of it, or she’s already given vouchers for that night to someone else, or the rules have changed.

but here you are whinging.

stayathomer · 07/07/2022 18:25

If my dh comes into the shop I work in I don’t even have staff give him a discount (if manager is there and says it I do). Yab beyond unreasonable and just because you do something doesn’t mean you should expect it back. Can’t believe how many people take advantage off staff discounts- do you not realise they come out of someone’s pocket?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/07/2022 18:26

ShirleyPhallus · 07/07/2022 13:48

So many things on mumsnet would be solved if people just talked to each other

Though in this case, seeing the tenor and tone of the messages, I suspect nothing much would be solved if she spoke with her ‘friend’

Snaketime · 07/07/2022 18:29

YABU and a bit grabby imo. It is likely that it is a staff and family discount not a friends and family discount.

Heyisforhorses · 07/07/2022 18:32

Firstly she is not your best friend if you are talking about her like this. She doesn't give you a code for your birthday, she gets the code and brings you out for your birthday, that's 2 totally different things! QR codes can be connected to individual employee accounts btw.

If you were bringing her out for bday, what's stopping you asking her for a code and go to a connected restaurant and you pay?

You could have said no to the discount when you worked in department store btw.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/07/2022 18:36

Meraas · 07/07/2022 14:41

@XenoBitch

WHat have I misunderstood?
OP's friend does not work at the restaurant. It is not her discount to give out. She uses it on OPs birthday, when she is at the meal too.
OP is wanting to use a discount for when her friend is not there.

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My point is that when it's the friend's birthday, she doesn't want to eat it in the restaurant where she gets a discount, and yet when it's OP's birthday (and the friend is paying), then she does want to eat there.

That is sly and grabby behaviour.

I can see why OP is annoyed by that.

… but that wasn’t what she was posting about

Brighteyedtriangle · 07/07/2022 18:37

Sorry yabu, its not her discount to give out.

GoldenSongbird · 07/07/2022 18:37

You sound a bit moany. You're not happy she gets money off your birthday meal. You're not happy when she doesn't offer you a voucher. You sound as though you booked the restaurant with an expectation she'd give you a voucher - that's cheeky. You don't even know if she's already used the voucher for that day. You should just have asked. She asked to use your discount.

ladydimitrescu · 07/07/2022 18:38

She doesn't even work there - her partner does!! Get a grip ffs!

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/07/2022 18:40

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 07/07/2022 14:44

Depends on the company. I worked for Debenhams, they didn't seem to care or have any rules. Anything bought on your employee store card got the discount.

Got offered a job in a different large store, you could only buy for yourself, and they monitored what size clothes you bought to make sure you were only buying for yourself. If you wanted to buy for someone else you needed to request permission.

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No wonder Debenhams went bust 😉

Tryingtokeepgoing · 07/07/2022 18:45

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:17

Well her partner gives them out to her to use whenever she does anywhere.
They can use 1 every 24 hours

I imagine the staff benefit is meant for staff and their household and immediate friends. Not friends of family members. Your offered your staff discount to your friend, which is fine. But your friend isn’t the recipient of the restaurant discount, her partner is so was unable to reciprocate. So unless you are also friends with her partner, I can see why it wasn’t offered. And certainly in many sectors abuse of staff discounts can lead to disciplinary action or even dismissal. So I think you might being a little entitled/unreasonable…

Lovemusic33 · 07/07/2022 18:48

YABU

i have many friends who get discounts through there jobs (retail, hospitality), I don’t expect them to give me their discount code/cards. Only one of them has ever offered.

BoJoGoGo · 07/07/2022 19:04

Get a Tastecard.

CallOnMe · 07/07/2022 19:22

OP, you're a CF for expecting her to give you a discount that she doesn't qualify for as a result of working there herself.

Even if she did, you couldn't just expect her to give you a discount.

I agree!

You are definitely the CF here!

Chances are someone else is already using the discount voucher the same day as you but even if they wasn’t it doesn’t mean you’re entitled to use it.

You chose to eat there. You can’t now be annoyed because you can’t afford it.

BellaVida101 · 08/07/2022 17:39

But she’s his spouse. Lots of perks can be extended to your immediate family but not your friends.

LittleMissMe99 · 08/07/2022 17:46

You sound very entitled. It's a staff discount for staff. You aren't entitled to one at all

Blueink · 08/07/2022 18:04

Maybe they had used a voucher code or intended to within the 24 hours. From what you said you told her quite last minute announcement and you didn’t directly discuss whether a voucher code could be made available. Do agree it’s a bit different to when you were giving her discounts as it’s her partner’s perk, not hers. Regarding birthday dinners, can you both take it in turns to pay at the same place and use the voucher code? Otherwise you could request she take you somewhere else.

Ddot · 08/07/2022 18:04

Bet if you could still get her clothing discounts she wouldnt be so tight

EltonsSpareGlasses · 08/07/2022 18:07

Depends on the company. I worked for Debenhams, they didn't seem to care or have any rules. Anything bought on your employee store card got the discount.

Clue is your card. i know of someone who did get into trouble at Debenhams for allowing everyone to use their card.