What advice would you give your mid 40s self?

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Following on from the mid-20s thread, I wonder advice people would give their mid-40s self?

Have faith duty

It ain’t all bad! 😊

You can ,lose a shit ton of weight but he (DH) still isn't going to want to have sex with you.

Peri menopuase is shit. But it will end.

@expat101 can I ask more about 6. Recognise you have a short attention span? Thanks

Never moan when your parents 'just drop in'. One day they won't be there - and you'd give your right arm to see them walking down your path.
You look hot in your 40s. You know what colours and clothes suit you and how to look good. So - enjoy the age you are and stop stressing about 'fine lines'.

Pretty much it really and something I discovered about myself in recent times, then popped up an article of ADHD underdisgnosed in women in our local paper and its me all over.

I wished I had realised this much sooner and explains so much in hindsight. :)

If you can afford it, spend money and time on yourself. Join a nice gym (pool, spa, sauna, etc.) and go regularly. It is great for your physical and mental health. And get a bike. If you’re travelling less that about 3k each way the bike should be the default mode of transport.

What hobbies have people started?

Fab thread!

do more fun shit - don’t just talk about doing it!

Be aware of peri-menopause symptoms, and push your GP for HRT when they start (I lost 8 years to very ill health not knowing what was going on).

Make time for you as well as everyone else.

Lose that weight and get fit NOW. Your life will be so much better when you can do stuff you couldn't before (see also HRT comment).

Dump the toxic relationship and be captain of your own ship. Your kids are off to Uni and life is yours for the taking.

You will need to choose between your ass or your face

Oh I think totally the opposite! I've got much nicer as I've got older - actively paying strangers compliments etc - and I'm so happy about it.

We are all going through varying degrees of shit and I'm really thinking about that when I deal with people these days.

No need for resting bitch face at all.

Pension review.
And get fit now, and maintain it. No point trying to get fit and lose the belly when menopause hits.

Get fit now before you hit old age
look after your teeth
Prioritise your energy levels, you can’t pour from an empty jug
Good friends will keep you laughing and feeling supported
Look after your assets - it’s too late to start again
Rock solid financial support plan for your old age

Book the second week on Lake Garda with Mum.

Great thread!

This thread is amazing.

I listened to 'Wear Sunscreen' again after starting it. I was 17 in '99. There's a song thar deserves another go round in the charts. I absolutely did not appreciate the magnificence at 17.

40 next month and watching with interest.

I need to pay attention to Number 4!

And I was considering getting into Number 7...🤔

I’m 42 this month and always had lovely skin.

My turkey neck just appeared overnight in the last six months and I’m absolutely fucking livid.

Get fit - go to bootcamps, go running. Make time for your own health.

Do the work you really want to do.

Read up on peri menopause. I'd never even heard of it until I was so deep in it, bloated and doped up on anti depressants when what I needed was HRT!

You are so young.

Your life has turned to 100% shit, but it'll be unbelievably better in the end. The next couple of years will be a lot easier if you don't start smoking again and do get counselling.

Spend every minute you can with your parents as it won't be long. For God's sake, go to your Mums Christmas Day as you're going to be tortured by the guilt.

Sunscreen and moisturiser every day otherwise you end up looking like a half-dried apple.

Take up parachuting properly while you are still just young enough. You loved it and you were good at it!

Don't let the weight creep on. 3 pounds a year doesn't seem like much at the time, but after 10 years, fuck me.

This is a fanastic thread I've just turned 42 so many of these things are relevant!

Im telling myself now read all these posts and act on them!

I see what you did there @ChorltonWheelie