What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

No matter how lovely you can be to people, they won't necessarily be the same back.

I truly despise the trope that people were stupid or mislead purely because they have differing political views. It’s lazy and predictable and does not contribute anything other than negativity. Perhaps both of you should do some soul searching and find the root of your snobbery.

That people actually put themselves out to be nasty to others. Even of they don't know them.

That people who are in a good position will put people down who are not.

Sometimes you have to let your children learn through their own life mistakes. You can't always save them.

Adults can be bully's just like children.

Never fully trust anyone.

People are often only loyal to their need of you.

No but there is a job centre

That most of the things I have worried about haven't happened, and I have survived the ones that did better than expected.

Also that however bad I feel about something, I just have to wait. I bob back up really quickly and in a surprisingly short time I will be feeling fine.

Thatall the Tupac memes are correct 🤖

I'm 61, I've seen a lot already, thanks - no need for the patronising 'advice'. And I'm not at all trusting. And of course I speak for myself, who else am I going to speak for?

That the most charming people are often the most narcissistic and the nastiest liars. And they never get their comeuppance like they do in books and films.

That it's true that high school never ends. Bitches (of both sexes) and bullies at school are often the same bitches and bullies all through life.

That being 'nice' is viewed with cynicism and is often seen as a weakness.

And that just because they're old friends doesn't mean they'll always be friends.

Germaine Greer once wrote that women have no idea how much men hate them

I wouldn’t say that’s true for all men. But I’d say it’s true for probably 10-20% of men which is scary enough, especially as that includes many men in positions of power.

Meaning what? That disabled people just need to rock and up and will be found a job?

There are no words for how mind bogglingly stupid and false that concept is.

Actions speak louder than words.

I never believe it till I see it.

Most people are nice. It is only a small minority who tip the balance

nice to your face; I think ultimately we are all selfish though.

yes!

Agree with lots of these: especially if you want something to happen, you need to make it happen yourself.

Moaning about minor things is therapeutic but don't go on too long. No one really cares that much.

Don't blame others or things for your mistakes or failures. It's just an excuse not to address your actions in the situation

Most 'conversations' are people waiting for their turn to speak…

That bad people don't always get the karma they deserve. Like the bully's in school can end up with a very pleasant life despite the horrible things they may have done.

Change isn't necessarily progress...

That there is no meaning to life and absolutely nothing happens for a reason. We are a species like all others - our purpose is to breed for no real purpose other than to ensure our continuation as a species. Other than that life is just one random chance after another until we die.

People are the same throughout the world and there is more that makes us alike than makes us different. Under our clothing, customs, beliefs, homes or lack of, we all want and need pretty much the same things.

Forgiving and forgetting isn’t always the best thing to do. It’s ok not to and sometimes entirely right that we shouldn’t be expected to.

The only guarantee in your life is death at the end of it.

Covid taught be that all the adults that claimed to care very deeply about my children who were paid in their professional roles to say that. Didn’t give a shiny shit in reality.

Oh, and that karma doesn't exist. Good or bad.

That if you work hard you will be rewarded. Not in my experience

Very true, in my case before 18 was good, lots of respite, but once they become adult, its. Your on your own now. Unless they are very severe, they are your own to deal with, unless you have family support.

I have also learned that any job you do and are respected for in your healthy years, count for nothing once you’re old and impaired. NEVER dedicate your life to your career.

Wow, your bitterness is telling. I was only offering some food for thought. And regardless, who are you to assume my age?