What advice would you give your mid 40s self?

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Following on from the mid-20s thread, I wonder advice people would give their mid-40s self?

Wear sunscreen. Oh and look after your knees. You’ll miss them when they are gone

😜

Never too late to prioritise. How do you want your life to be. Pension. Etc.

Yes - certainly give your pension lots of attention. And think about how you see the pre-retirement years. Where to live, what to do, plan for the future. It's easy to get caught up in the now.

Chill out. Take naps. Don’t try to be a perfect parent.

Not QUITE there yet nearly but undoubtedly it would be, GET A FUCKING PENSION YOU HALF WIT.

Get your eyes lasered

Stop talking about losing weight and actually do it!

Here for the replies!

Never met an ophthalmic surgeon who’s had their eyes lasered.

Take the job.

long back story. But I didn’t. It was a mistake.

Look after your health, you will miss it when it’s gone. My mum lived by “life is short, have another cake”, became diabetic and I lost her when she was 60. Life is so god damn fragile, we need to look after ourselves in every aspect or it’s game over. I pay every single day for her choices. 😢

Hold on. It gets better

Make time for your husband/wife/partner.

Effort, fun, keep the fires stoked.

I’m 48 so right in the thick of it. Be prepared for being the “sandwich generation,” I.e. both teenagers and elderly parents needing you. It seems to have suddenly happened to me and my friends. Five years ago, our parents were managing well, all of a sudden, they’re not.

It’s bloomin’ exhausting! Oh, and think about your pre-retirement/retirement years when you’ve got the energy. 🤣

Don't date (name withheld) he's a CL and it will cost you 000's to get rid of him! 😤

Spend less on meaningless crap that you don't really need and put it your pension.😇

And look after your teeth! 😁

I like 46 as an age

so I guess hold on to the good things and watch out for idiots glued to their phones

That's good advice at any age! 😂

Actually i forgot something important

If you've mastered resting bitch face - remember to put it on!

I finally mastered it but forget that bit sometimes!

Loose any extra pounds now.

Overpay on your mortgage as much as you can.

Only say yes to the things you want to do.

• Look after the skin on your neck as well as your face
• Get aware of peri-menopause symptoms and get HRT when you think you might be going mad

Stop biting your nails, it looks ridiculous on someone middle aged.

It's not too late to retrain. At 43 I inherited a sum of money which could have enabled me to retrain for a profession that I would have enjoyed and I think been good at. But I felt as if I was too old to change tracks and used the money to pay down my mortgage instead. With hindsight, I can see I that by the age of 50 I would have been earning about twice as much, with potential for a lucrative private practice in the lead-up to retirement.

Oh, and if you don't do it already, start yoga. In your 60s you'll be so pleased you did.

The benefits of sunscreen have been proven by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own, meandering, experience

:-).

Love it.

That boy? He'll still be around twenty years later. Get on with it.

Do not get married again.

Don't regret your failed relationships, dont feel guilty about splurging on that designer handbag. If you've still got it, flirt and take sexual opportunities and have fun before your all dried up like a bag of bones.