Nosy neighbour

[Mooshamoo]

I'm in my 30s. I bought my first house in a small town in Ireland six months ago. My neighbours next door are two men. A man in his forties and a man in his late sixties. Maybe father and son. These are my only neighbours.

We have never spoke to each other. I don't really like them as they blast loud music a lot.

Last week, I went on holiday to Spain.

Last night, I got two missed calls from the estate agent, (a man in his 60s), who sold me the house. He called me twice on WhatsApp at 10pm. Then he sent me a message saying "call me". I have never spoken to this estate agent since he sold me the house, so I was worried that something was wrong.

I called him back this morning.

He said "your neighbours are very very worried about you. They havent seen you in a few days, and the newspapers are building up outside your door.".

My neighbours don't have my telephone number. It turns out that the estate agent is friends with them. They knew he would have my number. So they rang him and got him to ring me.

Aibu to think that this is totally OTT And uncomfortable? I have only been away for five days. It's the summer, everybody is going away on holidays.

I know from looking at these neighbours that they are not people that would be concerned about me. They are the type of people who are nosy, and would just want to know what I am is doing. It just feels so OTT to me. Surely I should be able to go away on holidays and not get phone calls from them. And surely the estate agent shouldn't be ringing me latw at night.

I just felt really stressed about it yesterday. I wanted privacy in a house. And to be able to come and go when I want

We don’t tell our neighbours we are going away but we smile and nod hello and take on parcels for one another,
one year I was sat on a plane ready for takeoff and got a tap on the shoulder it was only our neighbour sat on the row behind small world!

Having read this an your almost identical second post I think you think an awful lot of yourself

Completely disagree.

I think the OP has every right to quiet enjoyment of her home without being bothered by two men with time on the their hands.

She owes them nothing.

She doesn't like the sound of them, is listening to her gut and wants to avoid them.

She does not owe them anything.

The holiday call would have bugged the shit out of me.

The staring in the garden is worse.

I hope you have got yourself a couples of video bells OP.

Popping into your local police station if you are feeling intimidated might be a good idea.

I couldn't agree more with this. We don't owe anyone anything and not everyone wants this kind of neighbourly relationship. I get on well with my neighbours but I would still not want to be in this woman's position it sounds quite scary when living alone also.

Hi OP
I don't understand the aggression behind some of these responses. Very odd.

As I've recently moved next door to an elderly widower, with his nearby son in and out all the time, I know exactly what you mean.
(At risk of hijacking the thread - I'm being spied on from morning to night by the father every time I leave and every time I come home. I go in my garage he watches what I'm doing. I go in my garden he watches from the 1st floor bedroom window.
I put up a new fence on my garden boundary - got criticised by the son for doing so; I secured the gate with a padlock and now the son keeps cutting back the hedge between our properties so he can see what garden work I'm doing - or does he actually trespass in the garden while I'm out?
It's really weird. Are they thinking of stealing my stuff?
I am keeping sane by knowing that I only plan to live there a couple of years.
But today I left for a few days and the son saw me leave. I was so anxious about not knowing what they would be doing while I'm away that I went to the police en route to the train and I'm talking to a neighbourhood police-officer about it all tomorrow.)

At the root of this is a controlling and totally selfish power-game which sounds a lot like your situation. I don't know if it's jealousy for being 'women of property', a need to dominate due to a lack of any real power in their lives, or just ignorant /inconsiderate people who don't know how to behave.

So you have to do what is right for you if you wish to move.
And I agree with you - I'd rather have no interraction with people who just happen to live near the homes we choose to buy.
I'm sure like me you have plenty of real friends who add to your life rather than these meaningless exchanges that suck up our time and energy.

The OP hasn't replied since JULY. Why are you resurrecting this thread?

Errr - why are you commenting on a thread that's been 'resurrected'?
Just jog on.

Make your own post might get some replies.

Christ, talk about an overreaction.