To want my partner to learn how to drive

[EllieRosesMammy]

Just that really. We have two children, another on the way. I drive, my partner doesn't. Meaning that to go anywhere everyone relies on me. I want my partner to be able to drive too so we could split the driving, especially when we go on days out because its exhausting.

He keeps saying he will learn to drive but it never happens. I've got a feeling he's really nervous about it (gave him a go of driving my car round a carpark and dear god it was awful). But everyone learning to drive is nervous surely! If he didn't spend his teen years wasting his money then maybe he would of learned to drive at 17 like the rest of us 🤦‍♀️

Oh for 2 hours. Makes more sense then. Hope you pass your test soon!

My ex-husband didn't get his license until I was heavily pregnant with our second child. With our first we were still living with his parents and they drove me to the hospital. I convinced him to get his license because we had moved over 2 hours away from his parents, and I was questioning how we were going to get to the hospital. I wasn't going to drive myself! He was very accident prone and wrecked his vehicle at least three times in the first year. He got it eventually, but it was scary going for a bit.

Tbh, I don't think I could be with someone who doesn't have their driver's license. (unless they have some sort of medical reason not to)

I just feel like it comes across as fairly immature to depend on other people to go anywhere and it's a pretty major inconvenience for friends and family having to drive them places numerous times per week. and that's not even with kids factored into the equation 🥲

This is a Mumsnet classic response. Pops up every time. Is it really so hard to imagine that there are people who don’t rely on lifts from friends and family? We manage just fine without driving and without lifts.
Spend some time properly looking into climate change, urban planning, transport infrastructure, air quality, public health, obesity etc and then maybe reconsider whether it’s the people who choose not to drive who are the ones being immature.

Yes funny how drivers on here always assume non drivers are trying to cadge lifts here there and everywhere every day of the week. There’s a backlash on too many cars happening at the moment, especially in America which has been ruined by its car centric mentality in many states. I’m much happier I don’t drive anymore and I never ever feel entitled to cadge free lifts off people.

Of course there is but you have to be sensible and not choose to live in the middle of nowhere. Living in a big town or city with good rail and bus links is completely doable. On the odd occasion you may need a car then thankfully someone invented the taxi. Obviously lifestyle and common sense will dictate how practical it is to not drive.

I never ask for lifts. I always tell people I will get an Uber from the nearest station. Sometimes a friend or family member will OFFER a lift, and I may accept, but I would always offer to pay them for their trouble. I never demand or expect it.