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AIBU?

6 year old dd wants to dye her hair!

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Sometimeswinning · 02/07/2022 23:30

So, she's asked several times to do it. Any recommendations as to what to use on her blonde/brown hair colour?

Any reasons I shouldn't do it? If it's an I judge reason I'm not bothered, more checking in if it's not worth it because it won't last/make a difference etc.

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KosherDill · 02/07/2022 23:33

The answer is simple: No, you can dye your hair when you are grown up.

I wouldn't want toxic chemicals on my child's hair or scalp, I can tell you that. And frankly it's unsuitable. Children don't get to decide things like that for themselves; parents are supposed to be mature enough to guard against it.

What next: Mummy I want an IUD at age 10? Mummy I want a glass of wine at age 8?

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Notanotherwindow · 02/07/2022 23:34

Oh let her, its summer holidays. Just use the chalk or that kiddy stuff that washes out in a couple of washes, obviously, not real adult hair dye.

I did my nieces rainbow coloured with glitter for her birthday party. She loved it and it did no harm. I just used the spray in stuff from Claires accessories.

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Aria999 · 02/07/2022 23:35

What color does she want to dye it? There's an approx 8 year old at our Kung fu class with purple hair and she looks awesome.

You can get ones that wash out in a week, or fun color sprays, which might be an alternative to something more adult.

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Benby · 02/07/2022 23:35

Hi Artic fox do one its a coloured conditioner you could try that maybe

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Sometimeswinning · 02/07/2022 23:39

@KosherDill always someone on aibu I guess!

I'll bite. My 6 year old can ask. I won't say no until I've explored different ideas. I will not be highlighting her hair. I want to know if there is an appropriate way she can change the colour of her hair for the summer .

I'm not buying hair dye of the shelf 😂Sorry I realise I should have said this in my op!

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Savingpeoplehuntingthings · 02/07/2022 23:43

Get something like Manic Panic dye, it's temporary , lasts around six weeks and is a vegetable dye. It's really bright colours, they take best on lighter hair.

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Sometimeswinning · 02/07/2022 23:50

@Savingpeoplehuntingthings I'll show her the pics tomorrow. She wanted her ears pierced which I said no to so this was the compromise. I'll see what she says to this as I think it looks lush!

@Notanotherwindow I agree! She's asking with no influence so I assume its something she wants!

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Ncwinc · 02/07/2022 23:55

If you’re worried about it not washing out, you could always dip dye just the ends like this. At the end of August a quick chop at the hairdressers and all traces of the colour will be gone.

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Ncwinc · 02/07/2022 23:57

I meant to add a picture there!

6 year old dd wants to dye her hair!
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Sometimeswinning · 02/07/2022 23:58

Ncwinc · 02/07/2022 23:55

If you’re worried about it not washing out, you could always dip dye just the ends like this. At the end of August a quick chop at the hairdressers and all traces of the colour will be gone.

This is my main worry. She'll hate it and I can't fix it. I hadn't even thought of this. Thankyou!

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Cocolapew · 02/07/2022 23:59

Blue and green are notorious for not washing out, not sure if thats only on bleached hair though.
Superdrug do spray in hair colour, its like the 80s all over again 😄

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Sometimeswinning · 03/07/2022 00:00

Ncwinc · 02/07/2022 23:57

I meant to add a picture there!

I think I may do this for the holidays! My hair isn't as nice as this otherwise I'd go into work like it.

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doyouwantachuffedybadge · 03/07/2022 00:04

No. Is there something wrong with the colour of her natural hair? No of course there isn't.

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justasoul · 03/07/2022 00:08

Just a word of warning if you go the manic panic route, some of them don’t come off easy, I had mine dyed purple and didn’t not come off, I had it removed at the hairdresser - I know it depends on hair condition, but some colours definitely come off easier than others

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pastypirate · 03/07/2022 00:16

KosherDill · 02/07/2022 23:33

The answer is simple: No, you can dye your hair when you are grown up.

I wouldn't want toxic chemicals on my child's hair or scalp, I can tell you that. And frankly it's unsuitable. Children don't get to decide things like that for themselves; parents are supposed to be mature enough to guard against it.

What next: Mummy I want an IUD at age 10? Mummy I want a glass of wine at age 8?

You sound loads of fun.

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pastypirate · 03/07/2022 00:16

doyouwantachuffedybadge · 03/07/2022 00:04

No. Is there something wrong with the colour of her natural hair? No of course there isn't.

How is this related?

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Sometimeswinning · 03/07/2022 00:17

doyouwantachuffedybadge · 03/07/2022 00:04

No. Is there something wrong with the colour of her natural hair? No of course there isn't.

No!! It's beautiful. She has lots of different colours. Brown, blonde, red, copper. But it's her hair and she's asked.

I'm after temporary. Short lasting. I know there are options so I'm not going in with how dare you ask. I'm checking in for her and actually have a plan thanks to like minded people.

I'll be honest I was looking for ideas. I'm not going to say no because others will judge. I'm good with that (as covered in my op)So your opinion v my daughters lovely request isn't really relevant. It's your issue. (Work on that maybe)

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pastypirate · 03/07/2022 00:18

We dyed dd2 dark brown hair with red wash out dye. She's 9. It wasn't too full on and it's faded gradually. Dd1 we dyed with the same and she must have much more porous hair (strawberry blonde) because it's barely shifted since Easter!!

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MuddlingThroughLifeLittleByLittle · 03/07/2022 00:24

What about hair chalks? Or similar. So can be washed and different colors as and when.
Have you checked with school she'll be allowed with dyed hair.

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DockOTheBay · 03/07/2022 02:11

I wouldn't dye a 6 year old hair, but what about a temporary measure like coloured hair spray that washes our easily.

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FrostyFruit · 03/07/2022 02:26

I use manic panic on my 8 year olds hair. It only lasts about 2-3 weeks but he has very very thick dark blonde hair. Manic panic is a direct dye and won't damage her hair at all. It can stain and be hard to wash out but that's mostly in porous bleached hair or very light blonde hair. Don't listen to anyone telling you not to do it, it's not going to harm her! Let her express herself.
If you want it to wash out faster you can use a clarifying shampoo or a dandruff shampoo then use a hair mask and good quality conditioner as these shampoos can be a bit drying.

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ouch321 · 03/07/2022 02:50

Seems a bit on the young side, I don't think I was even aware of hair dye at that age, but wouldn't bother me.

Whatever colour she chooses will grow out or if you do a semi perm colour it will wash out.

And as for it being 'toxic' if it were the product wouldn't be allowed to be on sale.

Some people, such as myself, aren't blessed with naturally pretty hair. Mine is a horrid dark blonde colour and it just drains what little colour there is in my skin so I change it.

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DiscoBadgers · 03/07/2022 02:57

Pink manic panic is a safe bet. The blues, greens, purples tend to stain somewhat

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mathanxiety · 03/07/2022 03:43

I think it would look really summery and cool.

Dip dyeing as a PP suggested would be an ideal way to get some colour without committing to a full head of blue, and would be easy to get back into school shape afterwards just by cutting off a few inches.

Washing the hair in cold/cool water will preserve the colour longer.

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merrymelodies · 03/07/2022 04:09

No need to compromise. A simple no is all that's needed.

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