I'm in my 30s. I bought my first house in a small town in Ireland six months ago. My neighbours next door are two men. A man in his forties and a man in his late sixties. Maybe father and son. These are my only neighbours.
We have never spoke to each other. I don't really like them as they blast loud music a lot.
Last week, I went on holiday to Spain.
Last night, I got two missed calls from the estate agent, (a man in his 60s), who sold me the house. He called me twice on WhatsApp at 10pm. Then he sent me a message saying "call me". I have never spoken to this estate agent since he sold me the house, so I was worried that something was wrong.
I called him back this morning.
He said "your neighbours are very very worried about you. They havent seen you in a few days, and the newspapers are building up outside your door.".
My neighbours don't have my telephone number. It turns out that the estate agent is friends with them. They knew he would have my number. So they rang him and got him to ring me.
Aibu to think that this is totally OTT And uncomfortable? I have only been away for five days. It's the summer, everybody is going away on holidays.
I know from looking at these neighbours that they are not people that would be concerned about me. They are the type of people who are nosy, and would just want to know what I am is doing. It just feels so OTT to me. Surely I should be able to go away on holidays and not get phone calls from them. And surely the estate agent shouldn't be ringing me latw at night.
I just felt really stressed about it yesterday. I wanted privacy in a house. And to be able to come and go when I want
AIBU?
Nosy neighbour
Mooshamoo · 06/07/2022 16:54
Am I being unreasonable?
470 votes. Final results.
POLLFlux1 · 06/07/2022 17:32
Considering the very recent tragic case in rural Ireland where an elderly couple were found dead in their home after a long time and neighbours were blamed for not raising their concerns, I think it is very decent of your neighbours to check up on your welfare. Maybe if you get to know them a little you could benefit from a nice neighbourly relationship.
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Mooshamoo · 06/07/2022 17:12
@Mummyratbag right just imagine that you are an elderly man and you have young woman living next door to you.
She goes away for a few days. You get the local estate agent to ring her while she is on holiday, to find out where she is.
Does it sound right then?
To me, it is nosy, intrusive and controlling.
I know they are just doing it out of nosiness.
It definitely made me feel uncomfortable
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