What advice would you give your mid 40s self?

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Following on from the mid-20s thread, I wonder advice people would give their mid-40s self?

Tell your husband you love him every day, he'll be dead soon.

Just ltb.

Butteries are not your friend. Even if you are eating on the hoof.

Two stone will soon be five if you don’t stop feeding your invisibility fat cloak.

And mind that pelvic floor because the menopause will seem to leave it as taut as a 40 year old trampoline.

Your neck will go like a turkey’s overnight if you aren’t canny.

Stop being everything to everyone. Take the job. Take up the offer of the date with one of the loveliest men you will ever know. He won’t be single for long.

Pension pot needs feeding.

Don't let that woman near your eyebrows next year. No- one will be channelling Clara Bow in the next decade or beyond. She could style it out. You won’t.

Be prepared to fight to use the word woman if you see it disappearing (Although I would have raised an eyebrow at this and thought my future self was off her chomp)

Thanks, I really appreciate this at this moment (not sarcastic).

Don't get the mesh to repair your bladder prolapse.
Lose any excess weight now.

It will never be as easy again to lose weight and get fit, so don‘t put it off.

Alcohol is doing nothing for you.

Ooh loving this thread

Don't stop at the shop after work on that particular evening. Just go straight home. That way, you won't encounter the arsehole driving on the wrong side of the road and none of the subsequent crap will happen.

Loving this thread. I’m 42 this year and it’s making me think ok I need to lose the weight now and start thinking about my health. Although I’m having issue with it already. I’m also already peri menopausal and on HRT. Just suddenly seems like it’s all down hill.

I would say enjoy life more.

Fulfill your career potential by further studying. Stay single, never give up your financial independence

Interview your parents to get their life stories recorded.

When they die, you'll realise you have no recordings of their voices and that you have so many unanswered questions.

Put the donut down.

enjoying this a lot!

Appreciate your mum. Give her another hug. You'll miss her when she's gone x

1. Don't move overseas permanently, look for something closer to home and what you both originally wanted.
2. Study for a new career.
3. Be serious about planning the retirement finances and years.
4. Nip the wine drinking in the bud.
5. Tell the Parents not to move, again, and not to follow you.
6. Recognise you have a short attention span and get some help.
7. Don't try day trading in shares.
8. Plan for the day the DC are no longer at home, but you are.
9. Start a new hobby.

I eat donuts, don't bother with face cream on my neck....I will reform myself oh wise ones! Brilliant thread.

Place marking with interest

Don't get the implants
Don't marry him

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

Can you explain the turkey neck of not canny?

I don't want one but have no idea what you mean!!! Tell me how to avoid this!!!!

You are not too old to make the change you think you are too old to make.

In ten years time, you'll be looking back asking "Why didn't I just do it?" because you could have.
You can still do it at 50, but it will be harder than at 40.

Still here? Well done, give yourself a pat on the back. Its been hard.

I had zero lines on my neck.

I woke up one day (or that is how it seemed) and I had crepey skin on my neck. If I hold my head at a certain angle, I have a wattle.

I stopped moisturising at my chin. I didn’t care for my neck at all. I am not sure if it would have made a huge difference but I wish I’d done something 33trees 😳 🦃

number 3

I'm 39 and watching with interest!

Oh my god ... this is me!

Thank you @FriendlyPineapple

I’m 43…going to stop reading this thread, it’s depressing me 😂